Married, but....

[whatdidyousay!]

Pfft, if someone's not doing it right... I'm going to be the first to say it... Just throwing that out there... Bruised ego?

So it damn if a woman does say something and damn if she doesn't want to try anything new. Men don't know what they want from their women.

 

[lucas]

case closed, victory. Steinhauer!

 

[caz12]

could always give him a book with map of body parts...
it not easy to tell partner he not much good in the sex department and putting it on public forum most unwise.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

People can lose interest in sex if they're depress , has that been looked into ?

 

[caz12]

yes they can,she appeared to be.Then sex can get boring after so many years..not that i would know as current husband is gay

 

[ambrosia]

case closed, victory. Steinhauer!

You're young yet, but eventually you'll learn that having the "last word" in an argument doesn't mean you won, most likely someone decided it just isn't worth the time. I thought it would be particularly awesome to leave it with him going "I'm not blaming her"...immediately goes right back to blaming her. See some people you can't argue with, and people who do that kind of thing, especially, you can't argue with...so forget it, ain't worth my time let him dig his hole.

But if you want to decide by who "won" we can judge by our peers....I got 19 likes in this thread, not counting that last one liked by Nitrohonda that was unrelated to the topic, he got um.....5. I think I win

But arguing on the internet is like competing in the special olympics......even if you win you're still retarded.

 

[Steinhauer]

You're young yet, but eventually you'll learn that having the "last word" in an argument doesn't mean you won, most likely someone decided it just isn't worth the time. I thought it would be particularly awesome to leave it with him going "I'm not blaming her"...immediately goes right back to blaming her. See some people you can't argue with, and people who do that kind of thing, especially, you can't argue with...so forget it, ain't worth my time let him dig his hole.

But if you want to decide by who "won" we can judge by our peers....I got 19 likes in this thread, not counting that last one liked by Nitrohonda that was unrelated to the topic, he got um.....5. I think I win

But arguing on the internet is like competing in the special olympics......even if you win you're still retarded.

That was a just a tiny bit convoluted. The OP placed the blame on herself for wanting to cheat. The OP even "fessed up" that she knew those feelings were wrong.

But - I don't really care.

 

[Jiro]

You're young yet, but eventually you'll learn that having the "last word" in an argument doesn't mean you won, most likely someone decided it just isn't worth the time. I thought it would be particularly awesome to leave it with him going "I'm not blaming her"...immediately goes right back to blaming her. See some people you can't argue with, and people who do that kind of thing, especially, you can't argue with...so forget it, ain't worth my time let him dig his hole.

But if you want to decide by who "won" we can judge by our peers....I got 19 likes in this thread, not counting that last one liked by Nitrohonda that was unrelated to the topic, he got um.....5. I think I win

But arguing on the internet is like competing in the special olympics......even if you win you're still retarded.

now 20.

 

[lucas]

I remember first coming on this site and meeting you ambrosia. You're like my father. Love's arguing aha. "debating"

 

[ambrosia]

I remember first coming on this site and meeting you ambrosia. You're like my father. Love's arguing aha. "debating"

Oh I'm not shy about having an opinion and sticking behind it. But I also have an open mind, I have been known to change my mind about things during a debate, if someone is making good points, but sometimes you got to recognize when something's not getting anywhere, and you're just beating a dead horse. Stupid really gets me, this isn't an example of that, but when somebody is just being dumb, I'm like OMG!!!! I can't help it, it's like OCD, I can't let people believe something stupid.

 

[ncff07]

 

[ambrosia]

It took my ex husband longer to get dress than me , I end waiting for him and I never said OK or fine to during an argument. My ex complain my mind was too fast for him and that I was playing mind games with him. He would be the one wanting the argument to end. I disagree with your post.

My ex did ALL of those things, drove me nuts. Say what you mean and mean what say stop playing stupid games with me!!

 

[Steinhauer]

Um, I am just going to say this, no one is playing games with you Ambrosia. But, I highly anticipate you will think people are anyways.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

My ex did ALL of those things, drove me nuts. Say what you mean and mean what say stop playing stupid games with me!!

That not what I meant, my ex didn't think I was playing stupid games with him ,he was getting up because he could not think as fast me. He once got on the floor and gave in , he tried to put me down but it backfired . It got too ugly between us so I called a quit and kick him out . I was not going to put up with any crap .

 

[ambrosia]

Um, I am just going to say this, no one is playing games with you Ambrosia. But, I highly anticipate you will think people are anyways.

You have no idea what you're freaking talking about. My ex was a huge manipulator and a bully. You don't know me, you don't know him, seriously where do you get off even saying something like that? Seriously with no knowledge of our relationship or history?

Just like you did with the op, turned it around he "probably" didn't want to have sex with her, because he was just feeling her vibe, and being polite by doing the bare necessity deed. Your nit omnipotent, in fact, I'm starting to think you're just an ass.

I can't believe anyone ever cheated on you, that's shocking. You're "just going to say this".....yeah you a lot of stuff, I want to say pulled out of your ass, but it's more like you have your head shoved so far up your ass its using your colon for a mouth piece.

 

[Steinhauer]

You have no idea what you're freaking talking about. My ex was a huge manipulator and a bully. You don't know me, you don't know him, seriously where do you get off even saying something like that? Seriously with no knowledge of our relationship or history?

Just like you did with the op, turned it around he "probably" didn't want to have sex with her, because he was just feeling her vibe, and being polite by doing the bare necessity deed. Your nit omnipotent, in fact, I'm starting to think you're just an ass.

I can't believe anyone ever cheated on you, that's shocking. You're "just going to say this".....yeah you a lot of stuff, I want to say pulled out of your ass, but it's more like you have your head shoved so far up your ass its using your colon for a mouth piece.

Like I said ... you will think I am playing games :roll:

There you go making an analogy of your past ex and projecting it on someone you don't even know. I can't believe you are still single (not that I would know). Now, I did apologize to to you for possibly coming across the qwrong way, clarified it, and you are still acting like a know it all while packing a blamethrower. Why don't you go lie down for a little while? I will not be apologizing to you anymore.

As for the "you got your head up your ass" - did you read that off a bumper sticker somewhere - because that sounds like it took a lot of deep thought to come up with.

 

[ambrosia]

Like I said ... you will think I am playing games :roll:

There you go making an analogy of your past ex and projecting it on someone you don't even know. I can't believe you are still single (not that I would know). Now, I did apologize to to you for possibly coming across the qwrong way, clarified it, and you are still acting like a know it all while packing a blamethrower. Why don't you go lie down for a little while? I will not be apologizing to you anymore.

As for the "you got your head up your ass" - did you read that off a bumper sticker somewhere - because that sounds like it took a lot of deep thought to come up with.

You are so wrong, about everything. No I don't think you're playing games with me, I just think you're a tool or have screw loose. You're just making a boatload of assumptions. I wasn't even making comparisons between the two of you do I have idea why you even assume something like that, or that I'd think you're playing games with me. I was talking about MY husband. NOT you.

See, you might have felt that your wife didn't love or respect you anymore so you started tossing her polite pity sex because you wanted to drive her away......but that does not mean that that is what's happening with Louisiana lady and her husband. There is no probably, no most likely, and no she didn't admit that that's what's happening.

You might not have played games with YOUR wife, although if you did that up there ^^^^ that's questionable......but that does not mean that my husband did NOT play games with ME.

The relationship between louisianalady and her husband is NOT your relationship with your exwife. My relationship with my husband is NOT your relationship with your exwife.

So please, stop projecting, stop trying to get us to carry the same baggage you have, we have our own thank you.

 

[Steinhauer]

You are so wrong, about everything. No I don't think you're playing games with me, I just think you're a tool or have screw loose. You're just making a boatload of assumptions. I wasn't even making comparisons between the two of you do I have idea why you even assume something like that, or that I'd think you're playing games with me. I was talking about MY husband. NOT you.

See, you might have felt that your wife didn't love or respect you anymore so you started tossing her polite pity sex because you wanted to drive her away......but that does not mean that that is what's happening with Louisiana lady and her husband. There is no probably, no most likely, and no she didn't admit that that's what's happening.

You might not have played games with YOUR wife, although if you did that up there ^^^^ that's questionable......but that does not mean that my husband did NOT play games with ME.

The relationship between louisianalady and her husband is NOT your relationship with your exwife. My relationship with my husband is NOT your relationship with your exwife.

So please, stop projecting, stop trying to get us to carry the same baggage you have, we have our own thank you.

I projected nothing. I did not bring up anything to do with my past relationship with my ex, until you went off on a tirade about how your ex nearly dislocated your jaw, and blamed me (yes that word "blame") for blaming the OP as if she is a "victim" ... which has very CLEARLY been pointed out to you, that the OP is not a victim.


Now, you are attempting to backpedal, you even revised one of your posts when you actually understood what I had said. Anyone who was paying attention could see the whole "oops ..." moment, but your pride has prevented you from saying 'Oh, sorry, I misunderstood" and whatever shit you went through with your ex, whatever unresolved anger issues you had, you dumped them right here on this forum.http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070701064121AAc76Dm My nieces went through the whole "all guys are evil manipulators" phase when they were ... uh .... 15. But they eventually outgrew that phase.

I am through trying to explain anything to you. Have a great night.

 

[saywhatkid]

You're young yet, but eventually you'll learn that having the "last word" in an argument doesn't mean you won, most likely someone decided it just isn't worth the time. I thought it would be particularly awesome to leave it with him going "I'm not blaming her"...immediately goes right back to blaming her. See some people you can't argue with, and people who do that kind of thing, especially, you can't argue with...so forget it, ain't worth my time let him dig his hole.

But if you want to decide by who "won" we can judge by our peers....I got 19 likes in this thread, not counting that last one liked by Nitrohonda that was unrelated to the topic, he got um.....5. I think I win

But arguing on the internet is like competing in the special olympics......even if you win you're still retarded.

You have had the last word every time I have confronted you. Mostly because you are not worth my time, so I let you spew your vitriol, but I felt the need to say something here...

Your use of the following line:

competing in the special olympics......even if you win you're still retarded

I find this terminology to be highly offensive. I have friends with children that have learning difficulties. My wife was also offended by this. (Yes, I have one of those, and she is much more attractive than you could ever be, to me. She is also younger than you, because I need someone that can keep up. )

I personally have never respected you, because you are a hot head.

Post a few more pictures for the lonely male crowd. That is the kind of people that give you the attention you crave. You have nothing for the rest of us. I bet your ex-husband has some interesting stories to tell. I doubt things were quite as one-sided as you paint them. And no, I don't condone violence in any form. If I ever hit my spouse, I would move out the same day.

 

[saywhatkid]

Now, on to the OP...

Any chance that maybe you aren't that great at sex? Wanting sex does not equate being skillful at it. Perhaps that is part of the problem. Also, maybe he needs to see a doctor. Deciding to step out is poor judgment. Why would you stay with him? I don't get this. If you are not compatible, move out.

I get the feeling that going to a deaf convention and having several men hit on you, has made you feel like taking up on these advances. If you do, don't settle. Play the field as much as you can. No one deserves to be cheated on. He has stayed with you. You did promise "in sickness and in health" when you married. What part of this did you think was unimportant? If it was him coming to you with these concerns, and you had a medical situation that prevented you from fulfilling his needs, how would you feel?