Is it normal.......?

[Reba]

Not everything that is "normal" or "natural" or "common" is always good in every circumstance, with every individual.

Just because a behavior is "natural" doesn't mean it should be done or encouraged. There has to be a better reason than just because some people call it "normal".

Some shame is beneficial. It prevents people from repeating bad behaviors. That's a big problem with kids' bad behavior now. No one is ashamed of anything. No one is embarrassed when they are punished for wrong doing.

People should have feelings of modesty and humility. Why is it necessary to let everything (literally and figuratively) all hang out? What's wrong with a little mystery and privacy?

I'm probably in the minority here but that's not important. Life isn't a popularity contest.

You can show off whatever you want in your own home. Please just don't sit your bare butts down on any chairs that I might use. Yeck!

 

[christlovedeaf]

Not everything that is "normal" or "natural" or "common" is always good in every circumstance, with every individual.

Just because a behavior is "natural" doesn't mean it should be done or encouraged. There has to be a better reason than just because some people call it "normal".

Some shame is beneficial. It prevents people from repeating bad behaviors. That's a big problem with kids' bad behavior now. No one is ashamed of anything. No one is embarrassed when they are punished for wrong doing.

People should have feelings of modesty and humility. Why is it necessary to let everything (literally and figuratively) all hang out? What's wrong with a little mystery and privacy?

I'm probably in the minority here but that's not important. Life isn't a popularity contest.

You can show off whatever you want in your own home. Please just don't sit your bare butts down on any chairs that I might use. Yeck!

thats funny about the chair, good one

 

[shel90]

My daughter is 10 years old and she is not comfortable being naked in front of me so I respect that and I also respect her wish to be at least partially dressed around her. My son is still a baby so no biggie but when he gets older, I wont be nude in front of him. My family grew up that way and it is not a biggie. We just never though much of it..I just know that I DO not want to see my dad naked. That would scar me for life!

 

[Aleser]

I think that up to a certain age, it's fine. Usually in all-muslim woman's swimming nights, we have boys up to 7 allowed. I think up to that age it's okay for them to see people undressed too because they don't really understand it all yet.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

have to becareful whatever you do. Bec now in days, people getting hype about this. Many are sex offenders are like this thread. It is illegal here in USA. If get caught, it will happen. I know it is sickening to hear that and gone over the line. As for me personally, it is normal in family way, but there are some gone to far. But most, isnt. Im not against that. Tho, whats funny and embarrassed was, my ex wife thought the door was unlock, when my oldest was like 3 or 4 yrs old i think, not sure maybe 5. When we were making love, we have not noticed that my daughter's head was like peeping beside our bed watching and suddenly she tapped me, we just flew out apart and embarrassed then asking us, what are we doing? we are like, um um ummm. It does happen sometimes. I dont see anything wrong with that as long it is appropriate. but becareful in someway, bec today all the media promote all the sickening happen to the kids went out of control, whether you do it innocent way, law will careless and stuff you down your throat. Bec I have been told with lot of people been going thru this and it is ridiculous. We are not like uum, old days as appropriate mind and views. Today, it is going overboard, Shock, and reported to the police with paranoia hype. Sad, isnt it?

*nodding sadly*

It teachs the children to be paraniod and prudish, they will be paraniod and prudish.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Not everything that is "normal" or "natural" or "common" is always good in every circumstance, with every individual.

Just because a behavior is "natural" doesn't mean it should be done or encouraged. There has to be a better reason than just because some people call it "normal".

Some shame is beneficial. It prevents people from repeating bad behaviors. That's a big problem with kids' bad behavior now. No one is ashamed of anything. No one is embarrassed when they are punished for wrong doing.

People should have feelings of modesty and humility. Why is it necessary to let everything (literally and figuratively) all hang out? What's wrong with a little mystery and privacy?

I'm probably in the minority here but that's not important. Life isn't a popularity contest.

You can show off whatever you want in your own home. Please just don't sit your bare butts down on any chairs that I might use. Yeck!

It has nothing do with behavior but human being – respected. Its about good feelings on their bodies. No matter either everyone don't have prefect body but they should be happy with themselves.

To my knowledge, the children only learn what they see every day. There would have low statistics of rape and sexual abuse if people practiced openness and honesty about their bodies with their children.

I believe the children need to know certain parts and what they are. It's better for the children to learn from their parents than from someone else.

 

[Reba]

It has nothing do with behavior but human being – respected. Its about good feelings on their bodies. No matter either everyone don't have prefect body but they should be happy with themselves.

To my knowledge, the children only learn what they see every day. There would have low statistics of rape and sexual abuse if people practiced openness and honesty about their bodies with their children.

I believe the children need to know certain parts and what they are. It's better for the children to learn from their parents than from someone else.

Learning the names and functions of "parts" is not the same as strutting around naked. It has nothing to do with perfection or body image. There's nothing wrong with keeping a piece of fabric between the butt and the furniture.

 

[PowerON]

I know I did see my dad naked (since there are pictures of me and Dad in bath, playing with toys etc) and I frequently saw my mom naked. They didn't hold any condemnation toward me if I accidently catch either naked. I know they were very free-thinking since they let me running around the house naked all the time (I do have zillion of pictures as my evidence of their sexual revolution within the household...). I am planning on framing all naked pictures of me streaking across the living room/garden/wherever and put them up on a hallway wall so my friends/guests may see my glorifying nudity as they enter my home!

Anyway-- I do still feel embarassed to see my mom naked and vice versa if she walks into my bedroom while I change. I have felt this way since I was developed. I felt it was wrong for my mom to see my breasts or whatnot. I don't care if she didn't feel it was wrong but at the same time I think I was worried that she wouldl find something wrong withmy body so I hid my nudity and steered clearly of it. (She is a nurse so she knows all telltattling signs of something goes wrong!)

I don't have any recollection of my dad being nude (thank goodness).

I know that my brother did shower with his wife and daughter (up to age 3) but after that, they stopped because the daughter needed to start to take her bath on own so...I am sure the daugther doesn't remember seeing her dad naked since she was probably too young to remember.

I am ambivalent about this issue. I think a child should be comfortable with nudity. (just NAKED bodies.. not bodies in an erotica position or whatnot). I don't want my child to grow up giggling out of being ashamed if s/he happens to see a penis or a nipple of a woman. S/he should be able to shrug it off like a mature person.
But at same time, I don't want to traumatize my kids if I force them to see my husband or myself being naked and develop an unusual attraction to either of us! :ekk:

Would that make different if either parents are still in great n' shape? That would be something odd.

As being adopted, I felt uncomfortable to see my dad in underwear. x_x

 

[Sunshinelady]

Liebling, sorry I am too late to read this thread.
I agree with you, so I dont have a kids, but I can imagine how is depends on?
Do you know about SAUNA!!! Germany do have many many Sauna, but in USA dont have the Sauna. My Aunt and me went to Sauna and saw they of little Family. lady with her husband and Son are going to Sauna too. their son dont need emparassed of many naked ppl in the Sauna. take easy it, to learn about it.

 

[Phillips]

As for me when My girl turn 6 years old.. So I am rather to be private! But I do wear a bra or underwear front of them or just an accident saw me a naked so mind. But Not walking naked around in the home front of my girls!

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Liebling, sorry I am too late to read this thread.
I agree with you, so I dont have a kids, but I can imagine how is depends on?
Do you know about SAUNA!!! Germany do have many many Sauna, but in USA dont have the Sauna. My Aunt and me went to Sauna and saw they of little Family. lady with her husband and Son are going to Sauna too. their son dont need emparassed of many naked ppl in the Sauna. take easy it, to learn about it.

Really? USA don't have sauna... ? Why?

I went to sauna every Wednesday in fitness studio on the same time as my son do with box kick training with fitness studio team. Daily Sauna from Monday to Friday except Wednesday for mixed and Wednesday for ladies only.

My both sons didn't try sauna yet. Sure, they will one day.

Yes I beleive it's good for the children to respect everyone instead of people's bodies.

 

[Reba]

Really? USA don't have sauna... ? Why?

I went to sauna every Wednesday in fitness studio on the same time as my son do with box kick training with fitness studio team. Daily Sauna from Monday to Friday except Wednesday for mixed and Wednesday for ladies only.

My both sons didn't try sauna yet. Sure, they will one day.

Yes I beleive it's good for the children to respect everyone instead of people's bodies.

USA has lots of saunas. They have them at spas, at clubs, at resorts, at gyms, and in people's homes.

 

[Handsome_Smiley]

I don't mind or care. But I also know when my kids get older, I won't want them to see the other sex parent nude and same with us. I think the age will be around 10 when we will start enforcing the rule. Right now, my kids are too young to know the difference. My son is about that age to know the difference and learning the difference. He needs to know what makes a boy different from a girl and same with my daughter.

 

[Huskies1947]

I see nothing wrong that the parents show their nude bodies to their children when the kids are in the bedroom while the parents are dressing or at bathroom. The children are curious what kind of bodies the parents have and questioned is natural but the parents show their kids the limitations when it comes to outside the home. The body is a natural thing and should not be hidden from the children.

My husband and I are very comfortable with our bodies and nudity and don't hide it from our children. Our children didn´t pay attention when they walks in while we´re dressing in the bedroom, wash ourselves, toilet, bath or shower in the bathroom when they want to talk us.

I think it is unnatural for parents to be weirded out by being nude in front of their children at any age because nudity is not a pornography but natural. IMO

But it should never be a shameful thing if they happen to see you naked or a part of your body you don't want seen by them. IMO

But it´s your choice to not let your child see you naked or it must be have good reason why the parents hide their bodies from their children.

Come and share your opinion/discuss with us......

Agree to Disagree are welcome here....

IT'S NOTHING WRONG TO SHOW YOUR NAKED BODY TO CHILDREN...AS I DID WITH MY 4 CHILDREN AS THEY DO NOT BOTHER TO STARE AT OUR BODIES..NOW ALL MY CHILDREN HAVE GROWN UP AND ON THEIR OWN!!!
AS WE ARE OPEN-MINDED PEOPLE...
LOOK...SAME WITH ADAM AND EVE WERE NAKED WHEN THEY MET....OF COURSE YOU KNOW THE REST!!! SMILES!!!

 

[katz4life]

Hmm, guess it is okay for boys to get hard-ons while looking at their own mothers and sisters being naked. Even that little daughters getting wet while looking at their own fathers or older brothers being naked.

 

[morbid-mongoose]

I blame society for this nonsense. I want to find the idiot that decided what "appropriate" was and bitch slap them upside the head. While I don't think parents should be walking around the house nude all the time, I don't think they should make it such a taboo thing if one of the kids sees them changing or going to get clothes out of the dryer to put on. The whole thing is only as big of a deal as people decide to make it. It's not like children are going to become rapists or sexually depraved lunatics because they saw their parents naked.

 

[Handsome_Smiley]

I blame society for this nonsense. I want to find the idiot that decided what "appropriate" was and bitch slap them upside the head. While I don't think parents should be walking around the house nude all the time, I don't think they should make it such a taboo thing if one of the kids sees them changing or going to get clothes out of the dryer to put on. The whole thing is only as big of a deal as people decide to make it. It's not like children are going to become rapists or sexually depraved lunatics because they saw their parents naked.

Understand what you are saying, but what is better? Trying all your best to hide that stuff from your kids(which makes them want it more), or be open about the body and them being more open to different sizes and shapes? With gals, you hide it, they want to be thin and be all bones, cause that what the mags show. If they are boys, they will go by only looks on a gal then how they are on the inside. Being open about it, they can accept reality and don't judge each other on how they look compared to Paris Hilton, The Olsen Twins or the other skinny models.

 

[kimeran]

This is an interesing question.

I remember seeing my mother naked once when I was about 8, and feeling extremely embarrassed, even though she wasn't.

I never saw my dad naked.

I know it should be natural, and nothing to feel embarrassed about, but I would, and I don't really know why.

 

[rjr2006]

i saw my father naked when I was 7 and I didn't have any clue about it until sex education in middle school. Now I know.

 

[rjr2006]

i would keep my private areas from letting children see them because they would get sex education in schools. then they will explore their own sexual organs........