Why my hubby refuse to go counseling?

[mtnlady]

Just to let you know, When I say "is he married to his friend" I mean the same thing as when people say "He is married to his car"

Nothing to do with gay or porn. .... although you probably are right about that. Men do like hot women.

I think I am hot too, I m 5'2" and 106 pd, how is that?

 

[Reba]

I think I am hot too, I m 5'2" and 106 pd, how is that?

It doesn't matter how "hot" you are. There are some men who are never satisfied because they have unrealistic expectations and fantasies. Also, they don't want a life-time equal partner in marriage but they want a servant and sex toy woman. That isn't a fair marriage. That's not respecting each other.

Until and if your husband changes from a man who just wants to please himself to a man who wants to please you, his wife, then your situation won't improve. If he doesn't want to get counseling to help himself change, then your marriage won't improve.

You can't change him but you can change yourself to be stronger and protect yourself from him. I know it is hard for you to find a counselor who either signs or will use an interpreter. Please keep searching. Have you tried your county mental health services? Also, check with your area's battered women's shelters for referrals. I'm not saying that your husband has physically attacked you but counselors who help battered women know how to help for emotional and mental abuse also.

 

[mtnlady]

It doesn't matter how "hot" you are. There are some men who are never satisfied because they have unrealistic expectations and fantasies. Also, they don't want a life-time equal partner in marriage but they want a servant and sex toy woman. That isn't a fair marriage. That's not respecting each other.

Until and if your husband changes from a man who just wants to please himself to a man who wants to please you, his wife, then your situation won't improve. If he doesn't want to get counseling to help himself change, then your marriage won't improve.

You can't change him but you can change yourself to be stronger and protect yourself from him. I know it is hard for you to find a counselor who either signs or will use an interpreter. Please keep searching. Have you tried your county mental health services? Also, check with your area's battered women's shelters for referrals. I'm not saying that your husband has physically attacked you but counselors who help battered women know how to help for emotional and mental abuse also.

Thank you so much Reba, I am appreciate it.

 

[Smithtr]

It doesn't matter how "hot" you are. There are some men who are never satisfied because they have unrealistic expectations and fantasies. Also, they don't want a life-time equal partner in marriage but they want a servant and sex toy woman. That isn't a fair marriage. That's not respecting each other.

Until and if your husband changes from a man who just wants to please himself to a man who wants to please you, his wife, then your situation won't improve. If he doesn't want to get counseling to help himself change, then your marriage won't improve.

You can't change him but you can change yourself to be stronger and protect yourself from him. I know it is hard for you to find a counselor who either signs or will use an interpreter. Please keep searching. Have you tried your county mental health services? Also, check with your area's battered women's shelters for referrals. I'm not saying that your husband has physically attacked you but counselors who help battered women know how to help for emotional and mental abuse also.

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[jillio]

Sorry to hear you had these troubles,

Let me put this way.

You can bring horse to the water, but you can't force the horse to drink the water.

If he really cares about marriage then he will do something about it, bit if not then why bother suffering?

Well said, dhb! I couldn't come up with better advise than that, and I am a professional!

 

[Sapphire Moon]

Church

Thank you to all who review and respond to me especially The White Tiger, that is what we are having since for about 6 months now. I am having trouble find the counselor because I am in rural area so it is tough for me to go. I wish the gas price is alot lower so but yea I would go to counseling when I find one. And thanks for the advise about finding the counselor. Hopefully my hubby will hang in there! I would find a way, I would not give up. Let s wait and see how that goes.......

Do you go to church? The pastor of your church's responsibility is to provide counseling for all who attend. The give counseling both before and after marriage. If you have a videophone, that will help you so you do not wate money on gas, and if the pastor is hearing, they will be able to counsel on the phone, and it should all be FREE! =) I hope this helps you!

Be blessed

 

[diehardbiker]

It pays to have experience, and I have been though crazy relationship. Here is hard truth, there will never be perfect relationship. There are always rocky roads there and it takes two to work though the rocky roads. And if it is very bumpy ride and if one refuse to hold hands with each other then both will surely fall apart.

Well said, dhb! I couldn't come up with better advise than that, and I am a professional!