Marry or Maiden?

I kept my last name when I got married, I told my hubby to be that he could change his last name to mine if he liked cause it isa really cool last name, haha. So, not that I am no longer with him I have no hassles, I still have my own last name. Our son has his last name, but my son's middle name is my my last name, had to get it in there somehow!
 
Well, I change my mind this morning after talking to the clerk and the judge. I will have my maiden name in 30 days, Everything went great I don't have to pay Alimony but I don't get Alimony. :D
 
Well, I have seen some people have 2 last names....their own name and the husband's last name. I find it pretty weird.
 
sequoias said:
Well, I have seen some people have 2 last names....their own name and the husband's last name. I find it pretty weird.
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I have seen that a few times, I can't remember Will Smith's wife last name I'm trying to think of it.. :hmm:
 
Now, I know where all the stupid people are in the world, they are all at the Social Security office I told them three times this week that I sent in my divorce pappers for my name change and they keep asking for them and now I have to wait to go to DMV. :pissed:
 
I went back to my maiden name, although my DD has his last name. We plan to have her name changed to my name since she has mentioned that she wanted to have the same name as me.
 
I kept my married name after the divorce and just changed it when I got married again. The reason for it...cuz of my daughter. My mom kept my dad's last name after they got divorced and to this day, almost 30 years later, she still has kept it.
 
when i get married keep my last name,if you divorce you change your name back to your first last name,now i think that it is better to keep your last name.
 
This is taking forever, I got my SS card on Friday and now I get to go to DMV in the morning.:roll:
 
Even though this is a bit different, it does apply. My grandmother on my dad's side was married to my grandfather, but he died at around 43 years old, (I was like 4 when that happened) he died in his sleep. She later remarried to my step-grandfather BUT she still wanted to keep the last name from my dead grandfather so when she re-married to my step-grandfather she still kept my grandfather's last name and did not take my step-grandfather's last name at all. My step-grandfather understands and has accepted that my grandmother wanted to keep my grandfather's name in memory and to keep a legacy.

Also, my current last name is not my original last name. I have never been married before but I was born with a different last name but when I was about a year old or so my mother married a guy and took his last name and had my last name changed to his last name, and told him I was his child when I was 6 months old before they married so that we could get his insurance benefits and shit - he had a stable job and everything and I was born with all sorts of health issues and my mother was just a 16 years old teenager when I was born, she was just doing this for survival reasons (I'm most likely not his child)...to this day I hate my current last name and sometimes refer myself to others with my original last name or I even refer to others with my fiance's last name. But when I get married I will be taking my fiance's last name instead because I like it better than my current last name - my current last name is only a reminder of my abusive childhood and a bad past and the fact that my "father" gave me up to the state...like I was garbage. I want to put all that behind me, hence my wanting to get rid of my current last name and taking my fiance's last name when we get married. So I don't want to keep my current last name anymore but it is expensive to change it back to my original last name so I am just gonna wait until I and my fiance are ready to get married and then I will take my fiance's last name and get rid of my current last name, it's less of a hassle this way. I won't even be doing the hyphenated last names shit.

Also if possible, when I get married and have the paperwork done to take my fiance's last name I will try to see if I can also legally change my first name to Lucia and move my current first name to a middle name (I would have 2 middle names if that does happen) at the same time. I want to keep my current first name as a middle name for historical reasons and in memory of my late mother who gave me this current first name. I just don't really like my current first name, that's all. I prefer to go by Lucia.
 
It is a big decision to change one's name. I wouldn't mind going either way when I get married.
 
LuciaDisturbed said:
Even though this is a bit different, it does apply. My grandmother on my dad's side was married to my grandfather, but he died at around 43 years old, (I was like 4 when that happened) he died in his sleep. She later remarried to my step-grandfather BUT she still wanted to keep the last name from my dead grandfather so when she re-married to my step-grandfather she still kept my grandfather's last name and did not take my step-grandfather's last name at all. My step-grandfather understands and has accepted that my grandmother wanted to keep my grandfather's name in memory and to keep a legacy.

Also, my current last name is not my original last name. I have never been married before but I was born with a different last name but when I was about a year old or so my mother married a guy and took his last name and had my last name changed to his last name, and told him I was his child when I was 6 months old before they married so that we could get his insurance benefits and shit - he had a stable job and everything and I was born with all sorts of health issues and my mother was just a 16 years old teenager when I was born, she was just doing this for survival reasons (I'm most likely not his child)...to this day I hate my current last name and sometimes refer myself to others with my original last name or I even refer to others with my fiance's last name. But when I get married I will be taking my fiance's last name instead because I like it better than my current last name - my current last name is only a reminder of my abusive childhood and a bad past and the fact that my "father" gave me up to the state...like I was garbage. I want to put all that behind me, hence my wanting to get rid of my current last name and taking my fiance's last name when we get married. So I don't want to keep my current last name anymore but it is expensive to change it back to my original last name so I am just gonna wait until I and my fiance are ready to get married and then I will take my fiance's last name and get rid of my current last name, it's less of a hassle this way. I won't even be doing the hyphenated last names shit.

Also if possible, when I get married and have the paperwork done to take my fiance's last name I will try to see if I can also legally change my first name to Lucia and move my current first name to a middle name (I would have 2 middle names if that does happen) at the same time. I want to keep my current first name as a middle name for historical reasons and in memory of my late mother who gave me this current first name. I just don't really like my current first name, that's all. I prefer to go by Lucia.
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Lucia, I hope everything will work out for you.The main reason why I wanted my maiden name back is I feel like I would still have that " Connection" to him. I want to get rid of the past and move on.
 
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i thought you was really called lucia lol!! Yeah if yu feel better doing it then it makes sense :D
 
In my state, the judge may grant a name change when she grants the divorce. I know someone who gave herself a complete new last name when she divorced (she made it up!). Some women change back to their maiden name and some women keep the married name (usually because they have kids or have a professional reputation connected with that name).

You can always change your name as long as it's not some evil purpose like to defraud creditors. It's a simple petition filed at the courthouse, and you just explain to the judge why you want the name change. It's probably a hassle to get everything changed on your own personal accounts and records. You can take the judgment with the judge's signature to prove your new name.
 
I decided to keep both "maiden-marry". I went back to maiden so I felt divorced but I kept married name because I wanted my daughter to match me. If I went back to maiden alone school's would think I was not her mother, bah.
 
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