faire-jour, there ARE mainstream oral deaf formal programs!!!Then she should know how profoundly different an oral deaf education is than a mainstream education. Just because someone uses the same language does not make the strategies, emphasis, and techniques the same. If it was the same there would be no such thing as a oral teacher of the deaf and there would be no need for their degrees.
Mainstream formal programs aren't just limited to TC!
The parents are of the school of theory that thinks that private ALWAYS trumps public education.
AND the fact of the matter is that oralism has HUGE HUGE limitations.
Sure we don't have the first grade/kindergarten kids who can only say a handful of words any more. I'll give the oral programs that.....at least they are more willing to say " maybe your kid might be better served in an ASL program" to kids whose speech abilty isn't too good. BUT the thing that's driving oralism is that it assumes that ALL kids who are oral are going to end up like the AG Bell overacheivers. Not quite. Yes, things have changed in that kids are no longer SEVERELY or profoundly delayed....but they still have a ton of delays and issues......
Oh and you keep protesting that this is an oral kid and doesn't belong in an ASL program. There is NO reason why an oral kid cannot learn ASL!