What's with MEN??

And like DreamDeaf said earlier, when some men make fun of overweight women or has an issue of dating one, then they're just a bunch of worms instead of a gentleman, as you know not all men are alike, and some don't even care what they look like from the outside because the inner beauty is what most important to some....


:giggle: Sorry I had to say that.....
 
A handsome man married a beautiful wife, and they had a beautiful baby together.

But one day, wife was ill and had some kind of disease and doctors cut off her limbs to keep her alive.

Wife said she wish she can have her arms back to hold her baby.

Outer beauty fades away, inner beauty lasts long time.
 
DD u really made me laugh about "worm!" :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

Ladies, I understand how you feel because after I had babies, I gained weight and my ex husband called me all kinds of names. Whenever we went shopping, he kept telling me he was embarrassed to be seen with me because people were starring at my fat butt. I was only like 50 lbs overweight at that time. My self esteem went down so much that I refused to go shopping with him most of time. He always reminded me how fat I was, ugly, dumb, etc. I was married to him for 19 years and I ate and ate in my misery. Now I'm happily married to my 2nd husband Dave :ily: and he never told me to lose weight. He always told me that I am most beautiful woman in the world, told me he loves me many times every day, etc. The reason why I decided to lose weight is to be healthier so that I will live longer to see our five children grow up, get married, have grandkids, etc. My husband is diabetic so he is losing weight too. We are using South Beach diet plan and we are doing good on it. Yah!!!
 
^Angel^ said:
Liebling dear,

No sweetie that's not what he meant as what you and FreeWoman77 thinks...

He was trying to set an example as if there was a skinny woman with a lousy personality compare to a woman who is 800 pounds more with a good personality, he will pick the 800 pounds lady is because she has a good personality than the skinny one, so what he trying to point out is he rather to look at the person from the inside than looking at them from the outside....


I hope this clear up any misunderstanding...
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Okay, but it´s not just He but others, too. Yes I can understand the comparison they made... Okay for now... Let forget it... :grouphug:
 
^Angel^ said:
Amen Thank you Butterflygirl.....I'm getting the feelings this thread isn't such a good idea.... :(
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Ohhhh noooo, it´s good thread, you made to help men to understand how women feel... :hug:

It´s also good for men to support their women with health issue instead of make the fun of them...
 
I feel sad after reading your posts after Angel´s last post... :tears: I can´t beleive how/what you all have been through bad times with your ex-partners´s nasty name-calling... It make me feel sick because you all bear their babies... :grouphug:
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Gene who has strong heavy bone and big broad runs in the family.. will you make them do lose weight? How giving them postive ways ?
I doubt.
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There's the problem. Big boned women are not supposed to have a "goal weight". They are supposed to work out until their flab is gone. That's the point of losing weight - to get the form back without flabs. To lose weight beyond what your muscle contains is just pure stupidity. Those that try to do that are of need serious help with their own disorder.

-J.
 
Yiffzer said:
There's the problem. Big boned women are not supposed to have a "goal weight". They are supposed to work out until their flab is gone. That's the point of losing weight - to get the form back without flabs. To lose weight beyond what your muscle contains is just pure stupidity. Those that try to do that are of need serious help with their own disorder.

-J.
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Do you expecting them "encourge them lose weight" everyday?? I suggest that you need open heart and understanding who have runs their genes heavy bones.. I don't complain anyone who have heavy bones or their health some of kinds diease...
Of course I know you're not trying to brings hot debate. Willing open and understanding their own pov and between yours.. That's fine w/me.. If suppose your future wife become overweight, how can you deal w/your future wife... ? Just happends their health came bad diease.. do you expect your wife GO WORK and lose weight will better health back normal.. I don't think so..

I have thyroid and long haul battle my weight.. somatch and hips.. still ongoing roller coaster lose weight then up back same weight number again..
Pretty hard for me to have patience..

Can you fix my health? I know you can't being magic wand for me become looking sexier.. no..
Accept who am I.. My personalities is great inside and outside...
 
Yiffzer said:
There's the problem. Big boned women are not supposed to have a "goal weight". They are supposed to work out until their flab is gone. That's the point of losing weight - to get the form back without flabs. To lose weight beyond what your muscle contains is just pure stupidity. Those that try to do that are of need serious help with their own disorder.

-J.
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NOT everyone who are big boned have flabs on them. HOW can they lose weight if they are just big boned with no flabs?? Some people look at them as overweight but really they are not.
 
Yiffzer said:
There's the problem. Big boned women are not supposed to have a "goal weight". They are supposed to work out until their flab is gone. That's the point of losing weight - to get the form back without flabs. To lose weight beyond what your muscle contains is just pure stupidity. Those that try to do that are of need serious help with their own disorder.

-J.
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What flabs? My aunt has big hip bones and she has no flabs on hers, and there nothing she can do about it even her doctor said the same thing....
 
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Well then I must've mistakened what you all meant. I thought you guys meant that some women are big boned but are fat as well. I meant that if you are in this kind of body and you wish to lose "weight", I pointed out that "weight" is the wrong term because bones are already heavy. The best term is to lose "fat". So, if you want to lose fat, start working out until your flab is gone and you can actually feel your muscles! :) Deal with the big bones - they're better for you anyway - stronger and thicker. :) As for guys that don't like big bones, well - that's a sad thing to see.

-J.
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Do you expecting them "encourge them lose weight" everyday?? I suggest that you need open heart and understanding who have runs their genes heavy bones.. I don't complain anyone who have heavy bones or their health some of kinds diease...

Of course I know you're not trying to brings hot debate. Willing open and understanding their own pov and between yours.. That's fine w/me.. If suppose your future wife become overweight, how can you deal w/your future wife... ? Just happends their health came bad diease.. do you expect your wife GO WORK and lose weight will better health back normal.. I don't think so..

I have thyroid and long haul battle my weight.. somatch and hips.. still ongoing roller coaster lose weight then up back same weight number again..
Pretty hard for me to have patience..

Can you fix my health? I know you can't being magic wand for me become looking sexier.. no..
Accept who am I.. My personalities is great inside and outside...
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I was only talking to those that wanted to lose their fat. They'd have to work out and lose the flab.

If my wife was fat, I'd be naturally upset. However, her fatness is not of my most utmost concern - it'd be her health. There are some healthy individuals who are just fat. As long as her body is working in optimum condition, I can't complain. Of course, I'd encourage her to lose her fat by working out with me. God knows I need some workout as well. Besides, a lil work out doesn't even hurt. Say... play basketball versus each other? Why not? Or go out and walk together. Romantic yet beneficial.

Health is number 1. Personality is number 2. Fatness is number 3. ;)

I can't talk to a person if they're not healthy. I can't talk to a person if they're not nice. And I sure can't appreciate the person's beauty if they're completely fat. A lot of women are usually normal without any health issues so I'm not fearing this at all.

I'm sorry to hear about your thyroid issue. That one is a big issue and it's hard to combat, yes. Isn't there a type of medicine or a surgery to fix the thyroid issue? Once you fix this, your body will begin to work more consistently and you'd get your true weight. But I have to ask you - why did you get thyroid issues in the first place? If you abused food or had improper growth in your early age, then that would be the obvious reason. You can't blame on a disorder for that but yourself or your parents.

I can't fix your health even if I wanted to. They're are your problems. ;) I accept every single person in this world - even a murderer, even the nicest person in the world, even a gay person. I accept anything. I don't hate anyone. ;)

-J.
 
Yiff...

Even women and men that have big bones still can lose weight and be small. the flabs are fats.. once they exercise there'll be no flabs.. even people with big bones and no flabs can still lose more weight and have small or medium frame
 
Yiffzer, well, i think wrong thread, this one is about WHY overweights issue's so important to MEN? what would u do if ur girlfriend was skinny after having a kid/kids got gained would u still be with her? support her to lose weight? understand her healthy or whatever plms?
what if ur girlfriend is overweighted would u still purpose her to marry u?



edit: never mind u just posted above :D
 
FreeWoman77 said:
Yiffzer, well, i think wrong thread, this one is about WHY overweights issue's so important to MEN? what would u do if ur girlfriend was skinny after having a kid/kids got gained would u still be with her? support her to lose weight? understand her healthy or whatever plms?
what if ur girlfriend is overweighted would u still purpose her to marry u?



edit: never mind u just posted above :D
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MOST CERTAINLY! I'D LOVE TO BE WITH HER! ;)

I know one not-so-beautiful girl who I actually love. She's been my best friend for 2 years now and everyday goes by, she seems even more beautiful. Although she is skinny, but she's not very beautiful compared to the models or hot blondes that you see rampaging in teen high schools. She's just a really regular looking girl. Talking to her online without even seeing her face is even beautiful too. When I see her in person, she's even more beautiful. It's her personality, not the looks.

-J.
 
RebelGirl said:
Yiff...

Even women and men that have big bones still can lose weight and be small. the flabs are fats.. once they exercise there'll be no flabs.. even people with big bones and no flabs can still lose more weight and have small or medium frame
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Are you serious? That's something I never knew. How can one reduce their bone density? By not getting enough calcium? Wouldn't that be dangerous? Unless I'm wrong - correct me! :)

-J.
 
Yiffzer, I find your post interesting about health issue... You are open mind and say direct what you think. I like it.


I would suggest you to create a thread about health issues. I will be there...
 
Yiffzer said:
Are you serious? That's something I never knew. How can one reduce their bone density? By not getting enough calcium? Wouldn't that be dangerous? Unless I'm wrong - correct me! :)

-J.
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to be honest with you, this is way off topic.. its about what's with men? what men see in women.

its best if you create a new thread about big and small bones.. how's that? I'll be happy to explain it to you in a new thread. I don't want to interrupt ^Angel^'s thread by talking about weights again.. :wink:
 
Liebling:-))) said:
Yiffzer, I find your post interesting about health issue... You are open mind and say direct what you think. I like it.


I would suggest you to create a thread about health issues. I will be there...
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There you go.. you beat me to it! :nana:
 
Yiffzer said:
Are you serious? That's something I never knew. How can one reduce their bone density? By not getting enough calcium? Wouldn't that be dangerous? Unless I'm wrong - correct me! :)

-J.
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Yes, the heavy bones can reduce after healthy diet but you must take Calcium, mineral and magnesium during health diet to prevent from weak bone. *sorry off topic*... I will support you if you create a thread... I will give you answer more about bones...
 
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