Heath's dating situation ? Help please ? Advice ?

[SxyPorkie]

Heath, who would want to date you? You are a racist, gay basher, and your attitude stinks most of the times. All I can say is good luck in finding a woman whose personality is exactly the same as yours.

Be Careful...I got warning for insulting him....

 

[LakeTahoe]

That's whacky thread I ever seen. You CANNOT find a PERFECT lady to match you needs. Like other said let God take care of it and he will LEAD you to a woman that you will fallen in love and get marry and have a family in the future. I let it go and God led me to DHB65. Sooo let it go, Heath. Be your self and enjoy your life!

 

[Heath]

I find it interesting that not one person mentioned finding a girl at church. I'm not into church myself, but if you are Heath, then look there. I know how small towns are so if there is no one in your church then try a similar faith or go to a nearby bigger town. I'm sorry that so many people in here would rather attack you than try to help. Leave the internet alone it's full of loonies. My brother is really into church and wanted a christian wife and there was a girl I had gone to school with that was looking for a christian man. I ran into her dad at my office and we hooked them up. They've been together for years and have 2 kids. Start with some sane friends and have them help you look. Good luck.

Thank you for a sensible answer. God Bless You !!!!!

 

[Heath]

Heath

I suggest that you pray and surrender this issue to God. Let God take care of it. God will have you find your Ms Right when He thinks you are ready.

But you need to examine your expectations. Your expectations seems awfully high - it will be almost impossible to find that one if you expect so much from love.

Maybe you attracted these mental case types because you love to help and offer advice, etc. Next time dont give so much of yourself and see true colors as it is.

When I am dating my girlfriend then I don't except to be helping her with her mental health problems. Would you enjoy dating someone who is always depressed and very suicidal all the time and she is always either in the emergency room or in the hospital and my girlfriend's family are very angry at me because she attempted suicide then I keep going back and forth trying to help her and by that time I have lost interest in her and now I have a good girlfriend then that ex-girlfriend with mental health issues soon ends up in the hospital for good in a locked part of the hospital for treatment and observation or she is on suicide watch because now, I have a new girlfriend.

How can I have a normal relationship with my girlfriend who is none of these things ? I should not have to be dealing with these things. I should be able to enjoy being in a relationship with a woman who enjoys life, wants the same things as me, success, future plans achieved together, have kids together and she is a very good mom to my kids and she is not gone half of the time hidden away and locked up in a mental hospital or in a correctional facility because clearly I am not that very good with the kids. I am a man and I work hard and I can really provide for my family. That is something I will be very good at. Well, my exceptations maybe alittle higher but that is because of those experiences I have had brought me to where I am today. Yes, I like to help and give advice and for once, I would like to be able to help and give advice to my girlfriend who has a stable good mind and puts these things to good use without ending up in the mental hospital, back in jail or on 24 hour suicide watch and these girlfriends that I have had are not 18, 20 years old although I have had girlfriends like that when I was younger. I have had girlfriends who were 27-28 years old and I am 30 years old. I should not have to be dealing with a woman who has mental health issues. I should be able to enjoy being with a woman who will prove to be a real blessing both to me and her too. That is what I am talking about.

 

[CutePommie]

 

[Awauphi]

Heath, you sure have high hopes for what you expect in a woman. It's NEVER gonna work. You need to go with the flow and let her come to you. Most of the time women who come to you means they're really interested in you, like for example sweetheart came to me and that's how relationship goes.

There's no such thing as a perfect woman. Example: What if a large woman with sweet personality comes to you and likes you a lot. What will you do? Run away because she's big? Think about it!

i have come to a guy in the past.. but he turned me down.. i prefer for a guy to come to me and let me know he is interested in me .. that way i wont be embarrassed for being turned down?

but then i am not in a rush to find someone.. its better to wait.. and let it happen naturally.. God will bring him to me.. matters of when? i dont know.. its better to be patient and wait.. u will find her.. just like me.. I will find my guy too someday!

no one are perfect.. i am a christian and i do go to church.. i still drink a little.. God will forgive us for not being perfect..

im hoping to find a guy who do love God and go to church with me every Sunday and doesnt smoke, doesnt do drugs.. love my son.. and live the life and be happy .. but i know it wont be perfect but we can strive on that..

 

[Heath]

i have come to a guy in the past.. but he turned me down.. i prefer for a guy to come to me and let me know he is interested in me .. that way i wont be embarrassed for being turned down?

but then i am not in a rush to find someone.. its better to wait.. and let it happen naturally.. God will bring him to me.. matters of when? i dont know.. its better to be patient and wait.. u will find her.. just like me.. I will find my guy too someday!

no one are perfect.. i am a christian and i do go to church.. i still drink a little.. God will forgive us for not being perfect..

im hoping to find a guy who do love God and go to church with me every Sunday and doesnt smoke, doesnt do drugs.. love my son.. and live the life and be happy .. but i know it wont be perfect but we can strive on that..

Amen to that !!!!! Well Said !!!!!!

 

[sequoias]

Why don't Heath and smileygin date...you sound like both are loyal to god.

 

[Heath]

Why don't Heath and smileygin date...you sound like both are loyal to god.

I think she said some where that she is 62 years old. I could be wrong but if she is 62 years old then she is old enough to be my grandmother. Yes, she is loyal to God so am I too. I am looking for a woman who is between 21 to 30 years old.

 

[Sunshine1]

How's about calling Dr Phil?

 

[Heath]

How's about calling Dr Phil?

How about you stop mocking and making fun. If you don't want to help, Say nothing. You may find yourself one day needing help and you get nothing but insults and vicious backstabbing then see how that goes over real good with you huh ? How you like that ? I don't need a doctor or anything like that. I am just simply asking for help. Let me make this even more clear to you, if you find yourself needing help and you are not being helped. I would not be surprised and I will not return the favor to help you with good advice. Pure and simple period.

 

[DeafMommy0407]

Heath,

I have a question so pls do not bash on me, I am already having a hard week. Thanks.

Now, the question is: if you are dating a gal and you find out that she has a sister that is pregnant and unmarried. What do you have to say about it? You just stop dating your gal and give her sister a long lecture about God and this and that?

Please be honest and do not bash on me. I am just curious, that all. Thank you.

 

[Sunshine1]

Relationship Problem

How about you stop mocking and making fun. If you don't want to help, Say nothing. You may find yourself one day needing help and you get nothing but insults and vicious backstabbing then see how that goes over real good with you huh ? How you like that ? I don't need a doctor or anything like that. I am just simply asking for help. Let me make this even more clear to you, if you find yourself needing help and you are not being helped. I would not be surprised and I will not return the favor to help you with good advice. Pure and simple period.

I didn't installing you! I was suggesting as helping you. Btw, I found that might help you. The reason I give you this , thought it would be helpful rather then asking us. Here is the link:
Relationship problems to solve at Love-Sessions

 

[Oceanbreeze]

How about you stop mocking and making fun. If you don't want to help, Say nothing. You may find yourself one day needing help and you get nothing but insults and vicious backstabbing then see how that goes over real good with you huh ? How you like that ? I don't need a doctor or anything like that. I am just simply asking for help. Let me make this even more clear to you, if you find yourself needing help and you are not being helped. I would not be surprised and I will not return the favor to help you with good advice. Pure and simple period.

Come on, Heath. Get real. This is a forum, so you better expect lots of opinions, and some may not be to your liking.

I need to ask you something. Why bring this type of problem to us, in the first place? Many of us, if not all of us, don't fit your standards, so why in the name of sanity would you bring this kind of problem to us to help you solve? This is not an issue that can be solved on a forum such as this. This is best taken up between yourself and a pastor, or something like that.

I, myself, am skeptical. You claim to be a good Christian man, but you have gone to bars, looked at porn, and have displayed a rather nasty temper on here of late. I don't want to judge, but that doesn't sound like a Godly man to me. That sounds like someone with a lot of issues.

I would really suggest you look at yourself and figure out what it is you want from a woman, and also, reevaluate if that is attainable for said woman. Because, honestly, what you expect from a woman isn't possible. Neither she, nor you, will be very happy if you tried to make her adhere to your standards.

 

[Reba]

...I am a Christian and I am not perfect either but I do have faith in God, I work hard and I don't read porn hardly if anything at all then there is a good moral point to the story when I post in the pensarium forum and it usually is clean with a good moral point to the story.

Maybe God hasn't yet sent the right woman to you because He's still working on you so that you will be the right man for your future wife.

No nice Christian woman wants to marry a man who reads porn, even a tiny bit. Also, there is no such thing as "a good moral point" to a porn story. That sounds like the flimsy excuse men use when they say, "I just subscribe to Playboy magazine for the articles." Ha! Also, if a Christian woman finds out that you read and post in a forum called "Penisarium" she will run for the hills.

I only have a cold one every night after dinner and there are millions of another Christian men that drink beer and still are Christians, hard working and honest.

They might be hard working and honest but they aren't honoring Christ by drinking beer, cold or otherwise.

I don't know what church you attend but your Pastor should be preaching against drinking alcohol if he is a strong Bible preacher.

Anyway, it's up to you. If you can't surrender your porn and beer for the sake of finding a good woman, then maybe you aren't serious enough yet for the search.

One more point. Women need security. If a man doesn't have a strong career goal, it makes a woman feel insecure. I'm not saying you have to be rich or type-A workaholic. But at your age, you do need to have a definite education/work plan established, and you need to show that you are actually striving towards that goal.

 

[Reba]

I think she said some where that she is 62 years old. I could be wrong but if she is 62 years old then she is old enough to be my grandmother. Yes, she is loyal to God so am I too. I am looking for a woman who is between 21 to 30 years old.

Her profile says age 33. Not quite your granny.

 

[Heath]

I didn't installing you! I was suggesting as helping you. Btw, I found that might help you. The reason I give you this , thought it would be helpful rather then asking us. Here is the link:
Relationship problems to solve at Love-Sessions

That is nothing more than a cop out for a woman to get people on her side when she should be rightfully obeying her husband and not rebelling against her husband. The husband is the one that provides her with good directions and instructions. I have done all I can do to help her but she keeps giving me excuses and if she would have done the things I told her to do then we would not be seeing a doctor and I am not going to waste my money on a doctor, not when she is disobeying me and not doing the things I told her to do so I am saving myself the money, time and trouble and it will be a waste of her time playing games when I am serious about doing things the right way and she is not. That is no way to enjoy a relationship and she is to submit to her husband in the appropriate way and if she can not do that then she obivously must have some mental health issues of some kind to be wanting to run to the door of a doctor because doctors are for nutcases and I am not the nutcase here, she is the nutcase here. Why should I have to deal with her being suicidal, doing bizzare things when I am a guy just wanting to have a good girlfriend who does none of these things and I know there is nothing wrong with me. If she can't do those things then something is definetely wrong with her big time, man !!!!! I am not the one who is trying to commit suicide or do all kinds of bizarre things or being manipulative at all. She is all those things, suicidal and much more. That is why I have had enough and it is much better to be with a normal girlfriend who is stable, of good sound mind and can be a good mother to my kids when we start a family. Why should I want a bad mom who is suicidal and exhibits bizarre behavior and is locked away in a mental institiution or a correctional facility half of the time while the kids are growing up. I do not need a damaged goods mom for my kids. I want a good loving, normal rational and commonsense mom for my kids and I am the father that provides good direction, guidance and advice to my kids and I work hard, come home provide for my family, my wife and kids are content and happy and I am happy too. That makes for a win-win situation and nobody wants a un-happy family and I am not going to have a un-happy family at all because of my wife who is unstable, emotional and suicidal all the time. Just no thanks , done enough and no more to those kind of women period.

 

[Heath]

Come on, Heath. Get real. This is a forum, so you better expect lots of opinions, and some may not be to your liking.

I need to ask you something. Why bring this type of problem to us, in the first place? Many of us, if not all of us, don't fit your standards, so why in the name of sanity would you bring this kind of problem to us to help you solve? This is not an issue that can be solved on a forum such as this. This is best taken up between yourself and a pastor, or something like that.

I, myself, am skeptical. You claim to be a good Christian man, but you have gone to bars, looked at porn, and have displayed a rather nasty temper on here of late. I don't want to judge, but that doesn't sound like a Godly man to me. That sounds like someone with a lot of issues.

I would really suggest you look at yourself and figure out what it is you want from a woman, and also, reevaluate if that is attainable for said woman. Because, honestly, what you expect from a woman isn't possible. Neither she, nor you, will be very happy if you tried to make her adhere to your standards.

I really did not except this to take a turn but Reba suggested I started a thread and here we are.

 

[Heath]

Maybe God hasn't yet sent the right woman to you because He's still working on you so that you will be the right man for your future wife.

That is probably it.

No nice Christian woman wants to marry a man who reads porn, even a tiny bit. Also, there is no such thing as "a good moral point" to a porn story. That sounds like the flimsy excuse men use when they say, "I just subscribe to Playboy magazine for the articles." Ha! Also, if a Christian woman finds out that you read and post in a forum called "Penisarium" she will run for the hills.

They might be hard working and honest but they aren't honoring Christ by drinking beer, cold or otherwise.

You do bring up some good points.

I don't know what church you attend but your Pastor should be preaching against drinking alcohol if he is a strong Bible preacher.

I know some pastors who are like that.

Anyway, it's up to you. If you can't surrender your porn and beer for the sake of finding a good woman, then maybe you aren't serious enough yet for the search.

I am ready for a good woman, I just have not found her yet and I am not that interested in porn that much anymore like when I was younger and I have always grew up drinking beer.

One more point. Women need security. If a man doesn't have a strong career goal, it makes a woman feel insecure. I'm not saying you have to be rich or type-A workaholic. But at your age, you do need to have a definite education/work plan established, and you need to show that you are actually striving towards that goal.

That is why I am going to college for that and much more.

 

[Sunshine1]

Wow you kept bring negatives about your past over and over. This is not an issue we are trying to help you. I would say to move on in postive way for a better understanding. You can't control your woman 100% YOUR way. That would be abusal. No one is interesting. Women are human beings as men do!!! Well I'm done on this thread because I realize you aren't opened minded about positive way and understanding and respect what's going on. It's really wasted. So long