Baby born deaf will get 'bionic ears' that could help him hear and talk

Calums mum said:
That's because it's hard work having to defend yourself all the time, when we just get attacked. Jillio has stated that there are some hearies who just won't go away. You put people off conversing with you, I'm an extremely confident person, most people would have backed off by now, forgotten all about your website and horrible posts never to be seen again. I do not need to change my attitude, or give any more respect than I already have done, as I asked for peoples experiences and advice.

I have asked for specific advice and just get told I don't understand. I'm busy looking after my son, and my 3 year old. I came on here initially as I googled my son's name to see if the website I created came up. I came upon your post and wanted to correct the assumptions that you made about me, and to tell jillio that they are not using my son as an experiment. Maybe next time a mum like me pops up you could all go a bit easier and not go on about psychosocial development, and the fact that my son will not do well, without having any PRACTICAL advice to offer. Jillio you are extremely judgemental and seem very quick to put down hearing parents. Whatever knowledge you have to give is pointless if given in such a hostile way

Thank you to the people like deafcaroline, kokonut, babyblue, beach girl, hoh topics, txgolfer.

I'll leave you all with your petty squabbles and am going to get on with my life raising my happy little boy in the wonderful way I know how and learning more about deaf awareness as I go.
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That is not what Jillio said at all.:roll: It would really be nice if people would take those defensive, "I'm being attacked" glasses off and actually read the words themselves, and the context in which they were written.

I don't put down hearing parents. Again, that is your defensiveness. I do hope that you learn to be confident and secure in your decisions for your son so that you don't feel the need to constantly jump to your own defense when you aren't even being attacked.

I do hope that you open yourself up and learn about deafness as you go. There were many on this forum that were attempting to save you a bit of a struggle, but you put all of your effort into shutting them down. But some have to do it the hard way. Good luck to you.

And this is why nothing ever changes for deaf children.
 
CSign said:
Calumsmom- I hope you'll stick around. Don't take any of the posts personally. I think it's a rite of passage when you're a hearing parent on this forum to be called audist , and to scare you into "what your child will say 15 years from now." you're not the first parent to experience that, and unfortunately I doubt you'll be the last.
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Right but then again I can understand why she's right to take certain comments against her personally. At least she now understands on what to expect in a Deaf culture and saw the red flags and the general snootiness that sometimes come with it. Ironically, in some cases that attitude didn't come from a bunch of deaf people.
 
And that is exactly what I am talking about. People assuming from their defensive positions that something is being said it when it absolutely has not .

It would appear that there are a few around here that are more concerned with twisting words in order to make things magically appear than they are about transmitting accurrate information to parents of deaf children. That is terribly sad. No concern whatsoever for improving the lot of deaf children in the future, as the entire focus appears to be playing out their own insecurities and pain from the way they have been treated as deaf individuals. What a sad, sad comment on that segment of society, and what a great thing that the Deaf community does not function that way.
 
kokonut said:
Right but then again I can understand why she's right to take certain comments against her personally. At least she now understands on what to expect in a Deaf culture and saw the red flags and the general snootiness that sometimes come with it. Ironically, in some cases that attitude didn't come from a bunch of deaf people.
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No one has the right to take anything personally that was not personally directed. And when someone does, they do not manage to get the message that is being delivered because they cannot see past their own self centered position.

Nice way to put down an entire culture. You are free not to participate in Deaf culture if that is what you choose. However, to put down an entire culture just because it is not what you choose is nothing more than self centered pettiness that is employed as a way to try to make yourself feel superior. How sad that you feel the need to do so. I would not wish the misery that creates that attitude on anyone.
 
kokonut said:
There are so many ways to be called as one without directly saying it.
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And that makes it ok for posters to falsy accuse others of saying things to other posters when it was never said? Sorry, that doesn't work for me.
 
shel90 said:
Yes pls Csign...I would like to see it as well. Where is it?
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No one was ever called an audist. :roll: It would appear that some have a great deal of difficulty in determining the difference between an audist belief or statement, and someone being called an audist. Oh, well.
 
There is something I would like to know, as well. Where did anyone ever say that this child was "being experimented on"? That accusation has been made, as well.
 
kokonut said:
There are so many ways to be called as one without directly saying it.
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It was never said in here. If you cannot explain something exactly, you do not know what you are talking about dude. :wave:
 
Some of ya'll act surprised as if that sort of thing never happened in AD.

*smh*
 
Surprised about what? That people make false accusations out of defensiveness and misinterpretation. No. It is seen on a predictable basis from a predictable few.
 
CSign said:
Calumsmom- I hope you'll stick around. Don't take any of the posts personally. I think it's a rite of passage when you're a hearing parent on this forum to be called audist , and to scare you into "what your child will say 15 years from now." you're not the first parent to experience that, and unfortunately I doubt you'll be the last.
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I didn't find the post where anyone called her an audist either.
 
kokonut said:
Some of ya'll act surprised as if that sort of thing never happened in AD.

*smh*
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We are talking about this thread ans people getting accused of attacking calums mom, aren't we? Why bring past issues into this thread? That just makes you just as guilty as of the stuff you are accusing us of. Can't have your cake and eat it too.
 
shel90 said:
We are talking about this thread ans people getting accused of attacking calums mom, aren't we? Why bring past issues into this thread? That just makes you just as guilty as of the stuff you are accusing us of. Can't have your cake and eat it too.
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Not past issues but rather a continuing pattern. Let's not act so surprised here.
 
There are some very predictable patterns, all right. The least of which, in my opinion, is the fact that 52% of all deaf kids end up in an oral only environment educationally. And then the same people that are placing kids in oral only mainstream settings are complaining that the literacy rates are embarrassingly low. Self fulfilling prophecy, anyone?
 
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