Abstinence only: interesting findings

Jiro said:
that's precisely what I'm talking about. Even teens don't know any better because their confusions and misconceptions were not resolved in the beginning. Simple - look at Bristol Palin. and hundred of thousands of pregnant teens. btw - little kids are having sex too. :(
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Exactly. Teens do not have a fully developed frontal lobe. That is what is respsonsible for their "it will never happen to me" attitudes about a lot of things. They have difficulty seeing past the moment into the future consequences.
 
Interesting... Moral values without reason and explanation? I only remember that I was taught moral values with reasonings and explanation. :hmm:

:hmm: Mmm... I think it may be better if Abstinence and Sex Education blend in together, then it would make easier a bit. Don't you think so? No? :dunno:
 
KarissaMann05 said:
Interesting... Moral values without reason and explanation? I only remember that I was taught moral values with reasonings and explanation. :hmm:

:hmm: Mmm... I think it may be better if Abstinence and Sex Education blend in together, then it would make easier a bit. Don't you think so? No? :dunno:
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It can and should be blended, to the point that we tell our kids that they will be better able to handle decisions regarding sex when they are older and more mature, and it would be best to wait until that time. However, if you don't, here is what you can do to protect yourself.
 
jillio said:
It can and should be blended, to the point that we tell our kids that they will be better able to handle decisions regarding sex when they are older and more mature, and it would be best to wait until that time. However, if you don't, here is what you can do to protect yourself.
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Yeah, I think the same thing as you do. :)

If there is something is wrong with Abstinence, in my opinion, they should go back off and look at the picture to see what's wrong. And then, to improve Abstinence better. If you think Abstinence never work well, what the best thing to sovle a problem for that? Me curious.
 
KarissaMann05 said:
Interesting... Moral values without reason and explanation? I only remember that I was taught moral values with reasonings and explanation. :hmm:
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the reason why I left out the reasoning from my example is because every parents' moral values are different... thus confusing. The sex education is UNIVERSAL and FACTUAL - no if or but. The information about sex is exactly same as anywhere on Earth.... moral value is not.

KarissaMann05 said:
:hmm: Mmm... I think it may be better if Abstinence and Sex Education blend in together, then it would make easier a bit. Don't you think so? No? :dunno:
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why not? Both are taught and introduced in sex education. In class - after learning about sex, risks, STDs, protections, etc, you can CHOOSE whether or not to have sex - thus a well-informed decision. That's why I demand a comprehensive sex education. :mad2:
 
Jiro said:
the reason why I left out the reasoning from my example is because every parents' moral values are different... thus confusing. The sex education is UNIVERSAL and FACTUAL - no if or but. The information about sex is exactly same as anywhere on Earth.... moral value is not.

why not? Both are taught and introduced in sex education. In class - after learning about sex, risks, STDs, protections, etc, you can CHOOSE whether or not to have sex - thus a well-informed decision. That's why I demand a comprehensive sex education. :mad2:
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Ah, I see.

Yes, I can see what you are saying. :) I don't think I'd seen somewhere who have both of them at some certain schools. I assume there are nowhere, isn't it? If yes, then I think it's make sense to have both of them at schools.

Just saying.
 
Lighthouse77 said:
lets also get real, How many of us pratice safe sex all the time? People just don't like condom so they are better off waiting til marriage.
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Also, let's get real...how many actually do wait until marriage before having sex?
 
Lighthouse77 said:
I'm saying that they should brush off family value just because they don't want to get marry. or tell the school "Stop teaching about the important of marriage because I don't want to get marry" But we all know that most people will have children someday..

They can practice safe sex, that's their choice, but because so many people don't care about marriage anymore, more children are living in a single parent homes. And I just don't think it is a good idea to brush off marriage.
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I disagree..I was raised in a single parent household and my mom always taught us the value of marriage and encourages us, kids, to take it seriously. She never talked about sex with us, not because she was a single mom, because she didnt have the confidence to get past the awkwardness.
 
Lighthouse77 said:
A child going back and forth from his dad then to his mom is never easy. Legally, they both have custody (if the judge decide this), it is just easier with both parents at home..So sometimes it is better to wait til you find someone you can live with to have a child with him. I think it is really unfair for the father not see his son for one whole week when he rather see him everyday.
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In my case, it was the total opposite...

Life got easier for us when our parents divorced. Our parents were no longer at each other's throats and we had more quality time with our dad on his weekends with us than we did when he was living with us cuz he was always avoiding the family. Even as a child, I saw their divorce as a blessing.
 
KarissaMann05 said:
Interesting... Moral values without reason and explanation? I only remember that I was taught moral values with reasonings and explanation. :hmm:

:hmm: Mmm... I think it may be better if Abstinence and Sex Education blend in together, then it would make easier a bit. Don't you think so? No? :dunno:
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Well - It can be blended together since both topics applies to each other but however - IMO - It should be kept as a separate issue because Sex Education involves a lot more exploration such as knowing about the diseases, sexual health, safety, and sexual wellness. Abstinence only applies to being "resisted" upon if one were to taught about it. Just saying. :)

As for moral value related to sexual issues - How can it be taught when even us adults get it mixed up too? What I mean is - Everyone has their own different views when it comes to moral values. That is why it is best to acquire it much later when you are an adult rather than when you are a teenager.
 
Jolie77 said:
Well - It can be blended together since both topics applies to each other but however - IMO - It should be kept as a separate issue because Sex Education involves a lot more exploration such as knowing about the diseases, sexual health, safety, and sexual wellness. Abstinence only applies to being "resisted" upon if one were to taught about it. Just saying. :)

As for moral value related to sexual issues - How can it be taught when even us adults get it mixed up too? What I mean is - Everyone has their own different views when it comes to moral values. That is why it is best to acquire it much later when you are an adult rather than when you are a teenager.
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hence a common saying - "you'll understand when you grow up" :laugh2:
 
As a teacher, it is not my job to teach moral values to my students because every child's parents have their own morals and beliefs. I cant imagine pushing my morals and beliefs on other people's children. However, I can teach them about safety, such as looking both ways before crossing the street and not to play with matches. When it comes to sex ed, parental permission is required and the educator must have a provision in their certification in order to be qualified to teach sex ed. I am not qualified so I wont teach it.
 
shel90 said:
In my case, it was the total opposite...

Life got easier for us when our parents divorced. Our parents were no longer at each other's throats and we had more quality time with our dad on his weekends with us than we did when he was living with us cuz he was always avoiding the family. Even as a child, I saw their divorce as a blessing.
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That is often the case.
 
Jolie77 said:
Exactly - But then again, Do we all really understand it when we still are grown up? :P
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hence - "you'll understand when you're at my age," said a very old man
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Nearly 40 percent of babies born in the United States in 2007 were delivered by unwed mothers, according to data released last month by the National Center for Health Statistics. The 1.7 million out-of-wedlock births, of 4.3 million total births, marked a more than 25 percent jump from five years before.

Evidently, there are a lot of people having sex without marraige. And these statistics only include the ones who got pregnant and gave birth. When you include the ones that didn't, the number would go up tremendously. Is abstinence realistic? Not according to these numbers.

Nor do these statistics mean that there is more sex outside of marraige today than there was 20, 30, 40, or 50 years ago. In the past, a pregnant woman and the father of the baby would have been forced into a marraige before she started showing her pregnancy, just so no one would know that they had engaged in premarital sex.
 
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