Is it cheating?

There are several reason that wife are doing wrong.

• Not horny enough
• limited sexual

There is point of view that wife would think it's cheating, because it's like open the present from woman.
 
Gemma said:
I feel that the answer is relative. It depends on the couple itself - if both agree, I dont think it is cheating. But if the man/woman goes despite his/her significant other's views, that would be considered cheating in a way that it means he is ignoring his significant other's feelings and emotions about him/her in a strip club. He/she is putting another person over his/her significant other.

I have friends who couldnt care less if their spouses go to strip club whereas there are other friends who do care. A friend is very very upset that her husband constantly views porn on Net or browse through adult shops without her. Clearly, in her eyes, he is cheating and she has lost over 25 lbs in 2 months, fretting over his Internet porn viewings and strip clubs.
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If the man is sexual addict, probably it's their desperate in sex that woman in marriage wouldn't give enough.

I find irony if I hear the wife isn't give something what husband need for like a year. oh geez. Both need to resolution each other.
 
deafbajagal said:
If a person is in a serious relationship (especially if married) and s/he goes to a strip club, is it consider cheating?

I think it is...because cheating doesn't always mean one person is sleeping with another person outside the relationship.

I'm curious to know what you think.
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It depends on the couple. If my man did I wouldn't consider it cheating. He's not sleeping with them, there is no emotional connection.

But neither of us are into strip clubs, so *shrugs*.
 
PowerON said:
There are several reason that wife are doing wrong.

• Not horny enough
• limited sexual

There is point of view that wife would think it's cheating, because it's like open the present from woman.
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Gurl, please. Humans are self aware thinking beings. Unless you have some agreement, when you marry it stays IN YOUR PANTS or IN your partner.

NO excuses.
 
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No, I do not see it's cheating for visit to strip club, look at topless women at beach, nude in sauna or look at porn movies... :dunno2:

It doesn't bother me and my hubby when we look at porn via email, we received from our friends because it's too boring for us..., also topless or nude as well... To us is natural thing...., not sexually... I visited strip club with co-workers few times at long time ago and haven't visit ever since... it doesn't bother me really...

I do not see anything that it's cheating... that's becuase they are naked... :dunno:


Touch each other is a different story...


 
PowerON said:
There are several reason that wife are doing wrong.

• Not horny enough
• limited sexual

There is point of view that wife would think it's cheating, because it's like open the present from woman.
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Why are you pointing fingers at the WIFE? a husband could wrong as well. Just keep it in mind that it takes two to tango and if one continues to step on other's toe, then the said partner will wander off to admire other dancers (so to speak.)
 
PowerON said:
There are several reason that wife are doing wrong.

• Not horny enough
• limited sexual

There is point of view that wife would think it's cheating, because it's like open the present from woman.
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:shock: huuuhh?

SFShawn13 said:
Gurl, please. Humans are self aware thinking beings. Unless you have some agreement, when you marry it stays IN YOUR PANTS or IN your partner.

NO excuses.
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Thank you for saying this, I was about to get a little testy. I am kind of in shock at the amount of the amount of ... never mind I will be nice.




Zaicate said:
Why are you pointing fingers at the WIFE? a husband could wrong as well. Just keep it in mind that it takes two to tango and if one continues to step on other's toe, then the said partner will wander off to admire other dancers (so to speak.)
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The topic has some how changed. I agree with you though.
 
FloggingMolly said:
:shock: huuuhh?
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:lol: That post wasn't even worth your reply IMO. Quite the charmer, aint he?

Yeah, equal accountability for both spouses in making their relationship work out. Keys are honest communication and keeping/showing an interest in each other, methinks. Can't throw a partner out like yesterday's garbage if they're not performing up to standard. :roll: There's always a reason, and it's worth finding out and working on that together.. or call it quits if necessary.
 
It's for entertainment, I'm sure most guys here on AD would love to have a stripper at their bachelor party.

But, if they go to a stripper bar to cheat then that would be cheating, but if they're just going there just to watch, it's not cheating. But, private lap-dances, strippers going in private rooms is where the line has been crossed. I know for matter of fact bouncers would not allow guys to touch the strippers, but strippers touching the guys during lap dances does happen.
 
it is up to the couple. they chose what is right for themselves. some view it as cheating, others do not. "to each their own"
 
I think it's a very sticky issue because it all comes down to this... women think they're always right. ;)

I know of situations where communication doesn't do any good. The women would say it's okay for their boyfriends to go to strip clubs, but after the strip club... the women bitch out at the men for going.

So, is it cheating? Some would say that the men should have known that it was a "test". Some would say "too bad" because the women shouldn't have said that in the first place.
 
VamPyroX said:
I think it's a very sticky issue because it all comes down to this... women think they're always right. ;)

I know of situations where communication doesn't do any good. The women would say it's okay for their boyfriends to go to strip clubs, but after the strip club... the women bitch out at the men for going.

So, is it cheating? Some would say that the men should have known that it was a "test". Some would say "too bad" because the women shouldn't have said that in the first place.
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yeah, i've notioced that too
 
Seems to me that if you have a problem with your boyfriend/husband going to a strip club, then you have insecurity issues. He just wants to go and see naked women. How is that different from you fantasizing about other men?
 
apparently women are way dirtier than men, i cant remember where i read about it, but im some health magazines, it goes like 'looking into a woman's soul is like discovering how dirty they really are' now before yoy sprout that off to me or do some rants, have to bear this in mind, it wasnt the exact quote and also believe me I arent a liar, i did really ee this article and fully understood what I've read, its just a very obscure sort of opinion that you dont see often, whats more it was IN a very trendy GYM/health magazine (I actually read it while on the cycle machine in the gym!!) so those magazines cant be accused of sexism or anything because its a very gym/sex oriented (and not there no porn - just MAYBE ONCE A BLUEMOON, a flash of tits or pubes that's about it.)
but yah this particular article changed my outlook in quite diffuerent ways its like 'finally unerstanding that women are SEXUAL beings too they crave sex just as much and while on balance they DENY this just as much !! (dont give me this 'PMS is real' BS story. i know its real but its' not like 'for a whole 3 weeks they Never think about sex and one week they 'do' but they insist on their counts). So it is quite clear that all the while women denys, they also have a lot of leverage in culture and society about how to 'control' men , -often to THEIR (womens) own advantages to let men do the fighting while women do the picking of theiir (bed/sex)mates......

just my 2cents boy am i gonna be in trouble? *ducks* <wish there was a 'duck down' smiliey)
 
Gemma said:
I feel that the answer is relative. It depends on the couple itself - if both agree, I dont think it is cheating. But if the man/woman goes despite his/her significant other's views, that would be considered cheating in a way that it means he is ignoring his significant other's feelings and emotions about him/her in a strip club. He/she is putting another person over his/her significant other.

I have friends who couldnt care less if their spouses go to strip club whereas there are other friends who do care. A friend is very very upset that her husband constantly views porn on Net or browse through adult shops without her. Clearly, in her eyes, he is cheating and she has lost over 25 lbs in 2 months, fretting over his Internet porn viewings and strip clubs.
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I could not have came up with a better answer. :)
 
It is interesting that some of you are saying if a woman is saying she dislikes her spouse going to the strip club, then she has insecurity issues. I did a quick survey last year with 50 women and 50 men (spouses)...and most of the women said they didn't like it...and the men said they are just looking, so it should be okay. HOWEVER, when I asked the men how they felt about their wives going to a male stripper club of some sorts, they admitted they were uncomfortable with it. Double standards at its best.

And most of you are saying it is the woman who would have this issue...in my OP, I stated "your spouse" - however many of you jumped to the conclusion that the woman is the one who has issues with the man going. Hmph.

The "look but don't touch" concept is full of bull. Most women (I can't speak for men) won't admit that it does sting when their guys/partners look elsewhere.

Here's another scenario.

A married (or someone who is in a serious relationship) spouse/partner has been invited by another person to have dinner with him/her. Suppose the spouse/partner is aware that they are having dinner. At the romantic dinner - expensive (more than what the spouse could afford) wine with candles and soft music. They talk in sexual overtones at the end of the conversation. There's no touching. Yet many people would call this cheating. Why? I'm just "looking" and "playing." I'd love to hear your answers on this one.
 
Liza said:
I disagree only with this part about cybersex - I consider it having an emotional affair and a personal big turn off. Save all the sexy talk with a real person in bed. :hmm: Say what you may about it, but that's just me.
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I agree big time. One guy was having "cybersex" while I was at his apartment...I walked into his office and then he started trying to cover up the computer screen. I broke up with him right then and there and walked out.
 
David said:
What if my wife comes with me? and enjoys it with me? I gotta say, though... when we were married, we'd go to strip clubs together and come home... it made for some really good sex.
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I personally find that sick and morally wrong. When many married couples engage in this kind of activity, it weakens their marriages.

It is a shame I cannot share my Christain beliefs on this forum, because that would open up a wonderful discussion in here (for those of us who can handle the discussion without it going to a flame war).

It is not a matter of insecurity. It is a matter of what one person views as morally acceptable. Many strippers have sold their souls because for whatever reason, they have turned to selling their bodies. Look in their eyes...some of their eyes are so sad and full of pain. I've been to several strip clubs to interview strippers for a project. I cried at every interview.

How can a person use (even if it is just looking) another person's body for self-gratification? That is selfish and cold and wrong. Especially when many of these 18 year olds on that stage get off and do their Algebra homework because they are still in high school. It is much worse when the viewers have kids the same age as the girls and boys stripping. How can that be right? For those of you who have daughters...just think. They could be on that stage one day. Is that okay? The thought of my own daughters on that stage with people using their bodies to gratify sickens me.
 
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