You seem rather fixated on Harlan Lane. I don't know anyone who's claimed that "A Journey into the DEAF-WORLD" was any sort of "Deaf bible" ... it's simply a book (which is now 15years old and as such, even at best is only able to be representative of aspects of
some Deaf communities ...
15 years ago - and a LOT has changed in 15 years!!!)
If one hears nothing (tinnitus aside), they are simply "audiological deaf" ... that's it - small "d" deaf. For example, I was born completely audiologically deaf (+120db) on my right side.
For someone to say they are Deaf (intentionally capitalized as a proper noun, versus "deaf" which is not capitalized unless beginning a sentence) it implies a number of cultural, social, linguistic etc connotations in addition to some level of hearing loss (not necessarily bilaterally profound hearing loss though, I know many people who are audiologically Hoh, and culturally Deaf).
For many people who are audiologically Hoh or deaf - regardless of how well we may or may not do communicating orally, learning ASL (at least enough to have a very basic conversation), and being part of a community of people who share the same life experiences is very important.
In my case, I'm able to speak very well, and in quiet settings communicate orally fairly well ... but it's still a lot of work as well as being physically and mentally exhausting. While I can communicate in quiet - I'm unable to follow or participate in a conversation if there's more than 2 or 3 people ... or if there's any background noise, especially if any of the people speaking are "strangers" (ie not family/friends etc that I communicate with often and know their speech patterns, phrasing etc). As such, I'm unable to socialize, "hang out" etc with people in an auditory environment - however everything changes if the group knows ASL!
If I go to a social event (music blaring, people shouting etc) where there is a group who happens to know ASL - I'm suddenly able to casually and comfortably chat for hours and follow any conversation I want. I'm able chat with one person, or 10people about any things and everything - from "how's everyone doing" to debating the tiniest details on a theological topic (I'm a theology student, currently on medical leave, but a theology student none the less) - and yes I've done both, frequently.
For me it's not about which is "better" (oral or signed) it's about the freedom I have to socialize, meet people, access information etc because I am able to do both speak and sign. I'm able to attend any seminar, university class, drama/play, conference etc and understand completely what is being via an ASL/English Interpreter - things that I'm unable to do with my hearing alone - even with HA, even with FM etc (I'm not a CI candidate, in case you're wondering).
You've mentioned that there's no point in you learning ASL, because you have no one to use it with - yet you live in T.O. (or the surrounding area) where there is a HUGE ASL community made up of hearing, Hoh and d/Deaf individuals ... including all types of people from all types of jobs/walks of life, and of all ages ... including many "professionals" (ie individuals with Ph.Ds, people working in education, law, medicine, sociology, film/actors etc as well as "trades" and "retail" people).
I'm assuming that you actaully mean is that you have no current friends or family who use ASL? Either did I when I started learning ASL "formally" when I was 19/20 years old, but soon I formed friendships with other classmates (I was the only Hoh/Deaf person in my ASL Class - aside from my teacher of course), then began making friends with other ASL using Hoh and Deaf people - some of whom had used ASL their entire lives, many more who, like myself started learning as young adults.
I met people at various functions, including movie night (open caption movies held in the theatre of the Deaf Centre in my city), Hoh/Deaf sporting events (I watched), Deaf Bowling nights etc (Deaf Awareness Week - aka
DAW is a HUGE DEAL here - it's a week packed full of various fun events, social opportunities, educational opportunities for everyone (especially hearing, Hoh and LD and their families).
You've read (or at least cited) a number of "key books on Deafness" ... and it seems that what you've read within the pages of those books has given you an inaccurate view of what, and who the Deaf Community is(meaning the cultural and linguistic group). It's absolutely critical to realize that many/most if not all of the books on the Deaf community you have mentioned here (ie A Journey into the DEAF-WORLD, When the Mind Hears, Deaf in America voices from a Culture, Train Go Sorry, Seeing Voices etc) are at minimum 10-15 years old, many much older.
The views reflected in those books reflect a Deaf Community that doesn't exist anymore, because any living, growing community changes, grows, as time progresses, especially as technology progresses ... and in the Deaf Community one of the most profound changes has been the feelings regarding CI - and for a very legitimate reasons. It's important to keep in mind that the CI that you have, is for all intents and purposes completely different than the CIs of the 70s and 80s. CIs have improved phenomenally in the last 15 years, even more in the last 8-10year, 5years, and continue to improve at an amazing rate. In the 70s & 80s the goal of CIs was to give "an awareness of sound/noise". The idea of effectively understanding speech without speechreading - way beyond the realm of dreams, let alone realistic expectations. Fast forward to 2010 where many people with CIs are able to hear sounds in the "normal range" and hear with a clarity that gives them access to speech (sometimes without speechreading).
In addition to CI technology improving significantly (and the physically technology having a significantly longer "human trial" time to work out potential risks, refine surgeries to be less invasive etc) one of the other things which has had a positive impact on the way the Deaf Community feels about CI is how the medical professionals have slowly started (at least in some areas) to come around about the benefits of ASL as a option in communication - verses their old belief that ASL needed to be avoided at all cost.
While it certainly varies from area to area - many of the newer Audiologists, (many of whom have taken at least some basic ASL, some of whom are bilingual/multilingual in other languages as well) are far more understanding of ASL as a language and respect that ASL is just as "valid" a means of communication as English, French, German. Many are also
finally dispelling the myth that learning and using ASL will somehow prevent Hoh/Deaf children or adults from talking, or will use ASL as a "crutch" (which makes about as much sense as using German, French or Spanish as a "crutch"). Because more Audiologists have gained a greater respect for and understanding of ASL, and believe that for many HA and CI users ASL can be highly beneficial (in addition to oral and aural skills).
Today's Deaf Communities, just like hearing communities are becoming more diverse - which is a good thing, something which we should be proud of.
The Deaf community is made up of people with all types and amounts of hearing loss. We are people who:
are deaf from birth (unilaterally or bilaterally)
are late deafened - but had "normal hearing" most of their life
have profound, severe, moderate, or mild hearing loss
are very young (babies learning their first signs)
have celebrated their hundredth birthday
have been a part of the community their whole lives
have only recently found out there even
is a "Deaf Community" at all
grew up oral & with ASL
are just learning their first signs (be they 9months, of 90years old)
who's native language is ASL
who only learned ASL as an adult, but have been Hoh/deaf since birth
wear hearing aid(s)
use a CI
Love and Cherish our language, forms of art, culture, diversity, unity
See deafness as a "difference" that makes us unique, but not a disadvantage
We are all different, we are all unique ...
but we are ALL part of the Deaf Community