I'm seeing a lot of diversity that you don't speak to. Or for. Or with. Apparently you see only what you want to see: Us v. Them.
Yes, there are some who are extremely grateful to you. And not without good reason. You really could be such a wonderful force if you weren't so belligerent and closed-minded, so focused on yourself and your "permission granted" to see that not every d//Deaf on this forum gives you permission to speak on his or her behalf. Not only do I see it here, but there are a not so small number of d/Deaf on this forum who are very uncomfortable saying so publicly, given your history of waging war against any who do not express the appropriate amount of gratitude for your existence here in this self-appointed role.
You've said you mainstreamed your child through elementary school, and as you came to learn more about his needs, later moved him to a school that pursues a Total Communication philosophy, or as you describe it, a TC methodology. The process you went through to undergo that kind of growth is important. If the Jillio of today came across the Jillio of 20 years ago and treated her with so much disrespect, harassing her, driving a wedge between her and the Deaf community, and generally going on such an offensive that young Jillio was forced to brace against the cruelty, cementing her position, perhaps your son would not have benefitted from that growth and understanding, that openness to the Deaf community.
I think you are selfishly taking on the role of Defender of the Deaf ... to the Death -- driving away parents of deaf children, effectively driving those children away from ASL and the Deaf world. Rather than participating in non-judgmental conversation and sharing your considerable experience, impacting families in s many ways.