First of all, I want to 
you for share your experience. It´s good to know that you know how to limit with your strong willing.
I would say that your experience is bit opposite to my sister. I have my experience, too is my sister. She addict to the drugs until she ends her life to methadone at 2 years ago. I posted the story about her on my threads.
http://www.alldeaf.com/general-chat/21029-my-sister-drugs-paraphernalia-crack-cocain.html
http://www.alldeaf.com/pictures-videos/29956-memorial-my-sister-childhood-pictures-artwork.html
http://www.alldeaf.com/general-chat/28655-send-condolences-liebling.html
The reason is I created the threads is because I want the people aware about the drug issues.
My sister started smoke tabacoo when she was 9 years old until she tried smoking pot (including marijuana) when she just had 3rd child. Her partner (now ex) knows how to limit himself when he want to smoke kind of weeds. Of course he taught my sister to smoke kind of weeds including marijuna... My sister said to me & my hubby to try it but we refused... They tried to convince us that smoking weeds is much better than smoking tabacoo. She started to addict more and more after tried kind of weeds... and then alcohol. She thought alcohol helps her to get drugs off of her mind but it doesn´t work. Read further at links of my threads...... She have no problem with alcohol but severe problem to rid of drugs... She tried dozen of times to be clean but it doesn´t work... She told me HERSELF that she do wish to stick tabacoo instead of tried kind of weeds including marijuna in first place... after try drugs... not enough then more drug... up to herion... She want to be clean... she tried methadone to rid of drug addiction... Therefore she addicted methadone and then overdose to end her life.
Wow! I am very sorry about your sister... I agree with you, she need to know how to control herself from the drugs, but that's too bad.. *sigh* I am actually speechless when reading this while I am not really surprised because I personally know many people have the same problem and died like your sister. Also I think it was wrong that you sister to peg you and your husband to try the drugs, it's your and husband's choice to not try the drugs, I remember when I bought my first Hookah (a cooking tobacco smoking pipe), I was surprised that my parents allow me to smoke it in their house, also they asked me if they can try it. I think it's because it doesn't smell bad, or even taste like ashes alittle like other tobacco smoking, anyway, I haven't asked them to allow me to smoke it in their house or ask them to try it, except talking about it some. I respect their choices.
Again, I am really sorry about what happened to your daughter, honestly, everytime if I hear someone's story about their crack habit and died, that scare me. It scare me to hear those because I still have the demands to do the crack again inside my mind even though I haven't went back to the crack for about 5 years now, but when hearing those, it make me thinking, "What if I get fuck with the world and go back to the crack, then become homeless and strave to death like those?".
Anyway, it's my expression.. That's really terrible about your daughter.. I am sure everything's okay, she's happy now without drugs today
Sorry, I has to disagree that marijuna are the safest drug. I withnessed my sister´s experience. It make her addict more and more... I would say all drugs are not safety and could affect health.
*sigh* Well... I have something to say, what I learned from the treatment, sometimes it helps when I was on "softer drugs" (like alcohol or marijuana), I should think to keep with it and tell myself that I don't need any different drugs, this is the best drug in the world I would use this time and if it run out, I will not think about different drugs and this the same drug is the best in the world for me to buy next time. This does help me, I tend to force myself to think about the alcohol and marijuana if I think about the crack again.
But not everyone will be the same. Some people will try that method and failed due to trying different drugs, some people feel like other "softer drugs" doesn't safisy(sp?) themselves but those "heavy drugs", it's just that many people have different things that they have to learn. I am sure that your sister have a way to learn how to control herself.
I do respect your witness of your sister and I am sorry for your loss.
As much as I sympathize with your tragedy, Liebling, please try to keep in mind that it wasn't the marijuana that was responsible. It was your sister's addictive personality. Most marijuana smokers do not go on to use heroin, or any other drugs. For her, marijuana was dangerous, but chances are very good, with an addictive personality, she would have ended up using harder drugs even if she had never smoked marijuana. That is not to say that this wasn't a tragedy for your sister, and for your whole family. Your pain is justified. I understand your feelings. I just don't think that marijuana caused the problems. Just like some people drink alcohol for many years, but never become an alcoholic because they do not have a genetic predispositon to addiction, somepeople can smoke marijuana for years and never become addicted or move to harder drugs to satisfy their addictive tendencies.
Yupp that's right, that's what my treatment told me.
PuyoPiyo tried to tell you that it´s Pespi´s husband who lost his job when he know about the law but he choose to violate it and took the drugs. It´s his choice, not marijuana itself.
*nods* That's right.
Yes it make sense because he choose to break the law. It´s his own responsible for job loss when he knows that marijuna is an illegal.
Exactly
You both are correct... about drugs and alcohol at work...
It´s her husband who choose to violate the law when he know it´s illegal to smoke marijuana... no matter either in or out of job. He would get caught either if he smoke outside or inside of work place...
Right. It's all from him that cause everything become into problem, nothing else.
I prefer to pick alcohol in moderately way because it´s a legal. I would lost everything for ignore the law and make an illegal. It will teachs the children to think it´s okay to do illegal that´s why I prefer to not do that...
I don´t have a daughter... I guess you mean that my sister´s daughter? No, it´s my sister´s son who abuse the drugs and quit after learn death of my sister.
My bad.
