Why Nice Women Are Attracted to Jerks?

Beowulf said:
I am FINALLY going to pop the question.
I love and accept her for herself and won't try to change her.
I am willing to change myself, though.
That is the way it ought to be.
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Isn't that sorta contradicting yourself? You don't want her to change, but are willing to change yourself? A good mate loves you for who you are and doesn't expect you to change. That made her attracted to you in the first place? Your usual self, of course! :thumb:
 
Well my theory is...maybe nice women are attracted to jerks cuz they could be more fun than the boring types like nerds LOL!...reckon??? Ive noticed that a lot of attractive women are attracted to ugly guys!! could be that they are attracted to their personalities than their looks?..i think so. So what do you think??
 
Defee said:
Well my theory is...maybe nice women are attracted to jerks cuz they could be more fun than the boring types like nerds LOL!...reckon??? Ive noticed that a lot of attractive women are attracted to ugly guys!! could be that they are attracted to their personalities than their looks?..i think so. So what do you think??
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that make jerk men really aggressive that women like. More fun they getting. :dunno:
 
Know what I don't understand? Women complain about how guys are assholes. Yet, they go after guys who are assholes. Can't these bitches make up their minds!?!? :(
 
VamPyroX said:
Know what I don't understand? Women complain about how guys are assholes. Yet, they go after guys who are assholes. Can't these bitches make up their minds!?!? :(
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Oh yeah? how about guys go after bitches?? Ive known some terrible bitches but some guys go ga ga over them..so why is that??..heh!! lol!
 
Well u know what they say.....opposites attract :cuddle:

But seriously, I know that I get turned off by jerks. I prefer guys who are sweet and honest...AND good looking!! :P Unfortunately, there aren't too many of those guys out there....so many guys my age are total stupid asses with one thing on their mind!
 
Malfoyish said:
Another thing occured to me while reading this thread. I remember in high school, a friend of mine had a real jerk of a boyfriend...he cheated on her quite openly and we all knew about it - he took other girls out to movies, to go bowling, for pizza and ice cream - and we fully expected that she would grow fed up and get rid of him. She was a nice-looking girl and I'm confident she could have had a nicer boyfriend. She didn't leave him. Finally, I sat her down and said, "WHY, Jackie?"

Her response? "Because I'm really not going to find anyone better."

I was reminded of her when I saw some of the responses to this thread, but they're really not indicative of what she told me. In fact, I do kind of understand NOW what she meant - back then, I was just too pissed off to put any more thought into it.

Could it be that some gals don't feel that they deserve someone better? Or maybe they've had enough bad luck in life to convince them that the jerk they're dating is as good as it's going to get?

Wish I knew where she was, now? I hope she didn't marry him!
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I also wonder a lot of the same things as you, Malfy. Like you, I knew a girl who dated guys who were "beneath" her when we were in school. I watched on the sidelines while several of these guys would just walk all over her. They cheated, said things to people behind her back. You name it. Finally, after a really particularly bad episode, I asked HER "Why, Penny?" Her response? Virtually, the same response as your friend, Jackie. "I don't deserve anyone better."

Sadly, I lost touch with Penny after a lot of years. I often wonder what happened to her, but I don't make any inquiries, because, I think I KNOW what happened to her. There's a part of me that just doesn't want to know if my suspicions about her proved true.
 
VamPyroX said:
People need to understand that there are "plenty of fishes in the ocean"! If one relationship doesn't work out, don't fret... move on. We're all liable to find someone somehow somewhere! :thumb:
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I agree with you, but if a girl/woman's self esteem is zero, it won't matter who she meets. She'll be attracted to men who will dump on her, regardless. It comes down to how we all should be treated. Women need to know that they deserve better. Conversely, some men need to know that certain things won't be tolerated. If you boil it down, it all comes right back to self esteem. If you don't have the esteem to say you won't put up with certain conduct, then you're pretty much sunk, and always will be.
 
Oceanbreeze said:
I agree with you, but if a girl/woman's self esteem is zero, it won't matter who she meets. She'll be attracted to men who will dump on her, regardless. It comes down to how we all should be treated. Women need to know that they deserve better. Conversely, some men need to know that certain things won't be tolerated. If you boil it down, it all comes right back to self esteem. If you don't have the esteem to say you won't put up with certain conduct, then you're pretty much sunk, and always will be.
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I've seen some relationships where the guy or the gal are so seriously obsessed with the relationship. They are willing to do ANYTHING... and it's not a pretty sight! :eek:
 
Well with me I am very Picky when it comes to Guys. Believe me I have been with Jerks but that was until I knew Later in a Relationship some turns out to be a Jerk. I go after guys that are Cute and Good Looking and have a good Sense of Humor and Most of all Honestly is my Number one Score.
 
There are a lot of women I try dating here but all they do is say that they rather be single. I then find out that they end up dating this other guy and disappear. Boy, that hurt!
 
VamPyroX said:
There are a lot of women I try dating here but all they do is say that they rather be single. I then find out that they end up dating this other guy and disappear. Boy, that hurt!
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Did you scare them away for sumfin' that you don't know what it really is ?
 
VamPyroX said:
There are a lot of women I try dating here but all they do is say that they rather be single. I then find out that they end up dating this other guy and disappear. Boy, that hurt!
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awwww I'll tell ya what, You could be my Date when I come down and Visit New York.;) We Could go to the Movies, Dinner and Just Hang Out and Have Fun then maybe after I leave there might be some Ladies Lining up for you to date you.. Heh!
 
You know what?? I finally got rid of the jerk of my exh. How did I do that?? He hurt me so much by lying, cheating, bring me down, lower my self esteem. Then one day, I took a hard look at my son and realized that I dont want my son see me suffer. My self esteem is sooooooooooooooooo low so I decided to go karate class. It brought my self esteem. Then one day it really turned to be a good day cuz we had arguement and I kicked him out of my house since it is in my name on the deed. Too bad. I felt so good and proud of myself. During the process of divorce, he still want me back but I refused. Still happily divorced him and moving on with my life. I did a darn good raising my son otherwise my exh will screwed him up for good.

I am so proud of my self and got my self esteem back. I know what is like to be there and dont want to go thru something like that again. I want a man who have lot of respect and honesty, faithful. :D
 
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