Out of Control Kids: Ur Reaction?

Yeah...good luck with that approach.
 
Babyface said:
works better then most peoples approach apparently
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Just curious... do you have kids?? Special needs kids in particular???

People are too quick to judge a situation. not every child who is 'misbehaving' in public is lacking adequate parenting...

I used to think along the lines... MY child will NEVER act like that in public... well what do you know-- it wasn't my decision!!! My baby was born who he is and that means my child has 'problems' that cause him to break down at times, out of nowhere-- screaming, as he has no other way to express what he's feeling at this time, and until I can decipher what is bothering him he will continue to scream... and sometimes it would be totally counter productive for me to just 'tell him to shut up' or 'sit him down' (especially that b/c typically his melt downs indicate he needs to MOVE).

You only see a small part of their life when you see someone out in public... until you know the whole story--- probably best not to say something, unless you're willing to risk pissing off the wrong parent. Especially one who is already stressed because they are trying to figure out why their child is unhappy or upset...
 
Adamsmomma said:
Yep... that is the type of person I'm waiting on to tell me what to do w/my son... not knowing the circumstances of his issues~~ :D:D (can you see the sarcasm?)
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Yep...especially if they dont have kids themselves. My old roommate used to do that...drove me nuts.
 
Adamsmomma said:
Just curious... do you have kids?? Special needs kids in particular???

People are too quick to judge a situation. not every child who is 'misbehaving' in public is lacking adequate parenting...

I used to think along the lines... MY child will NEVER act like that in public... well what do you know-- it wasn't my decision!!! My baby was born who he is and that means my child has 'problems' that cause him to break down at times, out of nowhere-- screaming, as he has no other way to express what he's feeling at this time, and until I can decipher what is bothering him he will continue to scream... and sometimes it would be totally counter productive for me to just 'tell him to shut up' or 'sit him down' (especially that b/c typically his melt downs indicate he needs to MOVE).

You only see a small part of their life when you see someone out in public... until you know the whole story--- probably best not to say something, unless you're willing to risk pissing off the wrong parent. Especially one who is already stressed because they are trying to figure out why their child is unhappy or upset...
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:gpost:

My son doesnt have any special needs ..just language delayed and he is big for his age. He looks like he is 5 although he is 3 but his language level is that of a 2 year old so he throws tantrums like a 2 year old would and people would give me dirty looks thinking I couldnt control a 5 year old. Oh well..cant win!
 
jillio said:
Since you don't have any children, what would you know about it, exactly?
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This brings me to my very first point a long time ago, I just cannot fathom telling another parent what to do with their own child.

I don't even have children & cannot imagine lecturing other parents. I have done this with my oldest sister and was put back in my place. Since that happened, I've made sure I respect my boundaries.
 
Adamsmomma said:
Just curious... do you have kids?? Special needs kids in particular???

People are too quick to judge a situation. not every child who is 'misbehaving' in public is lacking adequate parenting...

I used to think along the lines... MY child will NEVER act like that in public... well what do you know-- it wasn't my decision!!! My baby was born who he is and that means my child has 'problems' that cause him to break down at times, out of nowhere-- screaming, as he has no other way to express what he's feeling at this time, and until I can decipher what is bothering him he will continue to scream... and sometimes it would be totally counter productive for me to just 'tell him to shut up' or 'sit him down' (especially that b/c typically his melt downs indicate he needs to MOVE).

You only see a small part of their life when you see someone out in public... until you know the whole story--- probably best not to say something, unless you're willing to risk pissing off the wrong parent. Especially one who is already stressed because they are trying to figure out why their child is unhappy or upset...
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:gpost:!! well said!! ;)

I've seen many times where people would say "I would never let my child act that way in public" or "What is wrong with them?!"

Those people are so quick to judge others parenting skills when they don't even have children of their own or are they standing in their shoes?
 
Banjo said:
Gee. That's a good way to get a broken nose and a black eye.
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I understand the other points and I realize that this approach likely wouldn't work in reality. In conclusion, I don't recommend it.
 
jillio said:
Since you don't have any children, what would you know about it, exactly?
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because I was a kid and have other siblings and a big immediate family not one of em ever acted up, because of good parenting, most the times when a child acts up it is the direct result of parenting so dont blame the kid blame the so called "parent" who thinks the problem will just go away if they ignore it
 
Babyface said:
because I was a kid and have other siblings and a big immediate family not one of em ever acted up, because of good parenting, most the times when a child acts up it is the direct result of parenting so dont blame the kid blame the so called "parent" who thinks the problem will just go away if they ignore it
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I'd say you do a pretty good job of acting up around here given some of your posts.:cool2: Maybe your parents ignored a few problems they should have been addressing. :shrug:
 
jillio said:
I'd say you do a pretty good job of acting up around here given some of your posts.:cool2: Maybe your parents ignored a few problems they should have been addressing. :shrug:
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so now your saying my parents are unfit? thats a low blow jill, when one expresses his or her opinion then thats all it is an opinion you dont see me attacking you, yet since you dont agree with my post you attack me I could say the same about yours but I dont
 
Babyface said:
so now your saying my parents are unfit? thats a low blow jill, when one expresses his or her opinion then thats all it is an opinion you dont see me attacking you, yet since you dont agree with my post you attack me I could say the same about yours but I dont
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You are directly attacking the parenting practices of people you know absolutely nothing about, and are judging the parents as being good or bad based on nothing more than a complete lack of information regarding the situation. If you choose to be judgemental against others, then you can expect to get the same in return.
 
jillio said:
You are directly attacking the parenting practices of people you know absolutely nothing about, and are judging the parents as being good or bad based on nothing more than a complete lack of information regarding the situation. If you choose to be judgemental against others, then you can expect to get the same in return.
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im not being judgemental im calling it as I see it
 
Babyface said:
its not the same thing lol judgemental and seeing the facts are not the same thing rofl!
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And therein lies the problem. You obviously don't know the difference between having facts, and simply passing judgement without fact.
 
Babyface said:
because I was a kid and have other siblings and a big immediate family not one of em ever acted up, because of good parenting, most the times when a child acts up it is the direct result of parenting so dont blame the kid blame the so called "parent" who thinks the problem will just go away if they ignore it
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In case that you didn't know....

Doctors would recommend parents to ignore their toddlers who are in their stage of "terrible twos", not to give in to their temper tantrums that's when they become increasingly negative. When parents gives in or responds to their temper tantrums, the child will most likely turns into a spoil monster and the attention tends to make the tantrum last longer. It's very important that parents remain cool, and to never bribe a child to behave because a child will think it's a reward and will continue with their tantrums to keep getting rewards, because simply you gave in and respond to their temper tantrums. The more you ignore, the child will stop on his/her own.
 
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