Heath's dating situation ? Help please ? Advice ?

[Liebling:-)))]

Heath, you sure have high hopes for what you expect in a woman. It's NEVER gonna work. You need to go with the flow and let her come to you. Most of the time women who come to you means they're really interested in you, like for example sweetheart came to me and that's how relationship goes.

There's no such thing as a perfect woman. Example: What if a large woman with sweet personality comes to you and likes you a lot. What will you do? Run away because she's big? Think about it!

*nodding agreement*

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I would not know about that but I am getting very tired of dating girls who are mental cases. I have had enough.

Do you mean that EVERY woman you date, are mental cases?

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Yes, I see that but u still read porn and drink.

Serious Christian? Excuse me, u read porn and drink beer/wine...

I see nothing wrong if everyone read porn and drink moderately. Remember Heath is only human like everyone.

 

[diehardbiker]

Exactly! He is only human, and should be treating others as human as well. Being perfect means being inhuman! yuck!

I see nothing wrong if everyone read porn and drink moderately. Remember Heath is only human like everyone.

 

[Heath]

Do you mean that EVERY woman you date, are mental cases?

Not every but it does seem that way which is why I am fed up.

 

[Heath]

Exactly! He is only human, and should be treating others as human as well. Being perfect means being inhuman! yuck!

I never said anything about being perfect and I want a woman of a good quality who will one day be my wife.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I am not bringing up my past at all. It is the women who are the problem. It seems everytime I date a girl she seems normal at first and I find out whoa she has serious mental health issues.

I´m wondering why every woman you date, has serious health issues?

Of course women are human, from Adam's rib to form a woman. You would be surprised to see I am open minded as long as it makes sense and lines up with the Holy Bible. I do respect and understand what is going on and it is you who do not understand nor respect what is going on.

Well, every (I would say EVERY) woman, you date will be not happy to learn that you want to change her for you because every woman will expect you accept them what they are as the same as they accept what you are. If you really love a woman then accept what she is and not look her as your prefect wife. Every woman will expect something from you is support her to bring children together up. You can´t expect to be master in the house like old fashioned way. Every woman will not like it because they beleive to be equal as man.

I would NEVER marry a man who beleive to be master in the house...

 

[Dino65]

This thread will not be locked unless I ask for it to be locked. I did respect the ladies and explained where I stand on a wide range of issues which you hated to see because I am one step ahead to becoming better than you and I know the Deaf community very well, The Deaf men are extremely competitive in everything that they do so am I but I am focused on the quality of the lady which probably angers and makes you very extremely jealous. You also exhibit a lack of respect towards me which I have shown you respect. I am the one who will ask for the thread to be locked at anytime I want it locked.

Heathie I don't think so .. You are not the one who have decided this. It is all up to Alex or the moderator(s) to decide. (Right, Alex?) You assume everything about being Deaf men are extremely competitive in the Deaf community. You also assume that I am very extremely jealous which I am not. I am not interested in you at all. If I were straight .. likes to go on date a guy who is highly open minded and respects woman. Same for a woman too. Not looking down on me as an object. The most important is to respect each others and be open mind. I wouldn't want to date you from what I have read your comments. It disgusts me about the way you have treated toward me and the women in this thread. Thanks

 

[starrygaze]

All are not perfect. I should mention to know LOVE. Women should have more independent as we do. I know I love God too and want to make woman very happiness. I also still grown up. Has to know how to respect women and love children. I always bring my kids to go to swim, bowl, hike, movie, and many funs. We have all flaws. See I have two kids. I seem very happy with them.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Heath, who would want to date you? You are a racist, gay basher, and your attitude stinks most of the times. All I can say is good luck in finding a woman whose personality is exactly the same as yours.

Heath,

See the example of ButterflyGirl´s post. She is one of every woman what I tried explain in my previous post.

ButterflyGirl doesn´t mean to insult you in her post but tell you what she as woman think and feel after read your posts because it´s you who expect a woman to be prefect. It is hard to find woman, you wish for your future wife because every woman beleive in love, respect and beautiful inside, not worry outside.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Hello Heath,

I do understand how you feel with women who is become mental problems(not always, depends on what kind, it might be serious or not, etc like that). But just remember that everybody include you and I aren't that perfect. You know that I will say that, of course. Also, everybody have GREAT personality on their own and have BEAUTIFUL inside and outside on their own, no matter about size, shapes, color, everything. Also, yo usound like that you MUST have a perfect wife. I felt like that way. And, look at me and you already met me on the webcam of course. Im a large woman and it hurt my feeling when I saw what you said to my boyfriend, Sequoias. It's not right for you to saying that because women can be LARGE anytime, like.. Depression to eating, pregnant, everything like that. Would you stay with her if she's a large woman? And, I saw what you said to CoolieFroggie that you would divorce with your wife for her best friend who is lebsian. I was like, CoolieFroggie MEANS her best friend is lesian but your wife is STRAIGHT and is in love with you so much, jsut being friend with her because of her personality and everything like that but don't care if she's lesbian or not. I don't understand why you can't accept it?



And, your list sounds not bad. But remember, that woman can't have ALL of them in once. Also, I think it's good idea to looking for a woman with great personality, smart, sense of humor, have good common sense, love family and you, love going to church, being christan like you are, etc like that. It could be happen but ALL OF THEM, it would be very tough to find that kind of woman you know what I mean? But I hope you will find that, but just remember what I told you about tough to find that... And, I know that you are smart man but I know you could be hard head(no offense if you feel that's insult, I just said that becuase you like to do your own way sometime, sorry). And, I would help you with that situation if you want me to. I wouldn't judge on you or order you to do or whatever like that, I DON'T CARE what you want in woman as long as she do make you happy period. That's what I like about... And I wish you a good luck to find a woman like that way or mostly of things that you want what kind in a woman...

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Heath, You control over ladies that you dated and you caused them psycho. You cannot make them what you want them to be. Noone are perfect! You cannot expect that you have a perfect wife, life, job with wealth. God want see if you can accept that no perfect lady, low pay job, etc then god will bless you.

I have to warn you about If your wife get preg, then she might gain her weight. She cannot help it. If you didnt like it, she might leave you and give you a divorce. Please accept your future wife if she gain weight after birth or whatever.

Look I married my husband for 10 years. He never force me do something what he like. He accept who am I. He is a hearing and I am deaf. I accept who is he. We are much different but we respect each other so much. Our love become very very strong. I was little chucky when I met him before got married.

*nodding agreement*

I would like to add a more question for you, Heath...

What about PostPartnum Depression? Would you help her instead of criticize her?

 

[Dino65]

Heath,

See the example of ButterflyGirl´s post. She is one of every woman what I tried explain in my previous post.

ButterflyGirl doesn´t mean to insult you in her post but tell you what she as woman think and feel after read your posts because it´s you who expect a woman to be prefect. It is hard to find woman, you wish for your future wife because every woman beleive in love, respect and beautiful inside, not worry outside.

I agree with Liebling

Butterfly is not insulting you at all .. she tries to make a good point. Is it possible that you don't like to be criticized by the women here. Feel being threatened by us, the woman here? That's because you were raised and taught by your family's valve. You need to be open up and listen to the women here. Again you need to learn not to oppress us here .

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Quote:
Originally Posted by racheleggert
Heath,
I understand.... As for me, if my boyfriend or husband has GLBT friends, it doesn't bother because I have GLBT friend like Cooliefroggie, and some in real life. I don't judge on people.. I let god decide where I should go.

True

Maybe you can meet lady at church social or whatever events they have at church, or go to christian dating online service.

Yes Thank you, I am looking at church but really I should go for the church service and not for the women. If a woman happens to be the one then I will approach her and go from there and it has to be a Christ-centered relationship where we both pray and fast and do things for God, Jesus Christ and The Holy Spirit.

I wish you best of good luck.

 

[Heath]

I agree with Liebling

Butterfly is not insulting you at all .. she tries to make a good point. Is it possible that you don't like to be criticized by the women here. Feel being threatened by us, the woman here? That's because you were raised and taught by your family's valve. You need to be open up and listen to the women here. You need to learn not to oppress us here too.

You can criticize me as much as you want and it won't change nothing. I am not threatened by you nor am I oppressing you at all. You just think I do or that I will because of your own imagination running wild.

I grew up with very good honest old fashioned set of family values and old traditions, compared to the garbage that is out there. My wife and my kids will know the very good honest old fashioned family values and old traditions which actually makes them stronger for later in life.

 

[Heath]

*nodding agreement*

I would like to add a more question for you, Heath...

What about PostPartnum Depression? Would you help her instead of criticize her?

Wow !!!!!!! You think I am going to criticize her !!!! Amazing what all of you are really thinking is not what I am thinking.

If she has depression from pregnancy, that is normal. I will help her through it but I do not want to be married to a woman like Andrea Yates with postpartnum depression at all. It is when a woman gets depressed so bad she becomes very mental and turns into a child killer and kills my kids because she had a mental disorder then gets pregnant and goes into some major abnormal depression after pregnancy. I do not want a mental nutcase for a wife.

If she is going through normal depression after pregnancy then that is fine. I will help her through it but she will need to understand I got to get some sleep and be up in the morning to go to work.

 

[CutePommie]

Oh for god's sake Heath in the end of the day you are human like the rest of us , !!!

 

[Dino65]

You can criticize me as much as you want and it won't change nothing. I am not threatened by you nor am I oppressing you at all. You just think I do or that I will because of your own imagination running wild.

I grew up with very good honest old fashioned set of family values and old traditions, compared to the garbage that is out there. My wife and my kids will know the very good honest old fashioned family values and old traditions which actually makes them stronger for later in life.

I guess you are very sensitive ... I am not criticizing u but I am trying to make a good point. Apparently you seems don't understand this or you blocked it out. (won't listen to my opinion or point of view). I have a family who were/are into the church, etc and many more. My grandmother and a great aunt were church goer. I happen to be gay - same for my aunt Betty who is in 60's is also a gay. My grandmother accepted Betty who is! She never knew that I am gay. I came out of the closet to my wonderful parents a few years after her death.

We were raised with alot of love, respect, and some garbages. The time have changed!

 

[Awauphi]

Wow !!!!!!! You think I am going to criticize her !!!! Amazing what all of you are really thinking is not what I am thinking.

If she has depression from pregnancy, that is normal. I will help her through it but I do not want to be married to a woman like Andrea Yates with postpartnum depression at all. It is when a woman gets depressed so bad she becomes very mental and turns into a child killer and kills my kids because she had a mental disorder then gets pregnant and goes into some major abnormal depression after pregnancy. I do not want a mental nutcase for a wife.

If she is going through normal depression after pregnancy then that is fine. I will help her through it but she will need to understand I got to get some sleep and be up in the morning to go to work.

but you never know a lady CAN change overnight ~!~~ due to chemicals mess up in brain.. all women who had kids all have postpartnum depression. I had it .. they said its normal for women to have it due to hormones changes in body .. during preggy.. trhen after giving birth to baby .. your body changes cuz no more baby inside so your body CRASH.. hence its called postpartum blues.. all women went thru this. but can get well but sometimes severe.. you never know! all women are different. so how do u know if your wife WILL not have a postpartum blues? she WILL at one times or another ..

 

[diehardbiker]

Know what that really means???


FANTASY!!!!

NICE ONE, and we all wish you LOTS LOTS LOTS of luck!

My wife and my kids will know the very good honest
old fashioned family values and old traditions which actually makes them stronger for later in life.