Boys: At What Age Would You Consider....

anakin said:
i don't regret having sex before marriage. i think it's silly to wait, but to each his/her own. it's not about who you have sex with the first time.. it's about the connection between you and the other person you have at the moment. quality over quantity.

i know there are people who wait. let me tell you a story about my sister.

my sister's 19 now, but she was 17 when this happened. she was going to wait until marriage to have sex. she was in a relationship with a boy who proposed to her (ugh, long story.. they are broken up now). the boy agreed to wait with her. there was a point in time when they just did it in the heat of the moment. my sister was in a lot of pain.. more than what the typical pain should've been. so she went to a gynecologist since she was now sexually active (she had no reason to go to one before).. turns out she has a prolapsed uterus. that's why sex hurt so much for her. if she waited until marriage and not seen a gynecologist, she wouldn't have known about her uterus and have a horrible honeymoon.. she's on BC now as a treatment.

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I don't see that has anything to with it. If a guy married a girl he should be understanding no matter what.
 
I know. And I am saying if they did got married, he should be understanding if she is in pain. Even I can be in pain, and my husband is very understanding.
 
Ditto what Lighthouse said.. I have to agree that man should be more understanding no matter what if he really loves that person so much.
 
Lighthouse77 said:
I know. And I am saying if they did got married, he should be understanding if she is in pain. Even I can be in pain, and my husband is very understanding.
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did you even read what i posted? my sister was in pain after sex because she had a prolapsed uterus. she was going to wait until marriage. that would've been a terrible honeymoon if she didn't go see a gynecologist before. she's in a relationship with another guy now, and they're both sexually active. they practice safe sex. everything's fine.
 
I don't think this is a reason why you shouldn't wait, it's a total different issue from moral values. (personally, I think the guy would have broken up with her anyhow. Guy tend be afraid as marriage become a reality)
 
Lighthouse77 said:
I don't think this is a reason why you shouldn't wait, it's a total different issue from moral values. (personally, I think the guy would have broken up with her anyhow. Guy tend be afraid as marriage become a reality)
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the guy my sister was with didn't leave her. after she found out about her uterus, she got the treatment and they still continued to have sex, pain-free. later on, SHE was the one who ended the relationship due to a different issue.
 
That's great she is in pain free, but it can be done the same thing if a person did get marry. That's what I am saying. But anyway, let's move on.
 
well, i just hope curiosity won't get your children pregnant or contract STDs.
 
well, for your information, I am teaching our son about STD and prevention but treating it as marriage thing (married people used birth control all the time).

BUT people had sex education... but I promise you that everyone also had unprotected sex too. Once girls start taking birth control, guys stop wearing condom because they think it is safe. Especially when they are in a long term relationship. Every single abortions, miscarriages, pregnancy is a result of unsafe sex. Rather the guy wore condom or not.

If people really were safe, we would see a lot less population of babies being born.


So how many sex without condom have you had because you want to know what it feel like? (don't answer that question, it's for yourself)

This just a proof that teaching safe sex is not 100% proof anymore than teaching Abstinence.
 
Pregnancies are not all due to unsafe sex. Birth control fails a certain percent of the time, even the birth control pill.
 
Lighthouse77 said:
well, for your information, I am teaching our son about STD and prevention but treating it as marriage thing (married people used birth control all the time).

BUT people had sex education... but I promise you that everyone also had unprotected sex too. Once girls start taking birth control, guys stop wearing condom because they think it is safe. Especially when they are in a long term relationship. Every single abortions, miscarriages, pregnancy is a result of unsafe sex. Rather the guy wore condom or not.

If people really were safe, we would see a lot less population of babies being born or aborted.


So how many sex without condom have you had because you want to know what it feel like? (don't answer that question, it's for yourself)
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i'll answer it for you anyway. never. i refuse to get pregnant or acquire any STDs as consequences of not using protection.
 
anakin said:
i'll answer it for you anyway. never. i refuse to get pregnant or acquire any STDs as consequences of not using protection.
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Well then, you have a strong will. Some people have a stong will on abstinence as well.
 
I got pregnant with my 2nd child from failed condom. I dont trust condom and birth control anymore. Well now I am firmly dont believe in condoms and birth control.. It is sucks I know.
 
did you or your mate check the condom before using it? was the condom stored where it should be, at room temperature? what about the expiration date?
 
Yes we did. I remember when I looked at it and it was a good date and i opened it up and looked and told my husband (used to be my boyfriend that time when I got pregnant with 2nd child) Then after that I found out I was pregnant. OH I remember when I found out I was pregnant. I was shocked and my jaw just open and couldnt move for few mins.
 
Oh by the way I did asked my ob dr that time. He said well you know what. The condom package it says it is 98 or 99 percent and actually it is NOT 98 or 99 percent at all. It is more like 90 percent or less. I am like oh my gosh! So I told myself no more and I havent sex until I got married and I had my 3rd child and wish I could have more children and been trying for 3 years now and no luck..
 
you know that condoms aren't 100% effective against pregnancy, though. my mom was on birth control and she got pregnant with my sister. i don't know, it's up to the person.. so far i haven't had any problems and i still support safe sex education. :dunno:
 
Condoms are very effective if used correctly. Most guys don't know how put them on and make sure that they are used correctly. Adding spermicide makes condoms much more effective (even when the use is not as optimal). The most effective method of birth control is the birth control pill (although you can get pregnant if not taken correctly).

IMHO, girls who have goals for themselves, like a college education, are less likely to become pregnant early. I was super responsible about birth control because I planned to get an education before I had a family. Thanks to my mother who told me that I would be going to college. I was certain that she'd hog tie me and kidnap me if I didn't.
 
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