Why Nice Women Are Attracted to Jerks?

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Why Nice Women Are Attracted to Jerks

Why do women date bad boys? It's an age-old question that befuddles many a man--both good and bad. Now the editors at the rowdy men's magazine Maxim and the women's magazine Marie Claire have collaborated to answer it.

Surprise! It's not money or good looks. What women want most in a man is...

This is what they learned in the survey, as reported by Wireless Flash:
--13 percent of women admit they date guys who are jerks because they think they can change them.
--36 percent say they go out with them because being with a schmuck makes the sweet moments even sweeter.
--77 percent of the ladies polled said it bothers them when their guy checks out other women, but the rest aren't bothered because they know men "can't help it."

Pretty women do WHAT to men? They make them stupid! Find out how.

Here are other facts men may want to know about what women would do if they ever catch them cheating:
--51 percent of women would break up with their man immediately if he cheated.
--42 percent would first find out why the affair happened and then consider "putting him on probation."
--5 percent would go out and have an affair of their own.



*Pretty interesting 'bout this* Aren't you? :smoking:
 
I am not a jerk...I'm also a nice man....What's the point being a jerk, it isn't always true, many women get turned off from jerk guys. That's my opinion and I have seen that myself.
 
trying to change the person is nearly impossible...you can't just change them the way you want them to be...because it's their own personality and their own way of life...only THEMSELVES has the ablity to change, but it's just really hard to do so...because most people don't change at all.
 
Steel said:
trying to change the person is nearly impossible...you can't just change them the way you want them to be...because it's their own personality and their own way of life...only THEMSELVES has the ablity to change, but it's just really hard to do so...because most people don't change at all.
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:werd: some guys i noticed never change I think cuz of something with guys they do something that may capture ur attention and don't want to let u go I think.. really it's my opinion.... :roll:
 
That's a good question. I have that problem myself. Most people say that I am "too nice" and don't want to hurt me emotionally. In the end, they don't realize that they are already hurting me emotionally when they say or do that. Jeez... :(
 
I prefer "down-to-earth" guys rather than jerks. The reasons women who choses "jerk" men, is because of women are hopin' high too much from jerk men... IMO ! :) That makes women looks like they really are the ones who are idiot for chosin' jerk men.

Oh, yeah...some men are NICE. Not all of them. Same thing with women. Men would ask "Why NICE men are attracted to Bitch/Nag women" ? In that case, do not ask me !! :laugh2:
 
I was bait my man, who he was nerd.. I admit I did change him and making look'n so fellow handsome man.. I don't see he may have cheated on me.. None!! I think he is afraid to cheat due may lead into HIV/Aids and etc etc..
I admit, He was so damn clean-pure man and honestly repluation to everyones. I had been little change him turns into BASTARD.. wow.. nice he have! *interesting* I think my fault taught him but have good reason that enough for everyones using him for advantages took him too much likely treat everyones for fun BBQ cooking and treat giving out beers, and too many. I've seen him.. I did critizite him STOP treating everyones who are advantages him.. They pissed me off big time.. I do not want him being BIG HEART TOO MUCH.. I'm gald he did made stop and less treat.

In my opition NERD is too much nice man ??? Ladies told me.. your man is not NERD.. he is fucking handsome.. I wish I could have him.. I say.. ohh really?!? *shoo her*
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CyberRed,

My man really loves me acting so BITCH'N. Honestly I do not understand why he likes me.. Strange!

I found the book of "Reader's Digest", My husband told me about the Men's survey...

Why you attracted one woman and become permantly same woman? Explain why....
Survey answer: Man discovered woman who is BEST in the bed.. reason why... it's B.J.
I was laughed so hard.. I asked my man, Are you admit that you discoverd what am I ? He turned into RED.. I knew it.. I laughed so hard... :laugh2:

He was changed his subject, "er um, Look!, Not that reason, All I want have provider good family and stable living decent support, He said."


CyberRed said:
I prefer "down-to-earth" guys rather than jerks. The reasons women who choses "jerk" men, is because of women are hopin' high too much from jerk men... IMO ! :) That makes women looks like they really are the ones who are idiot for chosin' jerk men.

Oh, yeah...some men are NICE. Not all of them. Same thing with women. Men would ask "Why NICE men are attracted to Bitch/Nag women" ? In that case, do not ask me !! :laugh2:
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258~ My man is a jerk. :o





Just kidding!!! He's a sweetie but can be demon sometimes. :o I love him all the way. ;)
 
i ask my good freind why she wants to stay with jerk man she say cuz he is good in bed and he care about her

for me i don't see him care about her as he hurt her or make her feel down and make her stay home

I try help her but she don't listen to me
 
RosesNY said:
i ask my good freind why she wants to stay with jerk man she say cuz he is good in bed and he care about her

for me i don't see him care about her as he hurt her or make her feel down and make her stay home

I try help her but she don't listen to me
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You proably are familar with the old quote..."Love is blind".

you see, love can be found in very strange ways...as you feel that you love somone, you just dont want to let go...even if the person hits you, beats you, cheats on you, steal things from you, etc...you still love the person, no matter what. I know it sounds pathetic, and some people just dont make very wise decisions for themselves, and of course they do need help but they just wont admit until the end.

It's very difficult to find the right person so maybe your friend is afraid of being single again if she left him or whatever...maybe it's because that he has good money, and buys her shit and still stay with him...etc.

There are plenyt of fishes under the sea, as you proably heard that a million times, but it's true...it is a possiblity that there are better men than the one your friend is with...she doesn't deserve to be with a man who forces her around and beats her up and shit like that...she deserves much better than this.

It is sweet that your helping her and it is pathetic that she won't listen to you but it's not your problem. it's her own problem and her own relationship. She just has to learn it the hard way. Just be patient and see how it goes.
 
Just to show how smart women can be when it comes to dating "the man"..

<edit> Don't get me wrong. I was married before and I was a "nice guy". My exwife left me for a jerk she dated in high school and married him. Know what?? He raped her when they were seniors in high school! I still cannot understand why she married him. She lost her friends and family because she married him. Ugh! Now, she is going through a second divorce! I am just peeved at women who thinks they can get a better man and find out the first guy they were with was the better deal.
 
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Another thing occured to me while reading this thread. I remember in high school, a friend of mine had a real jerk of a boyfriend...he cheated on her quite openly and we all knew about it - he took other girls out to movies, to go bowling, for pizza and ice cream - and we fully expected that she would grow fed up and get rid of him. She was a nice-looking girl and I'm confident she could have had a nicer boyfriend. She didn't leave him. Finally, I sat her down and said, "WHY, Jackie?"

Her response? "Because I'm really not going to find anyone better."

I was reminded of her when I saw some of the responses to this thread, but they're really not indicative of what she told me. In fact, I do kind of understand NOW what she meant - back then, I was just too pissed off to put any more thought into it.

Could it be that some gals don't feel that they deserve someone better? Or maybe they've had enough bad luck in life to convince them that the jerk they're dating is as good as it's going to get?

Wish I knew where she was, now? I hope she didn't marry him!
 
Malfoyish said:
Another thing occured to me while reading this thread. I remember in high school, a friend of mine had a real jerk of a boyfriend...he cheated on her quite openly and we all knew about it - he took other girls out to movies, to go bowling, for pizza and ice cream - and we fully expected that she would grow fed up and get rid of him. She was a nice-looking girl and I'm confident she could have had a nicer boyfriend. She didn't leave him. Finally, I sat her down and said, "WHY, Jackie?"

Her response? "Because I'm really not going to find anyone better."

I was reminded of her when I saw some of the responses to this thread, but they're really not indicative of what she told me. In fact, I do kind of understand NOW what she meant - back then, I was just too pissed off to put any more thought into it.

Could it be that some gals don't feel that they deserve someone better? Or maybe they've had enough bad luck in life to convince them that the jerk they're dating is as good as it's going to get?

Wish I knew where she was, now? I hope she didn't marry him!
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People need to understand that there are "plenty of fishes in the ocean"! If one relationship doesn't work out, don't fret... move on. We're all liable to find someone somehow somewhere! :thumb:
 
VamPyroX said:
People need to understand that there are "plenty of fishes in the ocean"! If one relationship doesn't work out, don't fret... move on. We're all liable to find someone somehow somewhere! :thumb:
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:werd: Vampy!.....
 
Malfoyish said:
Her response? "Because I'm really not going to find anyone better."
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That’s the response that I usually get when I confront women about their self-defeating behavior. The justification I usually hear is something along the lines of "it’s all I can get". I’ve also noticed that almost all women stop pursuing relationships with bad boys after they turn 30. I’m not sure why this is—it’s just an observation I’ve made.
 
I am FINALLY going to pop the question.
I love and accept her for herself and won't try to change her.
I am willing to change myself, though.
That is the way it ought to be.
 
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