My husband is Asian and he does not speak Korean or Japanese or even Fillipo, so he can't be part of that culture. My daughter who is also Fillipo can't be part either.
If is means that the only way I am accepted as a deaf individual is to learn ASL, then no. I am deaf. I will not belittle myself to you must do this inorder to be accepted. Thats no more than a secret society.
That is what I mean by a secret handshake. I will just enjoy my little deaf/hoh community here in Nashville.
By learning ASL is belittling yourself? U dont have to value what the Deaf community values but u cant expect them to show u the same respect if u dont show them the same respect about ASL.
Fine, if oral deaf people want to go to Deaf clubs, Deaf plays and so on, they can help themselves but they will definitely be left out due to not understanding the language that is being used. I bet u anything if Deaf people go up to them and try to communicate with them by meeting their communications needs but if they dont try to meet their communication needs, friendships will not be established. It is about respecting the cultural values.
By comparing the Deaf community to people from other countries coming to America not being able to speak the language is fallicous. Deaf people are bilingual..both in ASL and English but the communication used in the air is ASL cuz of our visual needs. If we all dropped ASL and started using English in its spoken form, for sure communication would be strained and a lot of misunderstandings will result. Why do u think ASL got started in the first place?