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White Lies and Other Deceptions
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Gregory Koukl
Is lying ever right? Is trespassing? Is violence? Some thoughts to help you sharpen your ability to make ethical decisions.
http://www.str.org/free/commentaries/ethics/lie.htm
Liebling: Exactly like what I say lying is not okay but in different reasons.
Liebling: Would you call them liar or fake that's just because they let the people think their hair is real? To me, no I consider them for their good reason.
Liebling: Interesting, what do you think of this?
Liebling: Interesting... What would you do think of this? Would you do that?
Liebling: WRONG! It could lead girl beleive that he want to go out with her again. I would say when I were him: "See you around" which it means is he see her everywhere in school, college, work etc or "Thank you for great evening" and leave slowly in friendly way without give her goodnight kiss.
Liebling: mmmmhhhh, I'm guilty to tell my children about Santa Claus :-o : I thought it's lovely to see exciting children's faces when I tell them about Santa Claus. I was excited about this when I was a little girl. Is it harm?
Liebling: Interesting, What do you think?
White Lies and Other Deceptions
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Gregory Koukl
Is lying ever right? Is trespassing? Is violence? Some thoughts to help you sharpen your ability to make ethical decisions.
http://www.str.org/free/commentaries/ethics/lie.htm
I think lying is wrong. However, we have to be clear on what constitutes lying, that is, immoral deception.
It seems that not all deceptions are immoral. Did you ever make a fake while playing basketball? Isn't such a feint a deception? It is, but I don't think most people would consider it immoral, even though it was, in fact, deceptive.
Liebling: Exactly like what I say lying is not okay but in different reasons.
There are other examples. We dress to flatter our figures instead of being entirely truthful about our physical shape. We wear hairpieces if our hair is thinner than we'd like to show. There are times we're not forthcoming with all the truth. More could be said, but we withhold information.
Liebling: Would you call them liar or fake that's just because they let the people think their hair is real? To me, no I consider them for their good reason.
Incidentally, I don't think Jesus was always forthright. Take, for example, the woman at the well (John 4). Jesus had a goal He was not immediately forthright about. I don't see this as manipulation, though, but as sensitivity to the moment. If Jesus wasn't always entirely forthright in some cases, yet we know He never committed any sin, then that means it isn't necessarily a sin if you're not forthright about everything.
Liebling: Interesting, what do you think of this?
A moral dilemma is when you must choose one of two things, but either thing would be wrong to do when taking on its own. Do you endanger a human life, or do you tell a lie? If you choose to tell the truth, and may you do right by telling the truth, but it seems you do wrong by exposing a human being to serious harm. If you protect the human being by lying, well, you've saved a life, but told a lie. That is a moral or ethical dilemma.
There are a couple of different ways Christians have approached this historically. One is to claim there really is no such thing as an ethical dilemma. Some will say you should never lie, you should always tell the truth, and let God worry about the consequences.
What if you see a woman run into an alley to escape someone who's trying to kill her, and they ask you, "Where is she?" What do you do? Do you send them on a wild goose chase to protect the woman's life? Or do you lead them to their victim?
Some would say you are morally obliged to tell exactly where she's hiding and let God take care of it. But that option can cut in both directions. Why not protect her by lying and let God take care of it by forgiving the lie? Which do you choose? This question is at the heart of all ethical dilemmas.
The Bible gives us some guidance on this. It teaches that not all sins are the same. Some are more egregious than others. This is very clear in the Scriptures. Jesus said to Pilate, "He who delivered Me up to you has the greater sin" (John 19:11). According to Jesus, some sins are greater than others.
Liebling: Interesting... What would you do think of this? Would you do that?
What about so-called "white lies." Are they okay since they're only small deceptions? My rule is this: I think people should tell the truth unless they have a more weighty moral reason not to be straightforward.
If my wife asked me if I thought she was overweight and she was, I wouldn't say, "No, honey, you're perfect." First, she probably knows better. Second, I think she'd actually be looking for affirmation from me, not really an assessment of her weight. I'd tell her what I thought, but would be careful to do it in a way that protected her as an individual. I'd let her know that being overweight wouldn't change my love for her.
Liebling: Yes, I beleive the truth is the best because my friends/relatives deserve it but only if they ASK me for my opinion. I don't beleive to play being flattery and pretend to them saying how beautiful dress, hair, etc. etc. you have BECAUSE they ASK for my OPINION.
Here is another example, a classic for single guys. A guy goes out on a date and doesn't enjoy himself, so he wouldn't be inclined to ask the young lady out again, though he suspects she enjoyed herself and would like to get together again. What does he say when he drops her off? He isn't going to say, "I'm never going to call you again," yet he doesn't want to just walk away and say nothing. Because of the awkwardness he says, "I'll call you," but he doesn't intend to and never does.
Liebling: WRONG! It could lead girl beleive that he want to go out with her again. I would say when I were him: "See you around" which it means is he see her everywhere in school, college, work etc or "Thank you for great evening" and leave slowly in friendly way without give her goodnight kiss.
I also think it's wrong to tell children that Santa Claus is real. It accomplishes no superior moral purpose. It's only deception. Children might eventually believe you've deceived them about God, too. They can't see Santa and they can't see God, either. There's no good reason to create a problem by starting with a deception.
Liebling: mmmmhhhh, I'm guilty to tell my children about Santa Claus :-o : I thought it's lovely to see exciting children's faces when I tell them about Santa Claus. I was excited about this when I was a little girl. Is it harm?
I think lying is right sometimes. I think Rahab did right when she lied about the spies. I think the Hebrew midwives did right when they lied to Pharaoh to protect the lives of the Hebrew children.
I think trespassing is right sometimes. I think violence is right sometimes. I think there are many things that, in isolation, would be wrong, but when a higher moral good is served, they not only become not wrong, they become obligatory. That's hard for some to accept.
Rahab was obliged to lie to protect the lives of those spies. Both James and the writer of Hebrews applaud her for her action. They didn't say, "Shame, shame, but I guess you chose the lesser of two evils." Instead, they acted like she chose the greater of two goods. She did what was right.
I think that's the Biblical view. In Acts 4, the apostles were told to disobey the government and preach the gospel. Paul says that we are obliged to obey the government. Yet when the government tells us to disobey a higher command of God, then we are morally obliged to disobey the government. We have to choose the greater good, as the disciples did.
Liebling: Interesting, What do you think?