What would you do when your doctor told you, you have only a few months left to live ?
My client who is diagnosised liver failure. He is Deaf-Blind person which is very difficult for the staffs and me to deal with him. He is very sweet and hilarious man.
When the hospice person told him that he only have live within six months. He began emotion process of dealing with his own impending death. He keeps to saying, "I'm not dead yet and in fact I am enjoying a life as much as I can".
However, he moved between life and death and then into life again with death ever crying and hugging over my shoulder. Even though this time was filled with ups and downs and sideways turns, he with the deepest gratitude, have accepted each and every day as a gift.
It is very difficult situation for me to work with this client who is dying. I do not work in the field of health or thanatology, I am not an expert. The book called death process described in Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' book "Death and Dying". I haven't read it yet.
I do not know what I will react when my doctor tells me that I only be alive within few months. How would you accept it ??
I was sitting and watching him. I can't image, if I were him.
In the next few weeks my behavior mirrored my thoughts as I dashed about making sure my will was in order, making funeral arrangements, trying to make sense of my rather messy financial affairs, trying....
I had so many decisions to make; most of them felt bizarre. What music did I want at my memorial service? Where did I want such a service? Who would do the service? What should be done with my pets and children?
My acquired accumulation of a lifetime? What did I want done with my remains? Would I prefer to be a private funeral service? Would I feel comfortable that people will see me in death in the coffin with bunches of flowers ?
What would I like to wear in the coffin?
Where would I like to be bury at ?
What would I make the wishes?
Would I like to have a bury or cremated?
What would I do with all my stuffs?
What would I do with all my High School pictures, yearbook, etc.. ?
Will my children keep all my stuffs what I save in the Hope chest?
Will I write good-bye letters and emails to my friends and family? I want to say good-bye to and will cry and emotional when I realize this was not some melodramatic play. I assume that I like my mother would survive ovarians cancer.
Would I feel comfortable with bunches of pity from the people around me seem to calm down and my well-being was less frequently question ? Would I look at without that expression of focus concern as people inquired, "How are you?" I don't know if the reality of my illness will being deny?
He never dreamed that it would kill him. It goes through a difficult time with my client panic, a deeper pain began to penetrate his psyche as what was happening entered his being. This will the end of his life around this summer.
It is very difficult in this sticky situation to work with a dying client. I do not know how I would deal with it if I am in his shoes ? I may quit my jobs and travel alot as much as I can before I die.
Is not it scary when a doctor tells you that you only live in few months ??
Would you count down these days?
Will you make the arrangement funeral, will, etc... ??
My client who is diagnosised liver failure. He is Deaf-Blind person which is very difficult for the staffs and me to deal with him. He is very sweet and hilarious man.
When the hospice person told him that he only have live within six months. He began emotion process of dealing with his own impending death. He keeps to saying, "I'm not dead yet and in fact I am enjoying a life as much as I can".
However, he moved between life and death and then into life again with death ever crying and hugging over my shoulder. Even though this time was filled with ups and downs and sideways turns, he with the deepest gratitude, have accepted each and every day as a gift.
It is very difficult situation for me to work with this client who is dying. I do not work in the field of health or thanatology, I am not an expert. The book called death process described in Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' book "Death and Dying". I haven't read it yet.
I do not know what I will react when my doctor tells me that I only be alive within few months. How would you accept it ??
I was sitting and watching him. I can't image, if I were him.
In the next few weeks my behavior mirrored my thoughts as I dashed about making sure my will was in order, making funeral arrangements, trying to make sense of my rather messy financial affairs, trying....
I had so many decisions to make; most of them felt bizarre. What music did I want at my memorial service? Where did I want such a service? Who would do the service? What should be done with my pets and children?
My acquired accumulation of a lifetime? What did I want done with my remains? Would I prefer to be a private funeral service? Would I feel comfortable that people will see me in death in the coffin with bunches of flowers ?
What would I like to wear in the coffin?
Where would I like to be bury at ?
What would I make the wishes?
Would I like to have a bury or cremated?
What would I do with all my stuffs?
What would I do with all my High School pictures, yearbook, etc.. ?
Will my children keep all my stuffs what I save in the Hope chest?
Will I write good-bye letters and emails to my friends and family? I want to say good-bye to and will cry and emotional when I realize this was not some melodramatic play. I assume that I like my mother would survive ovarians cancer.
Would I feel comfortable with bunches of pity from the people around me seem to calm down and my well-being was less frequently question ? Would I look at without that expression of focus concern as people inquired, "How are you?" I don't know if the reality of my illness will being deny?
He never dreamed that it would kill him. It goes through a difficult time with my client panic, a deeper pain began to penetrate his psyche as what was happening entered his being. This will the end of his life around this summer.
It is very difficult in this sticky situation to work with a dying client. I do not know how I would deal with it if I am in his shoes ? I may quit my jobs and travel alot as much as I can before I die.
Is not it scary when a doctor tells you that you only live in few months ??
Would you count down these days?Will you make the arrangement funeral, will, etc... ??
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