My daughter is being bullied! Help!
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If your daughter been bullied on the bus or at school, Report it, Don't let it fly off your shoulders, because my parents used to tell me, just ignored them, It didn't work. I don't follow my parents footsteps with my children, I stand up for my children if they were bullied in school. I'll make sure the school and the bus driver take care of the problem, If not, I'll still bug them until the problem is solved. 
I don't talk to the parents who's kid is a bully, because sometimes some parents blow it off like it's no big deal. But, they don't realized that being bullied can hurt someone's feelings and their self-esteem. If my boys were a bully, I'll put a stop to it, I would not let my boys push anyone around, and they don't because I teach them to respect others the same way you want to be respected.
I don't talk to the parents who's kid is a bully, because sometimes some parents blow it off like it's no big deal. But, they don't realized that being bullied can hurt someone's feelings and their self-esteem. If my boys were a bully, I'll put a stop to it, I would not let my boys push anyone around, and they don't because I teach them to respect others the same way you want to be respected.
Y said:
But you're missing the point here, if Rebelgirl decide to invite the bully's mom over for a cup of tea or coffee, and yet she can't say anything about her children being a bully to her daugther, once she becomes friends with the mom, and the children start to be nice to Rebelgirl's daugther, but it doesn't end there, those children will go to the next victims, and now my question is would you think that would be fair? The mother has the right to know that her children are bully her daugther, so the mother can put an end to this if she cares enough to end it, but if she doesn't see her own children as being a bully, then it won't end until someone stop it.....
So the problem isn't giong to solved those kids from picking on others if they end up being nice to Rebel girl's daugther and how would Rebel girl feel when she finds out those girls pick on another child? she's going to feel more guilty as a mother for not doing something about in the beginning.....
If I was a mother and if I found out my children bully other kids I will end it and make sure it doesnt happen to another child but some parents out there don't want to believe that their children bully other kids, or maybe they're one themselves who knows....
The bottom line you want to end this from happening to someone else not just your own child....
Yeah ... you all bring up good points... I still would have to say that Rebelgirl needs to worry about her daughter first and let the anothers worry about their kids.
Rebelgirl needs to put her daughter #1
Let the another people worry about their own kids you know? At least that bully will be off Rebelgirl's back for good.
Rebelgirl needs to put her daughter #1
Let the another people worry about their own kids you know? At least that bully will be off Rebelgirl's back for good.
Heath said:
I'm sorry but I have to disagree, you see IF I just worry about my own children and not the others, then I'm going to feel really bad about it, so intead of trying to get across the bully's mom, I let the school and the transperation to take care of the problem, the more the school is aware of the problem the more they will keep an eye on these children who intend to bully other kids...And that will make you feel good as a parent knowing you are not just protecting your own child but other children as well....
Today there's alot of bullies going around at school, the more we ignore the problem the more children is going to end up getting their feelings hurt or maybe worse.....
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^Angel^ you are correct on that one. I am reading and will post more... This has impact on me. I have been there. All I can say, REMEMBER COLUMBAINE!!!
I understand your pain, including ^Angel^. I know what your kids would want from you. I have been there and NEVER recieved the help I needed. Damage is done. Will explain what damage is done later on. Anyway, back to kids, GIVE them AMPLE support and LISTEN!!! Do NOT ever ignore them, or tell them to knock it off. It would NOT work! COMMUNICATE them as much as you can, and show them your effort to solve the problem. This can mean change school, and things like that. Give your kids as much support, they can become stronger and WILL respect you. School MUST do something TOO! Bullying, to me is one of most damaging to child's self esteem, and can become permanent damaged.
Now back to my own issue. I HATE school! And I hate my parents for doing NOTHING! Not even one support so far! I was NEVER good at school, all because of bullying issues! Today, still having trouble at college, even there is no bullies there! Why school? Well, they still blamed me for everything, I was like black sheep, always in wrong place, wrong time, and wrong reason and I get blamed. about 80% of time that I was blamed for troublemaking is not me! Yet school did NOTHING about it. Secondly, when I wanted to get into something new, like hobbies, etc. That was supposed to be boy scout, and electronics. I know I can be good @ electronics, however what I hate the most is that my school, at first offered me this, then I got excited, and guess what? They turned back on me!!! That FUCKIN school! Sorry, I had to say that because I am STILL angry at that school for playing games with my mind, and feelings. This including blaming me for causing somebody to bully on me. So many times, I feel want to blow up that school! I was so serious, and when I heard about Columbaine, I UNDERSTOOD that two teenager feelings! Mind you, I do NOT blame these two boys! They were though HELLISH, and I blame on Columbaine HS, parents, and everybody around who REFUSED to pay attention and DO something about this! Bully should by law NOT to be tolerated! PERIOD.
I had struggling at RIT/NTID. Its really hard on me still, and yes the damage is permanent. I wish that deaf school would never mess my mind. Sorry :madfuck: at school, named W.P.S.D.! (Hey alumni members, do not confront me! Damage is done! And if your one of my old bullies, GET LOST!)
Now that I have shared some of my traumatic experiences at WPSD, I do want to break that cycle, the best I can say, LISTEN to your own child, and DO something instead of dust it off.
I understand your pain, including ^Angel^. I know what your kids would want from you. I have been there and NEVER recieved the help I needed. Damage is done. Will explain what damage is done later on. Anyway, back to kids, GIVE them AMPLE support and LISTEN!!! Do NOT ever ignore them, or tell them to knock it off. It would NOT work! COMMUNICATE them as much as you can, and show them your effort to solve the problem. This can mean change school, and things like that. Give your kids as much support, they can become stronger and WILL respect you. School MUST do something TOO! Bullying, to me is one of most damaging to child's self esteem, and can become permanent damaged.
Now back to my own issue. I HATE school! And I hate my parents for doing NOTHING! Not even one support so far! I was NEVER good at school, all because of bullying issues! Today, still having trouble at college, even there is no bullies there! Why school? Well, they still blamed me for everything, I was like black sheep, always in wrong place, wrong time, and wrong reason and I get blamed. about 80% of time that I was blamed for troublemaking is not me! Yet school did NOTHING about it. Secondly, when I wanted to get into something new, like hobbies, etc. That was supposed to be boy scout, and electronics. I know I can be good @ electronics, however what I hate the most is that my school, at first offered me this, then I got excited, and guess what? They turned back on me!!! That FUCKIN school! Sorry, I had to say that because I am STILL angry at that school for playing games with my mind, and feelings. This including blaming me for causing somebody to bully on me. So many times, I feel want to blow up that school! I was so serious, and when I heard about Columbaine, I UNDERSTOOD that two teenager feelings! Mind you, I do NOT blame these two boys! They were though HELLISH, and I blame on Columbaine HS, parents, and everybody around who REFUSED to pay attention and DO something about this! Bully should by law NOT to be tolerated! PERIOD.
I had struggling at RIT/NTID. Its really hard on me still, and yes the damage is permanent. I wish that deaf school would never mess my mind. Sorry :madfuck: at school, named W.P.S.D.! (Hey alumni members, do not confront me! Damage is done! And if your one of my old bullies, GET LOST!)
Now that I have shared some of my traumatic experiences at WPSD, I do want to break that cycle, the best I can say, LISTEN to your own child, and DO something instead of dust it off.
^Angel^ said:Sometime it doesn't always work, there are some mothers out there who protect their children by denying that her children are bullies....
^Angel^ said:I'm sorry but I have to disagree, you see IF I just worry about my own children and not the others, then I'm going to feel really bad about it, so intead of trying to get across the bully's mom, I let the school and the transperation to take care of the problem, the more the school is aware of the problem the more they will keep an eye on these children who intend to bully other kids...And that will make you feel good as a parent knowing you are not just protecting your own child but other children as well....
Today there's alot of bullies going around at school, the more we ignore the problem the more children is going to end up getting their feelings hurt or maybe worse.....
Stratching my head... Yeah I guess so because I am a man and I see it differently than you do but for sure the bullying needs to stop.
I am an uncle to many kids and this is good practice for when I will be a father in the future if I find a good wife then start a family. Time to get started in the right direction. For sure I would stick up for my son or my daughter and stand my ground.
Heath,
You don't have any children yet, to understand the role of a child's feelings. Were you or not been bullied in school? How did you handle the situation? by ignoring? Ignoring doesn't do anything. I've been bullied in my school and my parents told me to ignored the bully, Did it stopped? No, It became to a problem where I had enough of her and punched her right in the nose. Of course, I got in trouble, Nobody would do anything about it, I took the matter in my own hands and deal with it. I don't want my boys doing that, so that's why I stand up for them, so they don't have to defend themselves by fighting back.
You don't have any children yet, to understand the role of a child's feelings. Were you or not been bullied in school? How did you handle the situation? by ignoring? Ignoring doesn't do anything. I've been bullied in my school and my parents told me to ignored the bully, Did it stopped? No, It became to a problem where I had enough of her and punched her right in the nose. Of course, I got in trouble, Nobody would do anything about it, I took the matter in my own hands and deal with it. I don't want my boys doing that, so that's why I stand up for them, so they don't have to defend themselves by fighting back.
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Amen! If I am your kid, I WILL admire you if you DO something! Heath, sorry I will despise you for paying attention to only me not everybody else! Sorry I disagree with you COMPLETELY!
^Angel^ said:I'm sorry but I have to disagree, you see IF I just worry about my own children and not the others, then I'm going to feel really bad about it, so intead of trying to get across the bully's mom, I let the school and the transperation to take care of the problem, the more the school is aware of the problem the more they will keep an eye on these children who intend to bully other kids...And that will make you feel good as a parent knowing you are not just protecting your own child but other children as well....
Today there's alot of bullies going around at school, the more we ignore the problem the more children is going to end up getting their feelings hurt or maybe worse.....
diehardbiker65 said:
Yeah, I went to WPSD for 3 years but I don't have those hard gut feelings like you do. I had good and bad experiences at WPSD.
I understood exactly what you are saying. I got it really bad at WPSD too as well as another places both Deaf school and mainstream but .....
Mainstream for me was not as bad as Deaf school bullying maybe because it was that Deaf people are amongst their own.
I made some good friends at WPSD and some good staff that I still talk to from time to time so it is not that too bad for me. Everybody has had different experiences in their own Deaf schools.
Cheri said:Heath,
You don't have any children yet, to understand the role of a child's feelings. Were you or not been bullied in school? How did you handle the situation? by ignoring? Ignoring doesn't do anything. I've been bullied in my school and my parents told me to ignored the bully, Did it stopped? No, It became to a problem where I had enough of her and punched her right in the nose. Of course, I got in trouble, Nobody would do anything about it, I took the matter in my own hands and deal with it. I don't want my boys doing that, so that's why I stand up for them, so they don't have to defend themselves by fighting back.
Sure I got bullied real bad in school and yeah I don't have kids yet but I can understand some of what is going on. I got into fights over and over again but in some ways I am glad I got bullied at because that was character building and I gotta thank them for where I am now today so there is a positive and a negative to every side of the issue, man.
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Amen! I have my own child, before I had my own child I DID think differently about how to raise kids. Now, I realize that alot of things that I thought about kids before my son was born is mostly wrong. Health, once you get baby, GOOOOOODDDD LUCK!!!!!!!!!! You WILL DEFINETLY change the way you think! TRUST ME! I have been there, so is Cheri, ^angel^, me, and other parents.
PLUS you never being bullied, so how nerve you are thinking you know it all! KNOCK IT OFF! Yuor getting on my nerve! I am experienced parents already, and that I have experienced being bullied while nobody did anything about it. So, don't tell me, Cheri, ^angel^ and all other parents shits!
PLUS you never being bullied, so how nerve you are thinking you know it all! KNOCK IT OFF! Yuor getting on my nerve! I am experienced parents already, and that I have experienced being bullied while nobody did anything about it. So, don't tell me, Cheri, ^angel^ and all other parents shits!
Cheri said:Heath,
You don't have any children yet, to understand the role of a child's feelings. Were you or not been bullied in school? How did you handle the situation? by ignoring? Ignoring doesn't do anything. I've been bullied in my school and my parents told me to ignored the bully, Did it stopped? No, It became to a problem where I had enough of her and punched her right in the nose. Of course, I got in trouble, Nobody would do anything about it, I took the matter in my own hands and deal with it. I don't want my boys doing that, so that's why I stand up for them, so they don't have to defend themselves by fighting back.
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Read number 24, you wrote it!!! You said it and now your denying it!!!
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Amen! 2 wrongs don't make it right.
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