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I am interested in your thoughts on this issue. It is nice to get as many different perspectives rather than a few of them.
I basically have forgotten what the whole topic was. Seems to me it was regarding a parent of a deaf child, wanting that child to go to a specific private school that does not fall within the contract guidelines of that school district and therefore the parents are responsible for paying and they are refusing and expecting the school to do it. If I am right---
My opinion is that the child should be in a school that will best suit the child's needs and not the parents wishes. The child would benefit from learning ASL and may benefit from speech. Not all children with a severe to profound hearing loss can acquire speech. Yes, a lot do, but there are still quite a few who don't and no parent should force their child to learn speech. If that child is showing signs of learning speech, then, by all means expand on that learning, but if the child does not show any signs of learning it, even after speech therapy for 1-2 years, then stop forcing the child. They will only begin to hate it more and more.
Yes, there is a lot of bullying and stress in public school for hearing students, but nowhere near the amount that a hoh or deaf student has to endure. I can't say (obviously) about a residential school since I wasn't able to go to one. I only know what I went through and most of the school kids were terrible. A few of the teachers were not much better. It was a school janitor who threw my hearing aid away in the garbage. "I though it was parts to a transistor radio." I was constantly belittled and made fun of. All of the kids knew my brothers helped me and therefore, I had to deal with that ridicule from the classmates as well. I have had garbage cans dumped on me by kids thinking that would make my brain work. I have had school books ripped up, since I was obviously retarded in their eyes. These were kids who knew me outside of school and were considered to be good friends. They went to church with me and on all of the youth trips the church took. Needless to say, I stopped going on the youth trips and gave up the Junior Choir.
I survived and am a pretty well adjusted person. I am thankful for my family and the support I got from them. Do I think it might have been better for me to go to a deaf school, yes - I do, but then, I might not have the same husband or my kids, so that makes it a hard thought process.
I do realize speech is better obtained during the child's first 3-5 years or something like that. It's just that if a child has such a severe hearing loss, speech isn't always 100% obtainable. I know that's where some people will support a CI. Maybe the child is not a candidate for a CI. I know I would not have been if it were available to me.
Okay - I've gone on too long and rambled quite a bit. That's just my 2 cents for whatever it's worth.