What Ticks You Off (Most) About Hearies?

[DragonYoga]

Here is another one.....

I hate it when a hearing person comes up to my ear and then talk out loud into my ear like I should be able to understand what he is saying to me. I may be deaf but it does hurt when someone screams into my ear.

That happened once when I was in the 6th grade. A fellow student leaned over and tried to whisper in my ear. I was like, "I'm deaf. That means I can't hear you." I think I embarrassed the poor girl.

Most of the time I get the "tell her" thing. If I'm with an interpreter, I usually lipread and just answer the question. I love the little jump they do - "omg she's deaf but she can talk???" *ewg*

 

[Cowpuppy]

For us hearies- at least for me- this thread is vital. We can't read your minds so posting such complaints helps us to adjust our behavior when before a deaf individual(s).

Ahhh....that's the point.....you don't always know when you are before a deaf individual. We don't carry signs.....myself...I don't like to advertize it as I've had numerous people want to rob me cuz they learn I'm deaf and assume I'm dumb or easy to sneak up on. Quite the contrary. I stopped wearing my aid cuz it identified me along with red hair, scars and a limp. I was a mark.
A funny thing....I don't hear thru doors...I was knocking and guess the inhabitant thought I heard him saying 'who's there' ...said nada, knock again....he opens the door all enraged and NAKED. lol...flipping idiot.... The life of a deafie...a lady inhabitant???.....................................no such luck for this cat.

 

[Chase]

A funny thing....I don't hear thru doors...I was knocking and guess the inhabitant thought I heard him saying 'who's there' ...said nada, knock again....

I agree with a lot you said, but I never knock on strange doors I can't see through. It's an exercise in complete futility, because I have no clue what's happening on the other side.

When I go alone to a friend's house, I'll say beforehand that I'll knock but please don't yell "Come in," 'cause I won't.

For my own house, I have a door button that flashes a strobe. I tell friends about it, and if strangers can't see to press the button, then they bruise their knuckles for nothing.

 

[dreamchaser]

I hate hearing administrators who take over Deaf schools and won't consider the wishes and needs of the parents of Deaf children. Most of them are only interested in the budget and have no clue! They hire people that aren't right for the school, and they fire people that are good for the school. At least that is how it is in Oregon. They don't promote our Deaf school, and they automatically turn hearing parents toward mainstreaming and implants without informing them that there are other options. Every parent should have all of the information. Some people in Oregon don't even know that we have a Deaf school!!!!!!!!! No wonder the enrollment goes down, and then the budget suffers too.!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[shel90]

I hate hearing administrators who take over Deaf schools and won't consider the wishes and needs of the parents of Deaf children. Most of them are only interested in the budget and have no clue! They hire people that aren't right for the school, and they fire people that are good for the school. At least that is how it is in Oregon. They don't promote our Deaf school, and they automatically turn hearing parents toward mainstreaming and implants without informing them that there are other options. Every parent should have all of the information. Some people in Oregon don't even know that we have a Deaf school!!!!!!!!! No wonder the enrollment goes down, and then the budget suffers too.!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree too about hearing administrators who dont understand deaf children's needs whether at a public or deaf schools.

That sucks about Oregon School for the Deaf being run down by ignorant hearing administrators.

 

[DragonYoga]

I think there's been a couple of state deaf schools shut down because of that?

Another personal favorite, and the reason why I hate family gatherings: *joke being told, everyone laughs* What was so funny? "Oh I'll tell you later." :rl::rl::rl::

GAH!

 

[shel90]

I think there's been a couple of state deaf schools shut down because of that?

Another personal favorite, and the reason why I hate family gatherings: *joke being told, everyone laughs* What was so funny? "Oh I'll tell you later." :rl::rl::rl::

GAH!

I read a woman of deaf children with CIs who wrote in her blog that her goal is to get all the deaf schools shut down because it would save taxpayers money.

Now, that is one comment that did seriously tick me off! What does she know about deaf schools?

 

[Matilda]

I read a woman of deaf children with CIs who wrote in her blog that her goal is to get all the deaf schools shut down because it would save taxpayers money.

Now, that is one comment that did seriously tick me off! What does she know about deaf schools?

So ignorantly blind to the truth! *smh*

 

[DragonYoga]

Dang! I feel sorry for her kids. One day that will backfire when the kids discover Deaf culture...

 

[jillio]

Dang! I feel sorry for her kids. One day that will backfire when the kids discover Deaf culture...

No doubt. But how much damage will she do in the meantime, not just to her kids, but to others? Sad.

 

[shel90]

Dang! I feel sorry for her kids. One day that will backfire when the kids discover Deaf culture...

Never know..there are a lot of people who identify themselves as Deaf who are against Deaf schools.

 

[InnocentOdion]

*When they think I am lying when I say that I am Deaf

Ugh, that annoys me. My dad's said before that I'm just "faking being hard of hearing". I must be really good, because I managed to trick that machine thing that detects the sound coming out of your ear, and trick an audiologist! I don't have 20dB hearing loss in my left ear and 50-70dB hearing loss in my right ear, no. I must've just tricked it! :rl: You'd think your dad would be more considerate, but no.



I have to agree with the covering of the mouth when someone's talking, too. That annoys me, but I think this one annoys me more: when they're talking to you, and they start rubbing their face (including mouth) with the palm of their hand and don't stop talking, and then say, "Well? Whaddya think?"

Another thing that annoys me a LOT is when I go round a friend's house, they have the TV the quietest volume known to humankind, and they don't turn it up much. They never subtitle even when I ask them to, my friend wants to, but his girlfriend is an overbearing bitch, basically, and tells him he can't put the subtitles on "because they annoy her", and then she gets even more annoyed when I'm not watching the TV at their house but sitting in another room or reading a book, I'm "being ignorant".

This woman on TV once said, "My kids are mainstreamed and use only speech, but they will always be deaf, they will never be normal". Ouch. That really shocked me.

 

[Miss-Delectable]

I read a woman of deaf children with CIs who wrote in her blog that her goal is to get all the deaf schools shut down because it would save taxpayers money.

Now, that is one comment that did seriously tick me off! What does she know about deaf schools?

Precisely! She's a dim bulb, that one. Because one should see the full picture of what happens if a school for the deaf were forced to close.

*More deaf students losing their safety zone
*Many demoralized kids because they're delayed and not getting the help they needed.
*Govt'd end up having to pay for their medical care if they ended up with many problems caused by isolation, delayed development, lack of access etc.
*Families moving out of state because of no school for the deaf or forcing the state government to fund their child's education out of the state.

Deaf schools, in some ways, has saved the sanity of many deaf students who went there after failed beginnings in mainstream setting And having access to teachers who can sign, and there's rise in students' personal confidence because there's socialisation, equal access etc.

Unfortunately, this woman reminds me of a mother with deaf child from deafread who's pushing many parents to implant their children, and she denies there's some cons to having CI despite factual evidence and proof. She works for CI industry in some way. Talk about biased big time!

 

[Miss-Delectable]

Dang! I feel sorry for her kids. One day that will backfire when the kids discover Deaf culture...

I hope her kids will find deaf culture and deaf community someday because they might be made to feel ashamed about their deafness because of her.

Let's hope she and others, who are anti-sign, anti-deaf education etc, will end up eating their humble pie someday. I would relish the day if that ever comes, hehe.

 

[DragonYoga]

I'm a Christian, and I firmly believe that EVERYONE has to answer for their actions to God when they die. So for every adult that has to do with a child who can't hear, and is allowing their beliefs to blind them to what is happening to the child - especially when the chosen methology is clearly not working - they will have to explain themselves to God for the damage they inflicted on the child.


Now, mind you - I am NOT trying to start a (fill in the blank) war here.

 

[shel90]

Precisely! She's a dim bulb, that one. Because one should see the full picture of what happens if a school for the deaf were forced to close.

*More deaf students losing their safety zone
*Many demoralized kids because they're delayed and not getting the help they needed.
*Govt'd end up having to pay for their medical care if they ended up with many problems caused by isolation, delayed development, lack of access etc.
*Families moving out of state because of no school for the deaf or forcing the state government to fund their child's education out of the state.

Deaf schools, in some ways, has saved the sanity of many deaf students who went there after failed beginnings in mainstream setting And having access to teachers who can sign, and there's rise in students' personal confidence because there's socialisation, equal access etc.

Unfortunately, this woman reminds me of a mother with deaf child from deafread who's pushing many parents to implant their children, and she denies there's some cons to having CI despite factual evidence and proof. She works for CI industry in some way. Talk about biased big time!

Gosh, I am seeing what's happening with Deafread about that! Wow!

 

[jillio]

I hope her kids will find deaf culture and deaf community someday because they might be made to feel ashamed about their deafness because of her.

Let's hope she and others, who are anti-sign, anti-deaf education etc, will end up eating their humble pie someday. I would relish the day if that ever comes, hehe.

No doubt they will be made to feel ashamed, and responsible for their deafness. They will grow up always feeling that they are not quite as good as evryone else, and that there is something fundamentally wrong with them. They will strive to be accepted, and always fall a bit short with hearing peers. They will spend their childhood trying to prove that they are just as good as the hearing students with whom they have contact, with their hearing relatives and neighbors. They will see deafness as a personal judgement against their value as human beings. And they will spend a good part of their adult life trying to deal with these negative feelings and perceptions that serve to hold them back and prevent them from living their life to the fullest. That's what truly bothers me about those who think this way. They not only disable their children liguistically and educationally, but they also disable them psychologically and socially. They destroy the child's spirit. And then that child must spend their adult years rebuilding their self esteem and developing a healthy self concept as a result.

 

[DragonYoga]

No doubt they will be made to feel ashamed, and responsible for their deafness. They will grow up always feeling that they are not quite as good as evryone else, and that there is something fundamentally wrong with them. They will strive to be accepted, and always fall a bit short with hearing peers. They will spend their childhood trying to prove that they are just as good as the hearing students with whom they have contact, with their hearing relatives and neighbors. They will see deafness as a personal judgement against their value as human beings. And they will spend a good part of their adult life trying to deal with these negative feelings and perceptions that serve to hold them back and prevent them from living their life to the fullest. That's what truly bothers me about those who think this way. They not only disable their children liguistically and educationally, but they also disable them psychologically and socially. They destroy the child's spirit. And then that child must spend their adult years rebuilding their self esteem and developing a healthy self concept as a result.

Couldn't have put it better myself! I have seen this SO much from my friends.

One of my friends literally stopped talking after learning signs - she told me it was payback to her parents for forcing her to learn to talk.

Another friend told me her parents divorced because her father wanted her to be oral while her mother wanted her to learn signs. I think she still isn't speaking to her father because of it. He treated her as if she were "faking" it.

My own parents started out with oralism, but after I started banging my head on the floors and walls when I was 2, they switched to signs but kept the speech therapy. That worked perfectly for me.

 

[jillio]

Couldn't have put it better myself! I have seen this SO much from my friends.

One of my friends literally stopped talking after learning signs - she told me it was payback to her parents for forcing her to learn to talk.

Another friend told me her parents divorced because her father wanted her to be oral while her mother wanted her to learn signs. I think she still isn't speaking to her father because of it. He treated her as if she were "faking" it.

My own parents started out with oralism, but after I started banging my head on the floors and walls when I was 2, they switched to signs but kept the speech therapy. That worked perfectly for me.

Thank God your parents saw your frustration for what it was instead of blaming you for just being a stubborn, willful child. Having been advised by the "experts" to go oral with my own son, I saw the same frustration and decided it was time to back up and rethink the whole approach.

 

[DragonYoga]

Mr. Holland's Opus made my mother cry because she could identify so much with what was happening.

How old is your son now, Jillio? I'm so glad you stopped & backed up to rethink the decision. Your son will always be grateful. I know I still am.

My mom told me last semester that they tried the AV approach - I couldn't believe it. That would have NEVER worked with me, not with my profound to severe loss. I'm so glad they stopped!

She said the first sign book she bought was the Sesame Street sign language book with Linda Bove.