I lost my family appearly..

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MilitaryGirl83

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Because just I confront my mother about what she did to me and what I had been through with her. It was the damn best feeling I had when I had weights off my shoulders. But unfortunely, My dad and other family members stood up for her and just saying she's perfect and that I am a liar and :blah: :blah: :blah: :mad:

So they arent on my side but I still got my own family that Jeremy and I created and that we have his family and our friends anyways!

My mother is always lying and in denial for years and she does NOT want face the truth. :mad: She said she will work things out with me but she never called. She never comes to visit me at all for 4 years and never stepped into our apartment. And she's only there at the hospital because I had 2 babies.. patheic eh? NOW SHE WANTS TO BE THERE FOR MY CI SURGERY? Sighh

Oh well.. I feel better now.. but it's such a shame that I thought my dad understands me and we was so close.. and now he stood up for her and turn back on me. My dad and my mom has been married legally but still legally seprated since 1995 and my mom refuses to divorce. But yet she's enagaged to her boyfriend.. stupid eh? They also have a kid together which is my half brother Matthew.
 
Ohh I do understand how you feel but it's your choose to not letting your mother to be there for you during you have surgery for CI or let her to... It's your choose, remember that.. :hug:
 
FelixKat930 said:
Because just I confront my mother about what she did to me and what I had been through with her. It was the damn best feeling I had when I had weights off my shoulders. But unfortunely, My dad and other family members stood up for her and just saying she's perfect and that I am a liar and :blah: :blah: :blah: :mad:

So they arent on my side but I still got my own family that Jeremy and I created and that we have his family and our friends anyways!

My mother is always lying and in denial for years and she does NOT want face the truth. :mad: She said she will work things out with me but she never called. She never comes to visit me at all for 4 years and never stepped into our apartment. And she's only there at the hospital because I had 2 babies.. patheic eh? NOW SHE WANTS TO BE THERE FOR MY CI SURGERY? Sighh

Oh well.. I feel better now.. but it's such a shame that I thought my dad understands me and we was so close.. and now he stood up for her and turn back on me. My dad and my mom has been married legally but still legally seprated since 1995 and my mom refuses to divorce. But yet she's enagaged to her boyfriend.. stupid eh? They also have a kid together which is my half brother Matthew.
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The best thing you can do it to let go some things from the past.. Don't sweat on it and only think the future and the family that you created... One of these days you both will come to sense and realize that ya'll are family... All families have issues and no one isn't perfect. You need to realize that there are some issues that you can take care of by yourself and yes you need to confront some things to get it off of your shoulder... Im not sure exactly what happen between you and your mom but just think postive and I know that your mom loves you with all of your heart! If you want your mom to be there for you while you get your cochlear implant surgery then let her and it's imporant for the both of you as it was when you had your childrens!
 
aww felix
that is your decision to have your mom there for your CI surgery not mom to decide it is yours you old enuff to make your own decision


i know how you feel
i feel left out from my family
 
Sorry you feel that way, FelixKat. You're not the only one in the similar situation. Some family just don't cope with a child who is deaf or HOH. Some knew what they did or said wrong but won't admit. They may say that their son or daughter is always a liar because of the school system. I recalled in the past that my old school in Compton, CA would lied to me stating that it was an "accident." It was NO accident when someone DID push me against the tile walls in the RR on a purpose because I refused to do stupid things with her. When I told my mother, the teachers were explaining that I'm a "liar" or "having a wild imagination." She bought that. IT was stupid of her. Once I grew up into a high school, I questioned her and then attacked her verbally. She was stunned that she doesn't know what was going on and apologizing for whatever she heard about what they said. She hugged me and cried. I told her I'm NO deaf and I heard what they were telling her. My aunt is a strong believer of what they were telling her. Sucks. Why was she there with my mother for? I cut a tie with her, so my mom did the same. Now she has no family of her own...she wailed that I was a trickster. :roll: I hope you will find a way to get your family together. IF not, you should be glad to have your own family you love and understanding. Some just don't take it. (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))) :hug:

Let them chase after you and apologizing to you. I don't know when so I can't predict when it will happen. Like I said, let them chase after you with their regret feelings of what they did. ;) It might work. Even after 15 years.
 
I wrote her a long letter but I felt better. I am tired of being afraid and not to be able to stand up for myself ya know? I went through hell so bad when I was growing up. I had bad childhood. The abuse from my mom and her bf and other bad things that has happened to me I was so tramizated. Now I am in therphy and my therpist is so wonderful because she and I have a lot in common and know that we went through the same thing.

I won't let my mom and anyone else try to take control away from me and walk all over me anymore!!! :mad:
 
that is good felix writing is good thing to do to get it out without communicating with others cuz papers don't speak back smile

i do that all the time
 
Unfortunely they called my husband and was being drama people and etc.. I felt hurt mostly because I thought my dad would be on my side since he knows what I have been through. :tears: And he turns his back on me! :(
 
Maybe you could send this to your family by e-mail and maybe their eyes will finally be opened and that will be the real ice breaker to a better and more stronger family. All you can do is pray and talk to them and get them to open their eyes. I know they don't wanna admit it because it hurts so much and they are not real too sure how to move forwards for a better family. I am sure they want that too, somehow. :angel:
 
I don't need a toxic family.. and I do NOT want to go back to them unless they change for the better but if it's not gonna happen then its their own loss. I want a loving and healthy family that is honest and have communication without violence etc ya know.
 
Sorry about that. That sucks.

I wish parents were more supportive.
 
AWW That's sucks!

Maybe your mom lied to your dad about what you shared with your mom about your feelings?? :dunno:
 
FelixKat930 said:
I don't need a toxic family.. and I do NOT want to go back to them unless they change for the better but if it's not gonna happen then its their own loss. I want a loving and healthy family that is honest and have communication without violence etc ya know.
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Hmmmm...just let them chase..the more they chase after you with a thousand apologies that will not make it up for your feeling, the more they will be tired. They will blame themselves for this dilemma. It works.. again, sometimes. It's hard for you to be feeling like this. :( Glad you have a therapist that will help you get thru the difficult situation of your family. We're here when you need us, FelixKat. :hug:
 
I hear ya...

I have absolutely nothing to do with my bitch stepmother...she was horrible to me...so now I hate her.

So do what you gotta do to be happy, you don't deserve her shit!
 
Girl you have been through a lot lately. You can always pm me you know I'm in Indaian too. I have had it rough the last few months with my on again off again marriage. You will make it and I will too. Take care.
 
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