You just said the magic words, and I hope StSapphire read them.
Neither I nor anyone else can "convince me" of anything. You must convince yourself. That is the only possibility.
This is the #1 problem of almost all people today, they don't use their brain for learning and convince themself. They will rather go on line, look it up in a book, listen to some motivation speaker and on-and-on. Anything but use their own brain
"Can I make you happy?", this is a real question from me to you and you probably will respond "Thanks, but no thanks." You are saying that for your own reason but the truth is I'll never , and never have, ask anyone that question because I know it is impossible! Only YOU can make yourself happy. Don't feel bad, because most all people today don't know that neither.
Take the popular song sung at many public events, "God Bless America ". People who sing the song really mean for it to happen. But did you, and the many, many who sing the song know it is impossible for God to bless America? Why? Because the good book says so. Before any poster jumps on me about the reason being America's tolerance of gays, my reason is not even close to that.
So here again, you are distracting yourself into thinking I am making this about homosexual sex when all along I have been speaking of consequences and how people want to bury them our, at least, deny them.
Here is a suggestion for you, no harm meant only helpful words. If your's is not living, and do make him first if at all possible, find a gentle grandfather-type guy and sit down with an open mind into learning "life experience" from him. Just let him start from the beginning and go forward. Once in awhile ask: "What did that teach you or what would you do different?" HIS brain can teach you more than any on line web site, more than any library can.