My daughter is being bullied! Help!

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I was driving up the gravel road to wait for the bus to come, I stopped to pick up another little girl which she always ride with us. There was 2 other girls, 11 and 15, walking up to the little girl.. the 11 year old told her not to get in the car with me and not to be my daughter's friend.. the little girl was like in the middle of it.. I could tell she wanted to get in the car with me. I told her to come in the car and not let the girls tell you what to do. The 2 older girls stood in front of my car glaring at me. I just looked at them and turned my eyes toward my daughter and the little girl. I asked the little girl if the 11 year old told her not to get in the car with us and not to be her friend.. she said yes. I was really pissed, but I kept cool and drove up to the end and waited for the bus.

the bus arrives, told the girls to have a good day. the 11 year old just stood there staring at me and gave me a really ugly face.. as soon as my daughter and the little girl walked into the bus.. the 11 year old walked behind them and said something to them. I got out of the car and told the bus driver that he needs to be watching that girl.. he said why? I told him that she's a bully and she might do something to my daughter in the bus.

walked back to my car boiling up! I was close to stopping by the girl's house and talk to her mother but her mom doesn't give a shit...

What am I suppose to do?? My daughter suffered enough from that girl..

I just can't believe she would actually tell the little girl not to be friends with my daughter in my face.. that pissed me off..

What would you do?? Help me.. i need suggestions!
 
Hi Rebelgirl,

Drive your daughter to school and pick her up after school and make it a fun ride , one that she and you would enjoy. Go to Dairy Queen after school with her and it does not matter if she has a good or bad day. The point is that she will come to like having you around after school to talk and you will be able to keep the communication line to your daughter open. :) :thumb:

That way she does not have to deal with them on the bus and at school there will be more adult supervision and the bus is not really a good place because the bus driver can't supervise the kids. Kids can be cruel and your daughter does not need that kind of garbage. As for the mother.... one day she will have it coming to her because her daughter will be so bad in her teenage years, meanwhile your daughter will bloom into a wonderful teenager and do the normal things a teenage girl does like doing really good in school straight A's and having a good circle of friends. :) :thumb:
 
Thanks for the good advice, Heath! Its probably a good idea to start taking her to school and picking her up. But something needs to be done about the bully. She's getting away with it and might hurt someone else.
 
Aww Rebelgirl :hug:

You're not ALONE in this, my two boys were being bullied while they were waiting for the school bus, and it got worse when the shovel and hitting became involved, what I did was called the bus transperation by letting them know about those 2 boys and one girl that were picking on my boys at the bus stop, and guess what? they live right next door from me, I had problems with them since the day I brought this house, they pick on my children every single a day, they damaage my home etc....I had called the cops so many times on them yet the cops wont do anything about it simple cause the mother kept denying her children had no involvement in any of what was reported....*sigh* RR create a thread about this a couple months ago, maybe if you can find it you will read what we went thru, it wasn't simple, you see the bully didn't end until one day my second son came home with a red mark on his face, that when I had enough, so the next day I went to the school and talked to the prinpical about what was going on, she did awesome, she took care of the problem just like that and it didnt happen again, every time something little would happen, she would always be the one stepping in and making sure it didn't happen again, since that day, the mother got fed up and started moving her children in a different bus stop, so what Im saying is keep calling your daugther's bus tranperation, and school until the problem stops cause once you let it keep happening then it would not stop until someone step in.....


Good luck and I hope everything will turn out good later.....I'll pray for you and your daugther

*hug*
 
RebelGirl said:
Thanks for the good advice, Heath! Its probably a good idea to start taking her to school and picking her up. But something needs to be done about the bully. She's getting away with it and might hurt someone else.
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Talk to the school officials and make clear the point that the girl bully is getting away with alots in a that way it is drilled into the school officials minds to keep a hawk's eye on the bully and not let the bully make any excuses.

I think her mother is also a bully because girls usually are not a bully. That is not normal for a small girl at that age to be a bully so something is up with that.

The boys are rough bullies wheter their parents are a bully or not a bully but a girl being a bully????

I find it unusual that a small girl would be a bully which has to be coming from the mother herself. There is no way the bad bully could have learned that somewhere else.
 
RebelGirl said:
Thanks for the good advice, Heath! Its probably a good idea to start taking her to school and picking her up. But something needs to be done about the bully. She's getting away with it and might hurt someone else.
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I agree it's a good advice but those children will never learn and beside they will hurt another child....

So got to fight hon,
 
Heath said:
but a girl being a bully????
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Yep, girls can become a bully too, the girl next door is a bully to my boys even my boys are stronger than her, but God, she has a nasty attitude.... :eek:
 
^Angel^ said:
Yep, girls can become a bully too, the girl next door is a bully to my boys even my boys are stronger than her, but God, she has a nasty attitude.... :eek:
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Yeah? I never noticed any girl bullies growing up and I got some bad bullies to fight off in school then later on when I got older I saw adult bullies which were far more dangerous than the school yard bullies. I think that girls if they are gonna be bullies tend to be verbal abusing bullies while the boys are physical fighting bullies. I am sure there are a few physical girl bullies out there but that would be more rare.
 
True some things change back then as it did now, now some girls are more like " I'm all that *snapping their fingers *" :giggle:

Am I right Rebel girl?....


hmmm the snapping finger part remind me of someone.... :ily:
 
I am not sure Heath's (no offense) suggestion is the best because this is forcing Rebel to remove her daughter away from the problem........but the problem is still there and prolly getting worse. By removing her daughter away from the problem, she loses on the socialization opportunity on the bus ride, and some other things while the problem(the other gal and her mother and neighbor)will continue to grow. Parents can't be going around and altering their child's environment because there's a problem. Problems are a part of life, part of the growing up and maturation process, blah, blah but ya get my drift, right? Lance that boil in the best way you know how; don't shy/run away from the problem. I would start by inviting the Mom over for coffee after the bus leaves. I think that's the more natural, more obvious beginning.
 
RebelGirl,

You may need to contact your daughter's school about this situation. I am sure that prinpical and/or couselor would take care for you immediately. Moreover, they need to protect their school reputation against the media....
 
Tousi said:
I would start by inviting the Mom over for coffee after the bus leaves. I think that's the more natural, more obvious beginning.
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Sometime it doesn't always work, there are some mothers out there who protect their children by denying that her children are bullies.... :(
 
Tousi said:
I am not sure Heath's (no offense) suggestion is the best because this is forcing Rebel to remove her daughter away from the problem........but the problem is still there and prolly getting worse. By removing her daughter away from the problem, she loses on the socialization opportunity on the bus ride, and some other things while the problem(the other gal and her mother and neighbor)will continue to grow. Parents can't be going around and altering their child's environment because there's a problem. Problems are a part of life, part of the growing up and maturation process, blah, blah but ya get my drift, right? Lance that boil in the best way you know how; don't shy/run away from the problem. I would start by inviting the Mom over for coffee after the bus leaves. I think that's the more natural, more obvious beginning.
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I am not asking Rebelgirl to avoid the problem or anything like that but she has to think of her daughter first. No sense in getting a child anymore upset and having it affect the schoolwork. It is Rebelgirl's call and I am sure she will find a way to handle it the best way.
 
^Angel^ said:
Sometime it doesn't always work, there are some mothers out there who protect their children by denying that her children are bullies.... :(
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Angel, I SO agree with you BUT we will never know if it works if we don't try, right? It's just the beginning of MAYBE a long road or a short one. I just suggested the coffee invitation as a starting point.
 
Tousi said:
Angel, I SO agree with you BUT we will never know if it works if we don't try, right? It's just the beginning of MAYBE a long road or a short one. I just suggested the coffee invitation as a starting point.
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and if that mother refuses a coffee and a chat with Rebelgirl then I think she needs to protect her child more and find ways that would be more positive for her daughter.
 
Tousi said:
Angel, I SO agree with you BUT we will never know if it works if we don't try, right? It's just the beginning of MAYBE a long road or a short one. I just suggested the coffee invitation as a starting point.
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Very true Tousie, it wouldn't hurt to try and see what happens.... :fingersx:
 
^Angel^ said:
Very true Tousie, it wouldn't hurt to try and see what happens (ask for coffee).... :fingersx:
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If it does not work, Rebelgirl may need to caution mother about Mob Godfather Alex and he will order AD people to check on them...
 
Yeah send a SWAT team over to that nasty and evil mother's house and sic the dogs on the bad mother and the cops spread the bad bully girl eagle point and throw on the cuffs then haul her little nasty butt off to juvie hall and her mom in the county jail. snickers ..... :laugh2: :mrgreen:
 
Rebelgirl and Angel, I agree with Tousi about
inviting bully mother for coffee chat as long as
you do NOT say "your daughter/son is a bully"
which will make their mothers more defensive and
just let bully kids see and observe that
you're having some coffee chat with their mothers and
this probably will make their kids less bully eventually
it is NOT going to happen overnight.
P.S. Being mother is one of the most difficult jobs.
 
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