Is it cheating?

shel90 said:
Really? Based on what? Your experience, other sources, or just pulled that from the air?

There are some couples that have a very healthy and active sex life but the husbands go to strip clubs. No correlation.
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Ooo! Ooo! Let me answer your question.
Yes! I got it from the air! lol fap lol fap lol

Anyway, if I have my own wife who go to stripping club. It depend, if she go with group that I would feel safe. If she go alone, then something is wrong with our relationship as I would feel guilt that I didn't give freak sexual or lacking relationship.
 
horselover61 said:
When I was married to my exh and I did go to strip club with my mom, sister and aunt. My exh knew about it and he let me go of course.

It is not cheating at all.

At that time my sister and aunt was also married and their husbands know about it too.
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Your mom? :lol: I can only imagine her face expression would have been when a male stripper stick his crotch over her face. :lol:

I have went with a group of my friends. I kept laughing and covering my face so much. :giggle: It's so nice to have so much attention by hot handsome guys. I mean it's fun.
 
PowerON said:
Ooo! Ooo! Let me answer your question.
Yes! I got it from the air! lol fap lol fap lol

Anyway, if I have my own wife who go to stripping club. It depend, if she go with group that I would feel safe. If she go alone, then something is wrong with our relationship as I would feel guilt that I didn't give freak sexual or lacking relationship.
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Now that you mentioned it...if my hubby went alone, I probably would wonder why. I couldn't go alone...too weird. In my view, strip clubs are for group entertainment like with bachelor parties, girls' night out, or just something to do with my hubby. We haven't gone to one in like 4 years...not something that a big deal for us.

If my hubby always went alone, then yea, iu would wonder if our relationship is ok.
 
If your husband/wife/spouse went to strip clubs alone...sometimes s/he tells you, sometimes s/he doesn't...is that okay with you?

Or let's put it this way...sex hasn't been that great. Then s/he goes to a strip club and comes back all hot and heavy, ready to tear your clothes off of you. How can that be a turn-on? It is not you (the wife/spouse) (and for clarification's sake, the word "you" is generalized...I'm not talking to a specific person) who got his fire going...it was the image of other naked women/men.

That would make me feel cheap and like my own body wasn't good enough for him.
 
I find it interesting that some people are saying cybersex is wrong.

What's the difference between cybersex and going to watch naked women/men strip? The both follow the stupid rule of "look but don't touch."
 
deafbajagal said:
If your husband/wife/spouse went to strip clubs alone...sometimes s/he tells you, sometimes s/he doesn't...is that okay with you?

Or let's put it this way...sex hasn't been that great. Then s/he goes to a strip club and comes back all hot and heavy, ready to tear your clothes off of you. How can that be a turn-on? It is not you (the wife/spouse) (and for clarification's sake, the word "you" is generalized...I'm not talking to a specific person) who got his fire going...it was the image of other naked women/men.

That would make me feel cheap and like my own body wasn't good enough for him.
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Like I said if my hubby went alone often to help him get all hot and heavy, then yea, I would wonder.

But if my hubby goes with his friends or with me...I dont have a problem with it.

Lemme ask him if he would go to a strip alone and his views on it and then get back to u. :)
 
He said he went alone 2 years ago and didnt enjoy it. I had forgotten all about it...lol!
 
Maybe the strip clubs have rules, but how would youse feel about your spouse "playing" with him/herself while watching/looking at the naked individuals?
 
Brian said:
Maybe the strip clubs have rules, but how would youse feel about your spouse "playing" with him/herself while watching/looking at the naked individuals?
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I would think that he is a pervert! LOL! I wouldnt want to know anyways..lol. I guess I do not stress about things like that cuz I have been thru a divorce and an ex hubby cheating on me with one of my friends. Maybe this is nothing to me compared to that. Hey, if not with a stripper, if a perspn wants to cheat..he/she will.
 
:hmm: HMMMM .. if my wife feels insecure about herself with me going to strip club as part of bacholars party , then i must be doing something wrong. Maybe i havent told her i think she is pretty , perfect. etc...

what do you think ?

On the other hand , I would feel pretty insecure if she didnt want to come too. I want her to see what goes on. I wouldnt mind going to hers either- just as long i dont have to stare and make sure the male daners stay away from my comfort zone. Not something i am interested in but have no problerm being with my wife in that room with her.

I like doing these things for role playing. You DONT have to copy but ideas is nice. I think this strengthens our marriage. 15 yrs and counting, i am still learning about her needs and wants. everytime i learn something new, a whole new world pops up.

deafbajagal - Why not dance for him like you said ? on the other hand why not join him going to these clubs. Its NOT all exclusive just for men- but i guarantee you can end up going home to the hottest, baddest sex you had in a long time. I for one - dont care who my wife is dreaming of- afterall she is screwing ME and only ME! wouldnt you agree with your hubby ? I hope this helps to enlighten you in some way.:lol:
 
Brian said:
Maybe the strip clubs have rules, but how would youse feel about your spouse "playing" with him/herself while watching/looking at the naked individuals?
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I haven't seen any men play with themselves when they're at a strip club, I've went to one with my ex boyfriend before, and women stripper do hit on other women at the club. Not only men that goes to women strip club, there were some women that went with their husbands or boyfriends. :)
 
WhisperHorse said:
If once in a while, it wouldn't bother me and I wouldn't consider it's cheating in any way.

If everyday or more often, then it would bother me and it could be "cheating" in emotional/mind way.
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True. Only if two ppl trust eachother and he tells her the truth where he is going with his friends, and she trust him, then no, its not really considered cheating...as long as there's no touching the women or whatever.
 
Steel X said:
True. Only if two ppl trust eachother and he tells her the truth where he is going with his friends, and she trust him, then no, its not really considered cheating...as long as there's no touching the women or whatever.
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What if I wanted to pat the male stripper's cute buns? I am always tempted to do that but according to a lot of people here that would be cheating so I better sit on my hands then. :giggle:
 
shel90 said:
I have had friends who used to be strippers..they said they enjoyed it and made a lot of money from it. Even one used the money to put her thru college and she has a MBA. If some women or men dont mind doing it, then who are we to say that they are morally wrong? As long as they are adults and it is something that they enjoy doing?

If someone is stripping out of desperation (underage, money, sex abuse, drugs and so on) then yea, it is a different story.
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I agree. It's ok if Strippers are over 18.
 
some strippers want to make money to put herself or himself through colleges to make it through without any support or scholarships, i dont blame them for what they work hard to make it through, i give them credit for that.

otherwise, there are some strippers wanted to make money for just fun and pleasure. its not my problem, as long they know what they can do or cant do. Thats simple as that, we [customers] should shut up and let them dance and earn the money.
 
Cheri said:
Your mom? :lol: I can only imagine her face expression would have been when a male stripper stick his crotch over her face. :lol:

I have went with a group of my friends. I kept laughing and covering my face so much. :giggle: It's so nice to have so much attention by hot handsome guys. I mean it's fun.
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As the matter of fact, my mom did enjoyed the nite. I will never forget the nite. I have a few pixes of it. One was me dancing with the stripper and it was my sister's idea. Dang her.
 
NorCal20 said:
some strippers want to make money to put herself or himself through colleges to make it through without any support or scholarships, i dont blame them for what they work hard to make it through, i give them credit for that.

otherwise, there are some strippers wanted to make money for just fun and pleasure. its not my problem, as long they know what they can do or cant do. Thats simple as that, we [customers] should shut up and let them dance and earn the money.
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Right, as long as they arent "forced" into it or doing it to get money for drugs but then again if they are over 18, they are legally allowed to strip. The OP mentioned that if it was her daughters, she would be outraged...made me think and if it was my daughter doing it...I wouldnt like it but if she is doing it for the right reasons, then *gulp* I just have to let her go and pray she wont get involved with the ugly side of it.
 
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