What Ticks You Off (Most) About Hearies?

shel90 said:
Now, this is something that really pissssseeed me off big time...I already posted this in Neecy's thread abut misinformation about CIs but I will repost it here anyway...


My hubby's hearing coworkers told him yesterday that they respect deaf people who get implants cuz they are "fixing" their problem and dont understand why I wont get one. By saying that, they dont respect me and my husband was very deeply upset by that cuz they offended him by saying he is lying about how CIs do not make deaf people hearing like hearing people.

Now that got to be the champion of all that ticked me off about hearing people. I was sick to my stomach when my hubby told me that last night after he got off work. Is that how the general hearing population going to view us who dont have implants? What the hell?
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As a hearing person that learned ASL in college I know why this happens (for the most part). Growing up I had little contact with deaf people in my area other than a childhood friend that I had that was hard of hearing. All I knew of hearing aids was that it helped people who couldn't hear on their own hear better. As I started learning ASL (and through that some deaf culture) I started to understand exactly WHY hearing aids (as well as CI) were frustrating to deal with, and I also began to see why deaf and hard of hearing people do not consider themselves disabled. Maybe your husbands co-workers were just like me back in the day, they thought that it would "fix" your "problem" so why wouldn't you want to do it?! They don't understand exactly how CI/hearing aids work OR why you don't see yourself as "broken". I think what many deaf/hard of hearing people could help education us hearing folk on why that is so that they could pass it on to others who are misinformed. Likewise, I think hearing people could definitely make so much more of an effort to be better communicate with the deaf, AT THE VERY LEAST be willing to grab a pen and paper, but I really do feel like kids should be required to take some ASL.
 
Newly HOH family member: "I can hear. It's just that can't understand."

Sure, you can! :giggle:
 
sallylou said:
Newly HOH family member: "I can hear. It's just that can't understand."

Sure, you can! :giggle:
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Well, that is somewhat true of some of us. I can hear a persons voice (when I'm not wearing my HAs), but I can't understand what s/he is saying. But, yeah, s/he's probably in denial of his/her hearing loss.
 
LoveBlue said:
Well, that is somewhat true of some of us. I can hear a persons voice (when I'm not wearing my HAs), but I can't understand what s/he is saying. But, yeah, s/he's probably in denial of his/her hearing loss.
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LoveBlue, it's the same for me. I don't wear HAs anymore (a bit of a long story) and if I took my contact lenses out so as to take away my ability to lipread, I would hear voices if I strained my senses hard enough but would not be able to make any sense out of it. It would be incomprehensible babble, much like a foreign language I had never heard of before. :ugh:
 
1. They won't go the extra mile with you to learn sign language or text or write it down, yet they expect you to go more than the extra mile to learn to speak and to continuously speak to them. :ugh:

2. They wiggle their fingers around, and expect you to make sense of it, and then say they were trying to be friendly. :rolleyes:
 
Boy...I never thought this thread (the thread I created) was going to be this popular. Keep going!
 
I myself have no hearing problems ( yet ) but my husband is losing his hearing. The thing that makes me mad with hearing people around here is that they flatout don't care that you are HOH. when they talk to my husband they talk low then get mad when he doesn't respond to them or they talk to him like he is a child. We have had guests in our home ( most have never been invited back for this) complain about the television being up loud. He has even been called some very nasty names from people who say that he was yelling at them. I guess I was no better then they were when I gave them a piece of my mind in a very unlady like way.
 
The "adjustments" that HOH and late-deafened people are supposed to make are totally to make us acceptable to hearies. We're so annoying with our asking for people to repeat things and talking too loud.

Don't worry, your hubby will learn to advocate for what he needs. Having a supportive wife will help.
 
sallylou said:
The "adjustments" that HOH and late-deafened people are supposed to make are totally to make us acceptable to hearies. We're so annoying with our asking for people to repeat things and talking too loud.

Don't worry, your hubby will learn to advocate for what he needs. Having a supportive wife will help.
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Thanks Sally. The one bad thing that he has against him is that he is mentally challenged as well. He doesn't understand what is happening to him or why. Neither of us knows what is available to help him. The doc treats him like a stupid helpless person and won't tell us anything. I have looked and there is no where within 100 miles that teaches ASL. His insurance wouldn't pay for his hearing aides so I had to. It was a total waste of money because the frequency is so high on them that all they do is squeal.

I myself think that is crappy and totally unfair that hearing people expect the deaf and HOH people to adapt to the hearing world. Hearing people aren't better than anyone!
 
Hearing people who say that deaf people are limited without hearing. I say :fu: to you too!
 
Those who lose something later in life, like a limb, and tell me (someone who's been deaf all my life), that they know what it is like now. They don't. They didn't go through all the years of brutal bullying, teasing, being different in school, everything. It's gotta be an enormous loss for whatever that person loses, but it is an entirely different loss than what I experience.
 
shel90 said:
Hearing people who say that deaf people are limited without hearing. I say :fu: to you too!
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:lol:

AlleyCat said:
Those who lose something later in life, like a limb, and tell me (someone who's been deaf all my life), that they know what it is like now. They don't. They didn't go through all the years of brutal bullying, teasing, being different in school, everything. It's gotta be an enormous loss for whatever that person loses, but it is an entirely different loss than what I experience.
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Very true. They only have a glimmer of understanding, but nothing more than that.
 
AlleyCat said:
Those who lose something later in life, like a limb, and tell me (someone who's been deaf all my life), that they know what it is like now. They don't. They didn't go through all the years of brutal bullying, teasing, being different in school, everything. It's gotta be an enormous loss for whatever that person loses, but it is an entirely different loss than what I experience.
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Miss-Delectable said:
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Very true. They only have a glimmer of understanding, but nothing more than that.
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Third that! My, aren't we all agreeable tonight? :lol:
 
Bottesini said:
Third that! My, aren't we all agreeable tonight? :lol:
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+4 Yep, Botts. I agree with them. This is what ticked me off when the hearing people especially in their professional area where they don't know anything about our deafness. :crazy:
 
I detest how some hearing people think they know it all about an issue because they have done a bit of research, listened to a bunch of professionals whom they automatically assume they are 'experts' in the field but these professionals rarely have experienced it first-hand. Then they proceed to overload their lives with the latest therapies, methods and fads. They also use all the scientific words and advanced usage of English language to 'prove' they are smarter and know what they are talking about. Arrgh. These hearing people are also stubborn to the point where they refuse to be corrected or to receive any advice from those who have been and are living through it first hand and actually are the true 'experts' in the field.

I like it how some Deafies (and honorary Deafies) take those hearing people's ammunition and fire it right back at them. :giggle:
 
It really pisses me off when I am trying to pay attention to the captions on TV whether it's a movie or a TV show, and have either my mother or MIL talk to me about something that's not important. When I try to explain that I'm concentrating on the captions, they keep saying, well turn it up and you can hear it. Hello!! I can't hear diddly!! Not even the airplanes overhead that rattle the windows.
 
KristinaB said:
It really pisses me off when I am trying to pay attention to the captions on TV whether it's a movie or a TV show, and have either my mother or MIL talk to me about something that's not important. When I try to explain that I'm concentrating on the captions, they keep saying, well turn it up and you can hear it. Hello!! I can't hear diddly!! Not even the airplanes overhead that rattle the windows.
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:doh:
 
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