Ex's Violent Temper

Oh no, Cheri...your ex bf hit you??? I think you should call the cops and report on him even though you have hit him back on defense. He needs to realize that he can not ever hit you again because you would call the cops on him. I feel so bad for you!!! :(
 
^Angel^ said:
... when I asked Cheri to call us meaning for us to be there so nothing goes wrong, her ex won't do anything bad enough when her family is there to protect her from being serious harm....
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I wouldn't depend on that. I know several local cases where the enraged ex-boyfriend or husband killed the woman, her kids, her parents, her siblings, and her grandparents. Often, the man blames other family members for their problems.

Violence usually gets worse each time. That is part of the reason why you haven't seen him strike Cheri before. He wasn't as "bad" before. Now he is getting worse. He will continue getting worse each time unless he is stopped. How do you know he won't bring a weapon next time? Or strike a child?
 
You got a point there Reb, anything could happen....I guess I didn't want to think the worse...
 
Peachy Lady said:
Oh no, Cheri...your ex bf hit you??? I think you should call the cops and report on him even though you have hit him back on defense. He needs to realize that he can not ever hit you again because you would call the cops on him. I feel so bad for you!!! :(
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PeachyLady, hello there....an admirable sentiment but I think if you go to the middle of the first page of this topic and on down to the bottom, you will get a feel for why the issue is static and ongoing without resolution.

By the way, a belated Merry Christmas to you and yours!
 
Lol, Cyber--glad you "got it"; I need to behave or Miz Reba will flog me!
 
Please LEAVE Cheri ALONE!!! You don't know what she is into! She only wants to let everybody know what happened and that she is safe and okay right now. Isn't that too much? I am sure Cheri is alot like us, need not to be pressurized by "Mr. Know it all"! You don't know the details as much as I do! I know whats going on! Telling her what to do won't help her!

Heath said:
Hi Cheri, No man has any business laying his hands on you or any woman.

I am US Army trained and US Marine trained and can become a very dangerous man, yet I have not laid a hand on a woman.

There is no excuse nor any business for a man to lay his hands on a woman.

I suggest you not hit him the next time and don't let him kill you either.

If he comes after you again and you don't hit him then you will have a good case to go to the police on that. Police have to work with evidence. If no evidence then what can the police do?

Better yet, why don't you move back with your family.

Your father will not let you be messed with.

Or your uncle's house etc. Have strong male relatives to help you.

You can stay home where it is 100% safe with your family and relatives.

Never ever move out of your family or relative's home to go back with him.

That is a common mistake many women make !!!!

That is one of the reasons I built a Deaf self defense website. That bad experience I had with robbery and beating caused me to create this website to save Deaf people's lives.

I hope you are out of the dangerous situation a.s.a.p. Get well and better. Stay strong.

Thank you and God Bless, Heath
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Heath,

I am not moving back with my family or relatives for all that matters, I'm 35 years old, not a baby, and second of all I can defense myself, if you only knew what type of person I am. I have survived a lot in life and kept going forward. I'm pretty much a strong person, no matter how bad it gets, have to have faith and courage to not be afraid what will throw in front of you. :thumb:
 
*sigh*... Huggs Cheri.... Know what? seems like Child support reforcements are moving around and get their ass off the lazy chairs.. and go after deadbeat dads or mothers..

my ex husband.. is far worse than your or Angel... he was charged for attempted murder and assualt. I went through surivial and sufferings..

I have two children from him.. He just disappeared and moved in "new"gf now broke up couple weeks ago.. the new ex gf and i got in touch, was concern for her safety and she is worried that he might be come back at me.. cuz he has so many problems.. that he tend to taking out on me..

Sooo.. just got letter last week.. that Child support are on his ass.. FINALLY.. but got email from him that he is threatening me ... I printed out and went to police dept to file restraining order.. to stay away from us.. yes, I am fear of our safety.. he could possible to get anything to kill or hurt us..

Cheri.. be strong.. and I am too! :)
all i say.. Have faith..
 
diehardbiker65 said:
Please LEAVE Cheri ALONE!!! You don't know what she is into! She only wants to let everybody know what happened and that she is safe and okay right now. Isn't that too much? I am sure Cheri is alot like us, need not to be pressurized by "Mr. Know it all"! You don't know the details as much as I do! I know whats going on! Telling her what to do won't help her!
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Diehardbiker, what is up with you ? I just said what needs to be said and FYI I am not Mr. Know It All, I got that labeled " Mr. Know it all " by angry people like you. I am not pressuring Cheri at all. She can make her own decisions. I do not need to know the details in fact, I did not ask for any. Being in the loop does not always help , sometimes being in the loop does more harm than good. I am not telling her what to do. She has to make that choice herself.
 
Oh dear, Cheri... I can´t beleive this...

Yes, I´m with Peach Lady and Reba...

Best thing is report police straight way before it goes worst... You only doing is defend yourself against him.
 
Hey, wake up? Hello? Don't you see how others response?

Don't you realize people DO see others better than themselves??? I mean People see me better than I see myself!!! That is why I ask you to back off and just give support, thats ALL! Why can't you?

Heath said:
Diehardbiker, what is up with you ? I just said what needs to be said and FYI I am not Mr. Know It All, I got that labeled " Mr. Know it all " by angry people like you. I am not pressuring Cheri at all. She can make her own decisions. I do not need to know the details in fact, I did not ask for any. Being in the loop does not always help , sometimes being in the loop does more harm than good. I am not telling her what to do. She has to make that choice herself.
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Cheri said:
Heath,

I am not moving back with my family or relatives for all that matters, I'm 35 years old, not a baby, and second of all I can defense myself.
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How many times have I heard that from women, only to see them go get themselves killed and if they had been with their family then nothing of this would have happened. The ones that are alive is because they stayed with their family until that bad man was in prison or dead then she could leave her family's house and live on her own again, making sure to not be dating the wrong kind of guys again and repeat her mistake.

Far too many women date very bad assholes and do not date the good guys.

F.Y.I. Cheri, Please do not confuse your pride with what really needs to be done to be safe.
 
Diehardbiker,

I am helping her. Why are you trying to win points with her? I ask you?

You are wrong. I do see what people are saying but they and you are attacking me so I don't care. I am telling what has to really be said !!!!! You should help somebody because you want to save a life and not to win points with a woman. That is :crazy:
 
I am fairly new here, since I don't know the whole story but Cheri does seem to be a strong person, and have faith and courage! (((((((((HUGS))))))))) to Cheri :)
Dovey
 
Excuse me? You don't know what her families are like? DOn't assume just yet!
I happen to know her family!!! Saying it only hurts her even more! Enough SAID!!!


Heath said:
How many times have I heard that from women, only to see them go get themselves killed and if they had been with their family then nothing of this would have happened. The ones that are alive is because they stayed with their family until that bad man was in prison or dead then she could leave her family's house and live on her own again, making sure to not be dating the wrong kind of guys again and repeat her mistake.

Far too many women date very bad assholes and do not date the good guys.

F.Y.I. Cheri, Please do not confuse your pride with what really needs to be done to be safe.
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DoofusMama said:
*sigh*... Huggs Cheri.... Know what? seems like Child support reforcements are moving around and get their ass off the lazy chairs.. and go after deadbeat dads or mothers..

my ex husband.. is far worse than your or Angel... he was charged for attempted murder and assualt. I went through surivial and sufferings..

I have two children from him.. He just disappeared and moved in "new"gf now broke up couple weeks ago.. the new ex gf and i got in touch, was concern for her safety and she is worried that he might be come back at me.. cuz he has so many problems.. that he tend to taking out on me..

Sooo.. just got letter last week.. that Child support are on his ass.. FINALLY.. but got email from him that he is threatening me ... I printed out and went to police dept to file restraining order.. to stay away from us.. yes, I am fear of our safety.. he could possible to get anything to kill or hurt us..

Cheri.. be strong.. and I am too! :)
all i say.. Have faith..
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That is a common tactic of violent bad guys. They break up with you then they date somebody they don't care for and be extremely good to her and you see or hear of that then you are drawn to seeing the woman and he is just waiting and using the woman as another tool to find you then continue his campigan of abuse upon you and in the process the another woman too. I have seen this before. I told the women the hard hitting truth , some women listened and some women did not listen and are in a graveyard with their name marked on a stone. The bad guy is either free, or in prison or dead ( or on death row ).
 
diehardbiker65 said:
Excuse me? You don't know what her families are like? DOn't assume just yet!
I happen to know her family!!! Saying it only hurts her even more! Enough SAID!!!
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I am not assuming. I just said it like it is. If you know her family then why are you trying to win points with her. Why are you not telling it like it is?
 
Heath said:
How many times have I heard that from women, only to see them go get themselves killed and if they had been with their family then nothing of this would have happened. The ones that are alive is because they stayed with their family until that bad man was in prison or dead then she could leave her family's house and live on her own again, making sure to not be dating the wrong kind of guys again and repeat her mistake.

Far too many women date very bad assholes and do not date the good guys.

F.Y.I. Cheri, Please do not confuse your pride with what really needs to be done to be safe.
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If he wanted to kill me he would have done so long time ago, I'm not worried about something that might never gotta happen. Being negative doesn't get me anywhere. I have a family of my own two beautiful boys, a new boyfriend who I admire so much, and I shall have my life with them not worried about what my ex might do or hide in my own home, or running off and live with my parents to hide. I want a life, and I shall have it. ;)
 
Dovey said:
I am fairly new here, since I don't know the whole story but Cheri does seem to be a strong person, and have faith and courage! (((((((((HUGS))))))))) to Cheri :)
Dovey
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Thanks sweetie, :hug: :ily:
 
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