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Whats this identity business?????..........being deaf does not identify you.....your personality, upbringing,, background is what identifies you, being deaf simply adds another dimension.
I feel really happy for Lotte, have just read her blog and know for sure that she will grow up an extremely happy, loved and well educated young lady.
I can understand where beetaroh is coming from with identity issues. Deaf people who had high expectations placed on them to function exactly like hearing people usually grow up with identity problems because many of them are believed to be hearing so they try to function like hearing people and end up not beiong able to. That can damage self esteem. That happened to me and it sounds like it happened to beetaroh too. If the child grows up in a hearing world without any contact with other deaf people and is told that being deaf is ok or that the child's deafness is not the primary trait that hearing people constantly bring up, then the child wil more likely to grow up without scars. I think that is what beetaroh is trying to explain to Cloggy.
However, I think Lotte will be fine cuz it seems that Cloggy knows that she is deaf no matter what and has stated that his daughter knows signs and doesn't mind if she wants to resume using it again later. I, on the other hand, was denied sign language when I showed an interest in learning it, was criticized constantly for not having speech skills like hearing people's, yelled at in class for not following the lesson (how can I if the teachers walk around in class talking?), getting told that I can hear more than I claim to be cuz of my good speech skills so I get blamed for misunderstanding hearing people, social situations were hard, and my deafness was always brought up constantly in deifferent situations. Deaf children do not need that...
I don't think Cloggy will allow those things happen to Lotte..