Audiofuzzy
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Trust me, when you can't hear well and you are in the group of hearies that are speaking fast amongst them you understand nothing and you feel left out. then you realise no matter how smart you are how well you lipread etc there are barriers you can't cross. They love you, they take your H/loss under consideration, but..
After a while it's humiliating to ask over and over "what's up". At least I feel like an idiot having to be explained every single thing separately.
Go on camping - as soon as the sun goes down everybody is having fun by the campfire but you. why? because they are speaking and you can't ... see.
If you are hearing in the deaf world unless you know sign language it's probably similar situation. Unless of course you know sign language well.
I think in this aspect it's easier for a "hearie" to fit into deaf world.
I didn't participate in deaf world at all. My parents discouraged me, and even my brother who was "fully deaf" and signing didn't wanted to include me. I wen to regular schools, had only hearing friends.
I had odd encounters with deaf people here and there, learned a few signs, can barely finger spell.. it takes me ages to get one letter in deaf alphabet.
And yet I know I should have been allowed to participate both ways.
(I also have bad migraine condition and I am just too sick and tired to start now with ASL and all.)
You peeps are my only contact with the deaf culture..for which I am very thankful
Fuzzy
PS. but of course that is NOT to say by being deaf we are lesser or something. heavens no. as you've said we are created equal but let's face it- as Chinese can't understand Polish so deaf and hearing have their difficulties in communication, It's about the problems with communication, mostly, for us.
Beside that is the separate subject how confident we are as individuals.
I know I am shy yet confident, No hearie is gonna tell me "you can't".
let him try! -grrrrrr
Fuzzy
pps.- one of course needs to be reasonably confident - for example I am not going to try out for an orchestra conductor.
After a while it's humiliating to ask over and over "what's up". At least I feel like an idiot having to be explained every single thing separately.
Go on camping - as soon as the sun goes down everybody is having fun by the campfire but you. why? because they are speaking and you can't ... see.
If you are hearing in the deaf world unless you know sign language it's probably similar situation. Unless of course you know sign language well.
I think in this aspect it's easier for a "hearie" to fit into deaf world.
I didn't participate in deaf world at all. My parents discouraged me, and even my brother who was "fully deaf" and signing didn't wanted to include me. I wen to regular schools, had only hearing friends.
I had odd encounters with deaf people here and there, learned a few signs, can barely finger spell.. it takes me ages to get one letter in deaf alphabet.
And yet I know I should have been allowed to participate both ways.
(I also have bad migraine condition and I am just too sick and tired to start now with ASL and all.)
You peeps are my only contact with the deaf culture..for which I am very thankful
Fuzzy
PS. but of course that is NOT to say by being deaf we are lesser or something. heavens no. as you've said we are created equal but let's face it- as Chinese can't understand Polish so deaf and hearing have their difficulties in communication, It's about the problems with communication, mostly, for us.
Beside that is the separate subject how confident we are as individuals.
I know I am shy yet confident, No hearie is gonna tell me "you can't".
let him try! -grrrrrr
Fuzzy
pps.- one of course needs to be reasonably confident - for example I am not going to try out for an orchestra conductor.