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A lot better. Still a little "heavy headed" but not sure if that's due to the residual from the migraine or the melatonin I took to get some sleep. I am finally migraine free and have had a full 9 hours of sleep. Going for my coffee now.
 
Feels good working hard, the more hours I earn n' the more benefits I get, it's worthwhile living at home.
 
I'm still furious at my parents for committing a felon crime against their own child, simply because they haven't made good life choices of their own and aren't willing to make real sacrifices to improve their lives or themselves. I've been writing a letter to send them, but I always erase it because I feel it isn't strong enough or I re-write it and feel it has too much teeth to it.

I feel I don't want to ever become that and still can't get the saying from the Dark Knight out of my head which fits them. I remember a time my parents were nice, honest people, who taught me not to mock or hate anyone for being different, that everyone is different and to respect that. Starting in the late 90's, I think that's when my father started to change a bit, which was around the time we first became homeless (1999-2000 or so), he became angry and when he found out I took money from school so I could eat a warm meal, I got the beating of my life, where before then, he'd have explained to me and offer guidance and experience.

After homelessness, we got a trailer hundreds of miles away down south, and I remember seeing him like half-agreeing with Fox news, then a few years later, it's all he watched. His views on everything changed so much, so fast that now I don't even think I know who he is anymore, he isn't the same person at all, and it saddens me deeply.

I don't know what to do, I feel what friends I have here have turned a cold shoulder to me, and my family seems to want me to keep in contact and come by to see them, and it's like picturing hugging one and the sole reason is to get close enough and distracted enough to grab your wallet for whatever they can get out of it. I don't understand this whole thing that the forums are your family, but maybe it's just me. Friends, I can understand, but again, maybe it's just me?

I need more than a parka in this world, I need an EV suit to endure it. I'm feeling somewhat optimistic though, since I'm starting my training very soon and I just want to get into that, learn it, become certified and get to work and hopefully change my belief that I am nothing more than a product of my upbringing.
 
Saavik said:
I'm still furious at my parents for committing a felon crime against their own child, simply because they haven't made good life choices of their own and aren't willing to make real sacrifices to improve their lives or themselves. I've been writing a letter to send them, but I always erase it because I feel it isn't strong enough or I re-write it and feel it has too much teeth to it.

I feel I don't want to ever become that and still can't get the saying from the Dark Knight out of my head which fits them. I remember a time my parents were nice, honest people, who taught me not to mock or hate anyone for being different, that everyone is different and to respect that. Starting in the late 90's, I think that's when my father started to change a bit, which was around the time we first became homeless (1999-2000 or so), he became angry and when he found out I took money from school so I could eat a warm meal, I got the beating of my life, where before then, he'd have explained to me and offer guidance and experience.

After homelessness, we got a trailer hundreds of miles away down south, and I remember seeing him like half-agreeing with Fox news, then a few years later, it's all he watched. His views on everything changed so much, so fast that now I don't even think I know who he is anymore, he isn't the same person at all, and it saddens me deeply.

I don't know what to do, I feel what friends I have here have turned a cold shoulder to me, and my family seems to want me to keep in contact and come by to see them, and it's like picturing hugging one and the sole reason is to get close enough and distracted enough to grab your wallet for whatever they can get out of it. I don't understand this whole thing that the forums are your family, but maybe it's just me. Friends, I can understand, but again, maybe it's just me?

I need more than a parka in this world, I need an EV suit to endure it. I'm feeling somewhat optimistic though, since I'm starting my training very soon and I just want to get into that, learn it, become certified and get to work and hopefully change my belief that I am nothing more than a product of my upbringing.
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This might seem really simplistic, but you need to change your bank account so that they have no access.

You could also sue them to return your money that they acquired by theft.
 
Bottesini said:
This might seem really simplistic, but you need to change your bank account so that they have no access.

You could also sue them to return your money that they acquired by theft.
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I totally agree. Simple solution is to change banks. You can set it up where there is no paperwork mailed out. Get your statements online.

This is the perfect case for......Judge Judy:giggle:

Your parents are wrong and they need to pay you back your money.
 
Angel1989 said:
I totally agree. Simple solution is to change banks. You can set it up where there is no paperwork mailed out. Get your statements online.

This is the perfect case for......Judge Judy:giggle:

Your parents are wrong and they need to pay you back your money.
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Bottesini said:
This might seem really simplistic, but you need to change your bank account so that they have no access.

You could also sue them to return your money that they acquired by theft.
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It's a small town bank, so I likely have to wait since I doubt they will let me do it via IPrelay. Plus it's in my name, they aren't supposed to have access, but they got some of my checks somehow and are signing my name to them. I haven't ordered any checks and have the checks the bank issued me still right here.

I doubt I could afford a lawyer for what would be to them consider small amount of money.
 
Saavik said:
It's a small town bank, so I likely have to wait since I doubt they will let me do it via IPrelay. Plus it's in my name, they aren't supposed to have access, but they got some of my checks somehow and are signing my name to them. I haven't ordered any checks and have the checks the bank issued me still right here.

I doubt I could afford a lawyer for what would be to them consider small amount of money.
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How you know its the parents not their friend or a stranger that broke in their place n got your check somehow. Or a friend from the past.

Simple if u can live for few weeks without check just call bank n have them freeze account due to stolen checks. Or go and file police report.
 
Saavik said:
It's a small town bank, so I likely have to wait since I doubt they will let me do it via IPrelay. Plus it's in my name, they aren't supposed to have access, but they got some of my checks somehow and are signing my name to them. I haven't ordered any checks and have the checks the bank issued me still right here.

I doubt I could afford a lawyer for what would be to them consider small amount of money.
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You don't need a lawyer for things like this. Banks have many things in place for exact situations that happen like this every single day. All you have to do is contact the bank and make a fraud report and they'll take it from there. They're insured for this stuff, it's no sweat off their back. The money gets returned to you and they freeze the checks and switch your account numbers. Go look for another bank, move everything there and start putting things in motion... Yes, it's that simple. Things like this happen every single day to people except on a much larger scale for some. They're used to the protocol it takes and used to handling it even if they are a smaller bank. They still have insurance and still have policies and procedures in place to protect you and themselves. Do as Bott said, make a report, freeze the account and move your banking elsewhere and resolve this... problem resolved.
 
SilverRoxy said:
I am feeling bored. Looking for something to do.
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I, too, was bored. What did I do? Get myself caught up on certain stuff I needed to take care of, so now I'm pretty good, although mind you-- a couple more things to do, but those can wait, as it's too :cold: now.
 
Mewtilation said:
How did your date go? :hmm: :D
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We have been talking to each other alot on facebook. We didn't meet in person yet. He said he is willing to learn sign language for me. I am quiet person so I want someone opposite of me. He is talkative which is a good sign. My friend told me that he is very stable financially and emotionally. We like same foods. I hope he finds me attractive. :fingersx:
 
feeling bit pissed off with the new HA and that pushy audi, what an ignorant prat he is, he needs to be deported back to where ever he's from gRRRRR
 
SilverRoxy said:
We have been talking to each other alot on facebook. We didn't meet in person yet. He said he is willing to learn sign language for me. I am quiet person so I want someone opposite of me. He is talkative which is a good sign. My friend told me that he is very stable financially and emotionally. We like same foods. I hope he finds me attractive. :fingersx:
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Hey you're on each others Facebooks so you've seen each other by now haven't you? :P Well if you're talking a lot, that's good! Stability is always a good sign too, that's what I look for first. :D For some reason, I find is sexy... :laugh2: Yes, sexy... not attractive... sexy... :laugh2: You have a stable job, education, house and car.... zomg, SEXY! :laugh2: Weird? Probably.... :laugh2:
 
Mewtilation said:
You don't need a lawyer for things like this. Banks have many things in place for exact situations that happen like this every single day. All you have to do is contact the bank and make a fraud report and they'll take it from there. They're insured for this stuff, it's no sweat off their back. The money gets returned to you and they freeze the checks and switch your account numbers. Go look for another bank, move everything there and start putting things in motion... Yes, it's that simple. Things like this happen every single day to people except on a much larger scale for some. They're used to the protocol it takes and used to handling it even if they are a smaller bank. They still have insurance and still have policies and procedures in place to protect you and themselves. Do as Bott said, make a report, freeze the account and move your banking elsewhere and resolve this... problem resolved.
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I can't file a report or press charges against them, it would leave my brother without any place to go, and he is mentally handicapped, but I do want my money back, but I can't just throw my brother under the bus like that.

Jabberwocky said:
How you know its the parents not their friend or a stranger that broke in their place n got your check somehow. Or a friend from the past.

Simple if u can live for few weeks without check just call bank n have them freeze account due to stolen checks. Or go and file police report.
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How do I know its my parents? Well, on the back of the checks, the person writing them is writing "For deposit only" and they signed their name, which is my father's name. Plus they don't have friends, not even exaggerating on that.
 
Saavik said:
I can't file a report or press charges against them, it would leave my brother without any place to go, and he is mentally handicapped, but I do want my money back, but I can't just throw my brother under the bus like that.



How do I know its my parents? Well, on the back of the checks, the person writing them is writing "For deposit only" and they signed their name, which is my father's name. Plus they don't have friends, not even exaggerating on that.
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If your brother is mentally handicapped, it wouldn't leave him with no place to go, he wouldn't be thrown on the streets... he would be taken care of by the state. ( just throwing it out there because it seems honestly like that might be a better situation from some of the things you have said in here in the past ) Not sure what situations have changed. Maybe try and threaten them. Either way, freeze the account tomorrow and move to another bank... that much you can take care of.
 
ditto- I'm pretty sure you will be able to do that via IPRelay. If not- the first thing you do when you get back to Virginia is take a trip to the bank and talk to them about it. First step is preventing them from getting any more of your money. Let the bank folks investigate and go from there.


Crap.. reminds me I need to go to the bank to talk to them about this stupid fee on my checking account-- taking money away from me when I don't have direct deposit or am able to keep a certain balance in there! growl. Have never understood why they do that.. sure slap a fee on somebody who isn't working and does not have a disposable income (or a very big one for that matter) at the moment...
 
Saavik, either you want things to change or you don't. As several other ADers have mentioned, you can protect your bank account without incriminating your parents. If you don't want to involve them, just close that account and open a new one. You won't get back your money but at least you can protect future funds. Also, inform your parents that you know their scheme. That way, they are warned and won't get into further trouble. If they choose to ignore the warning, then it's on their hands. You did what you could to protect them.

Did it occur to you that if they write back checks from your account and those bounce it could back on you? Do you want to be arrested? Of course, not. You need to protect yourself.

It won't do your brother any good if you all end up in jail.

Saavik, it's time to quit living as a victim and become a victor.
 
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