Ex's Violent Temper

[Maria]

Heath,

You still haven't learned a bit yet since the day one you joined in this AD. Learn to R E S P E C T ! If, Cheri said that she can help herself without your help - then let it be. Don't try to patronizin' people here. And, please don't tell her what to do. She KNOWS what to do for herself and her family. She ain't that dumb enough, dude.

You are only 29 years old and most of us are older than you and more experiences in long life than you. I hope that you understand. Ok ? Just keep things to yourself and let them be to be them.

 

[diehardbiker]

I am the man who know what the meaning of respecting other's privacy. I think your NOT the man who know the true meaning of RESPECT!
I will NOT elaborate any personal information. Once it is TMI, then it is ALWAYS TMI!

I am not assuming. I just said it like it is. If you know her family then why are you trying to win points with her. Why are you not telling it like it is?

 

[Heath]

If he wanted to kill me he would have done so long time ago, I'm not worried about something that might never gotta happen. Being negative doesn't get me anywhere. I have a family of my own two beautiful boys, a new boyfriend who I admire so much, and I shall have my life with them not worried about what my ex might do or hide in my own home, or running off and live with my parents to hide. I want a life, and I shall have it.

Cheri, All it takes is once, to be killed. He will do that in the future.

The rest of your quote is Good News with a word of caution, logic and reason as well as concern.

The only way you can truly be safe is when that bad guy is locked up in prison or that he is dead as a result of his evil action.

 

[DreamDeaf]

Er...Heath, are you deaf?

*Never mind, I just got confirmation that you are, indeed, Deaf.

This is what has me confused ...

I am US Army trained and US Marine trained and can become a very dangerous man, yet I have not laid a hand on a woman.

I know that they are still not allowing deaf people in the US Army or the Marines, I know this, because I've always wanted to be in the Navy and I cannot join because of my deafness.

Back on topic - Heath -

Just because you think she should go back to her family or a women's shelter, does not guarantee her safety. I have heard of and seen situations where murder did indeed take place - in several occassions, the whole family was slaughtered and in one rare event, the whole women's shelter was wiped out...just because of one nutso that felt that his "woman" should never have left him in the first place.

In many instances, the abusers themselves were abused, or seen abuse in their families, and they have grown up with the belief that abuse is okay and they have the right to abuse their girlfriends/wifes - why? They believe that women are "property" and therefore, they can do whatever they want to do to their own property...

Heath, this is why you need to tone down sometimes - I am nearly twice your age, and I have been abused severely by an ex that had seen his own father beat up his own mother - and he thought it was perfectly okay. He nearly killed me on Christmas Eve, I believe, when you were probably seven years old.

I have seen one of my cousins murdered by her husband - all because she dared tell him that she was leaving him because of his abuse - he shot her point-blank in the face with a double-barreled shotgun right there and then in my grandparents' backyard. She thought she was safe, staying with us because he wouldn't know where she was - and it turned out not to be true.

I'd suggest you tone it down, way down.

 

[Heath]

Heath,

You still haven't learned a bit yet since the day one you joined in this AD. Learn to R E S P E C T ! If, Cheri said that she can help herself without your help - then let it be. Don't try to patronizin' people here. And, please don't tell her what to do. She KNOWS what to do for herself and her family. She ain't that dumb enough, dude.

You are only 29 years old and most of us are older than you and more experiences in long life than you. I hope that you understand. Ok ? Just keep things to yourself and let them be to be them.

I do respect and I do am helping and supporting her by telling it like it is.

Age and life experience are two different things. I am 29 years old but well beyond the normal life experiences and limits. I have been dealing with violent bad guys all my life and as an adult it only got worse as I got older. That is why I have more to offer on the table and you all are screaming for nothing because I am telling it like it is.

 

[diehardbiker]

No, he is just blind!

Er...Heath, are you deaf?

 

[LakeTahoe]

No, he is just blind!

 

[Heath]

I am the man who know what the meaning of respecting other's privacy. I think your NOT the man who know the true meaning of RESPECT!
I will NOT elaborate any personal information. Once it is TMI, then it is ALWAYS TMI!

Respecting another people's privacy? I think not Diehardbiker you are the one hungry for another people's details and I did not ask her for the details. She will tell the details herself if she needs to.

I do know true respect and you all are just mauling me here. I am still standing stronger and that will only make me even more stronger.

I do not need any personal information. I have seen it all before with women getting abused so bad. Some do listen to what I say and some don't listen to what I say. It is their choice.

Regardless of your whining and complaining. I will tell it like it is.

 

[Maria]

No, he is just blind!

Your quote says: "I am the Cheri's Knight and takin' her away to the neverland !"

That's unbelievable ! *thud*

Err umm... wonderin' if you and Heath are fightin' over Cheri's neverland eh ?
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Hey, Cheri - I am really sorry to hear all this. Your ex is really insane for hittin' you. I am glad that you stood up on your own feet and be strong to show that you ain't fallin' for him.

Keep an eye to be sure that he don't come back. Use the bat to whack him if, he ever comes back.

 

[DreamDeaf]

Cheri, All it takes is once, to be killed. He will do that in the future.

Now, you're going a bit too far - she already knows that. She doesn't need you to remind her of that.

You're a youngster, just tone it down or be quiet.

 

[DreamDeaf]

Heath - re-read this.

Just because you think she should go back to her family or a women's shelter, does not guarantee her safety. I have heard of and seen situations where murder did indeed take place - in several occassions, the whole family was slaughtered and in one rare event, the whole women's shelter was wiped out...just because of one nutso that felt that his "woman" should never have left him in the first place.

In many instances, the abusers themselves were abused, or seen abuse in their families, and they have grown up with the belief that abuse is okay and they have the right to abuse their girlfriends/wifes - why? They believe that women are "property" and therefore, they can do whatever they want to do to their own property...

Heath, this is why you need to tone down sometimes - I am nearly twice your age, and I have been abused severely by an ex that had seen his own father beat up his own mother - and he thought it was perfectly okay. He nearly killed me on Christmas Eve, I believe, when you were probably seven years old.

I have seen one of my cousins murdered by her husband - all because she dared tell him that she was leaving him because of his abuse - he shot her point-blank in the face with a double-barreled shotgun right there and then in my grandparents' backyard. She thought she was safe, staying with us because he wouldn't know where she was - and it turned out not to be true.

I'd suggest you tone it down, way down.

 

[diehardbiker]

Cheri, please ignore her last sentence... Bat is not going to solve the problem.
Sorry Cyberred, I humble disagree with you on using weapon as mean to solve the problem.

Your quote says: "I am the Cheri's Knight and takin' her away to the neverland !"

That's unbelievable ! *thud*

Err umm... wonderin' if you and Heath are fightin' over Cheri's neverland eh ?
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Hey, Cheri - I am really sorry to hear all this. Your ex is really insane for hittin' you. I am glad that you stood up on your own feet and be strong to show that you ain't fallin' for him.

Keep an eye to be sure that he don't come back. Use the bat to whack him if, he ever comes back.

 

[Heath]

Sometimes a weapon is needed to defend one's own life. I am not going to lose my life to some asshole who robs and beats the f*** out of me when I am coming out of the store.

 

[Maria]

Cheri, please ignore her last sentence... Bat is not going to solve the problem.
Sorry Cyberred, I humble disagree with you on using weapon as mean to solve the problem.

Oh, Diehardbiker - when you see icon in there, it means I was just teasin'. Of course, I knew that Cheri wouldn't use that bat anyways. I agree with you that it is not goin' to solve the problem.

 

[Cheri]

DreamDeaf,

You have really good valid points there, and it's true. Even if victims find another place to live without abuser's knowledge, He will still find her whatever it takes, no where is safe. You said it so well and I agree with ya...


CyberRed, Thanks Hun, Opps! DHB didn't like that comment.

Everyone else, Thanks for some great feedback's and supports. Mwahies and

 

[diehardbiker]

I see now, me overlooked.... Yea, these bats can make guys even more angry and lead them to increase the violence. It is NOT worth it.

Oh, Diehardbiker - when you see icon in there, it means I was just teasin'. Of course, I knew that Cheri wouldn't use that bat anyways. I agree with you that it is not goin' to solve the problem.

 

[Heath]

Heath, are you deaf?

This is what has me confused ...

I know that they are still not allowing deaf people in the US Army or the Marines, I know this, because I've always wanted to be in the Navy and I cannot join because of my deafness.

You misunderstood me.... I read the US military manuals and practice everyday and have been in vicious life and death fights for my own very life before using military hand to hand combat. I have posted a thread on self defense. You can read them and learn alots. It would be nice if the US Military would let Deaf people be in the US Armed Forces.

 

[Banjo]

You have to call the authorities on your husband especially when there's already a warrant for his arrest. This only put you in a more difficult position now that you've been in contact with the fugitive and not reporting it.

People who don't report to the authorities about a fugitive can get into big trouble with the law if they find out about it. You may already be in potential legal troubles right now because you already posted the details on a public forum which cannot be erased completely. These information can be recovered via web caches.

You had to defend yourself from your ex-boyfriend by damaging his nose. Just do what you have to do... report it to the authorities... now before you get yourself sent to jail.

No, I'm not joking. It happen to the best of us all of the times. Not only to mention that you also have children, think of how they will be if the cops come to your doorstop with a warrant for your arrest just because you didn't inform the authorities.

I'm not trying to scare anybody here, but that's the potential situation I'm seeing right now. Hurry and do something before it's too late!

 

[Endymion]

Cheri,

I'm sorry that happened. It's not easy at all. Two good friends of mine are involved with domestic violence counseling (one is going to Georgetown for a JD in Family Law so she can really change the world for the better), and what I hear about the subject is terrible! No living being, much less a nice one like you, should go through that.

Whatever happens, you'll have our support here.

With sincerest thoughts,
Endymion.

 

[DreamDeaf]

You misunderstood me.... I read the US military manuals and practice everyday.

It's still not the same thing as actually doing it with a serviceperson - and you must be making people mad when you say you've been in life or death situations...

However, the problem is this:

This is Cheri's thread, she wanted to vent her frustrations and us to listen to her.

This is not for you to postulate and to tell her what she did or didnt do, and you are telling her she should listen to you - I think she already knows what to do - she just want to VENT her anger at her ex-boyfriend, that's all.