Thank you very much everybody to read your advise. I really appreciate it alot. I agree with GuidoSarducci, that this is 2010 now not like 1930. Everyone is working bec need two income to pay the bills. Hubby dont work but I do and I want to go to church, Hubby dont. So things are difficult now, we have been separate over year, I m 49. Really I am tired.....I am taking a break and would love to communicate with him but he shut me out and tired of getting argue with him, I always try to give him the positive thing no negatives but I am running out of it....
Why my hubby refuse to go counseling?
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I'm very sorry about your situation. Sadly, you can't force your husband to go to counseling. Even if you could, if he attended under force then he probably wouldn't pay attention or participate in the sessions. He has to want to save the marriage as much as you do for the counseling to succeed. We don't know why he won't go to counseling. That's whatever is happening in his mind and heart.
It might still be good for you to continue attending counseling to get help for coping with the situation, and for sorting out your own thoughts.
If you need an interpreter for your counseling sessions, I hope you get one.
Best wishes to you.
I agree with Reba , if you husband was force to go to counseling it would be a waste of time! He could agree to what was being said and soon as he got home he would be back to his old self again! I have heard of this happening to women a lot! I am sorry to hear your marriage is in trouble.
I divorce my husband , he did not want to work on our marriage , he said I was too quick thinking for him! I could do nothing about that!
Well, that is no excuse......It makes me feel like he thinks I am bitch because I know more about marriage then he does, sound like men don't like the women who is bitch and being smart about it and they don't want to talk about the feeling and the marriage. Like the men tried to be a mancho themselves and smarter than their wives. I thought we are suppose to balance it out with our marriage, do we ?
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Don't e-mail Mr. Energyman. He is a stranger that none of us know him at all. He made only one post and beside you don't have to get to know him. I think he is being sarcastic, whatever he is thinking.
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I used to study Psychology in Seattle, Washington but no where can I understand the behavior between man and woman in the marriage that need help to stay in the marriage. All I can say that two people in the marriage are different from each other like their likes and dislikes, their favorite things and just getting their own comfort zones. They have to have some common with each other that they can get along better.
My husband and I are totally different but we do have some common things like some food we like and we like to watch some of the same programs and we do like to communicate as he is hearing and I am deaf. He only sign little but I can lipread him, but I have to make him repeat so that I can understand what he says. He don't mind the repeat. He does not object my using the close captioned T.V. So our marriage seem pretty good and we have been married almost 13 years this coming October. It just take two people to try to make the marriage work. My husband like our marriage better than his other past relationships that he had.
It depend if one or two want to go for counseling to help to save a marriage, then go for it. I hope you can find some options to make your marriage work if you want to continue staying in the marriage, otherwise it would be better if you divorce in order for you to keep sane and happy away from him. It is not a easy marriage, so go with your instinct. Good luck, Mtnlady.
My husband and I are totally different but we do have some common things like some food we like and we like to watch some of the same programs and we do like to communicate as he is hearing and I am deaf. He only sign little but I can lipread him, but I have to make him repeat so that I can understand what he says. He don't mind the repeat. He does not object my using the close captioned T.V. So our marriage seem pretty good and we have been married almost 13 years this coming October. It just take two people to try to make the marriage work. My husband like our marriage better than his other past relationships that he had.
It depend if one or two want to go for counseling to help to save a marriage, then go for it. I hope you can find some options to make your marriage work if you want to continue staying in the marriage, otherwise it would be better if you divorce in order for you to keep sane and happy away from him. It is not a easy marriage, so go with your instinct. Good luck, Mtnlady.
My hubby told me Why not divorce and continue stay in touch and sex amy times we want? In my mind "WTF!", Are you kidding me? No way, after divorce and you want me to be best friend, continue to sex? WTF his problem, hell no way, what is he doing, try to ruin my life and use me? oh F_____! I am not whore, I am his wife who wants to share love and be happy in his life! How do i point this out ?
Don't e-mail Mr. Energyman. He is a stranger that none of us know him at all. He made only one post and beside you don't have to get to know him. I think he is being sarcastic, whatever he is thinking.
he is being a troll
If you told him the same thing that you just posted here, then you did point it out to him. The problem is, he doesn't seem to care about your feelings.
He got this information from his hearing friend, so he got the wrong friend to help him, s_____t! That is what I m talking about in previous post.
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I'm sorry but if your husband isn't willing to get serious counseling with you, then I hope you can get counseling for yourself. Your husband is not showing you the respect you deserve.
Right! I am planning to go but there is nobody who knows sign language, I am still looking.........
I know, I need help tho, this is pretty deep that i believe I need help tho
Ask him if he is married to his friend?
It seem he care about what his friend think.
Just to let you know, When I say "is he married to his friend" I mean the same thing as when people say "He is married to his car"
Nothing to do with gay
or porn. .... although you probably are right about that. Men do like hot women.