When you get a pm from another member of the forum(s)..

AnnyGuy said:
Okay, Felixkat.

Don't get upset or anything, okay? I'll tell you what I've noticed so far and I'll tell you truth, nothing but all truth, ok? Seems you have been making lot of "negative" threads, not much of postitive threads. You know sometimes you need to keep 'personal' stuff to yourself. We don't need to know about your daily personal problems with your 'private' life. If you need somebody to talk to, I suggest you to talk to someone on AIM or in real life friend or somebody instead of making a new thread every problems you are having. For example, here's those threads you made I put down here and don't you see that's lot of negatives? It could 'turn-off' some people and lose their interest to read your thread, like they don't want to read or to hear anymore of it. I understand you may be very sensitive person but sometimes its best to keep it to yourself, keep your problems out of here or something and talk to someone on IM or in real person in real life instead, you know? I'm just helping you.


Those threads you made (negatives):

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29838

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29814

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29614

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29323

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29405

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=28685

there's much more but you get it what i'm trying to make a point here. :)
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I agree with you imo

there are some things you should keep to yourself and things that you share with other people. and most of those are similar to one another, and that thread about hearing something at night isn't really needed.
 
Yes, There are something best not discussed and problems can be solved offline. There are alots of people from all walks of life and there is bound to be difference in opinions. If you get any more of these angry pm's you can do either 3 things, read them , or delete them or report it to Alex or one of the moderators on duty. I also understand you want advice. If you do then you can send a pm to the appropriate person asking for advice then correspond from there. Hope this helps..... :angel:
 
Yes I can understand both sides and can see where you both come from.

All what I want to say is: Simple is: if you don´t like what you see then ignore them and go other thread.

For FelixKat930,
I can see that FelixKat930 need someone to talk with, vent/rant her feeling and share her feedback with us.

For AnneGuy,
Yes, I know AnneGuy doesn´t mean to upset FelixKat930 but tell her what he think...


Remember, what´s this forum for?...
 
FelixKat has the right to vent out her problems regarding her family. Even though, we all know that it's a personal confidence she needs to keep to herself. Still she can post whatever she feels like regarding her own family dilemma. She did not cry for attention nor a pity. She needs a helpful feedback of what she can do or say. Her situation is almost similar to a few of my friends whom I understand. She's not the only one. I too have the minor problem with my mom and my aunt. But my mother and I buried an ax and resolved some years before she passed over in 1994. My family and I severed a tie or as known as "disown" my aunt. We go farther, not back.

She needs help to put a terrible past behind her and go on with her husband's family and their own family. Also she has some wonderful family members who love her. It's not an easy way. She doesn't need a sad memory. She needs to keep the good memory, so that is why we all are here in this forum. Is it right that she needs to keep a good memory? Yes. She does need to keep the wonderful memory, not the bad or sad memory. The more we encourage her to go on with the good memory and the good family, the more she will be strong.

AD members are encourage to help other AD members in this situation. Not to attack on the post or in a PM. AD members are encourage to help them in PM, VP, or email. (Though, I don't trust VP anyway..) I love to see helpful members of this forum who will be glad to put aside a few minutes to help and listen to one member or another.

FelixKat is encourage to let the moderators know what was going on and forward the PM to a moderator to read it. The moderators will be able to cool the heat down and explain the rules again. It works. I did in the LE forum when one was telling me her crazy fantasy about her and ..<ahem> She bothered me so much, I reported her to the moderator. She didn't know who. ;) She's deaf...well, a badge bunny. So FelixKat has the right to report anyone to a moderator as she thinks it seems fitting to tell, whether if someone attacks her thread or attack in the PM. I hope she will be okay.
 
FelixKat930 said:
and they tell you that you post same thread on other forums and just want attention. And that it's pity, aint it?


Well, it happened to me, and when I read this, it broke me into tears. How could someone think that I am doing it for attention?

Is it wrong that I can make the same threads in some forums for fun or vent? I was only posting about SC and my family that was it.

I felt like I was being attacked! :mad:

Now I am still hurting and in tears!!! :tears:
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There is nothing wrong with that at all...No, you were not doing it for attention at all...:hug:
 
AnnyGuy said:
Okay, Felixkat.

Don't get upset or anything, okay? I'll tell you what I've noticed so far and I'll tell you truth, nothing but all truth, ok? Seems you have been making lot of "negative" threads, not much of postitive threads. You know sometimes you need to keep 'personal' stuff to yourself. We don't need to know about your daily personal problems with your 'private' life. If you need somebody to talk to, I suggest you to talk to someone on AIM or in real life friend or somebody instead of making a new thread every problems you are having. For example, here's those threads you made I put down here and don't you see that's lot of negatives? It could 'turn-off' some people and lose their interest to read your thread, like they don't want to read or to hear anymore of it. I understand you may be very sensitive person but sometimes its best to keep it to yourself, keep your problems out of here or something and talk to someone on IM or in real person in real life instead, you know? I'm just helping you.


Those threads you made (negatives):

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29838

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29814

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29614

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29323

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29405

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=28685

there's much more but you get it what i'm trying to make a point here. :)
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I disagree with you...These links were not negatives at all,...She was vented her frustrations, etc...We are like family here and support each others..;)
 
Heath said:
Yes, There are something best not discussed and problems can be solved offline. There are alots of people from all walks of life and there is bound to be difference in opinions. If you get any more of these angry pm's you can do either 3 things, read them , or delete them or report it to Alex or one of the moderators on duty. I also understand you want advice. If you do then you can send a pm to the appropriate person asking for advice then correspond from there. Hope this helps..... :angel:
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But there are things she needs to take care of herself and not talk about personal business online.... Sometimes it's way to much information for the worldwide to be reading.... She is a adult and there are things she is going to have to take care of herself and if she needs advice she needs to ask her hubby about it... Not a bunch of strangers.... There is a lot of other things to talk about.... Yet she does need to report the email that she got but it's all up to her... I hope everything turns out good for her and get this strighten out.... :ugh2:
 
coloravalanche said:
I disagree with you...These links were not negatives at all,...She was vented her frustrations, etc...We are like family here and support each others..;)
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yes I understand what your saying
 
coloravalanche said:
These links were not negatives at all,...She was vented her frustrations, etc...We are like family here and support each others..;)
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*nodding agreement*
 
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