also , this is not a macilious gossip, it is merely talking. I just re-read you quote, they did nothing wrong to you, its nice to be talked about especially if its about harmless things, its not a back-stabbing 'she's does this, she's a flirt, she's a theft' kind of thing
obviously they came clean pretty quick, and merely involving you, i think you should learn to give people 'benefits of doubt' and dont get so paranoid. it is a NORMAL kind of talking, it doesnt sound like gossip mongers , ok it is different if you just broken up with a husband, and say they talked about why's like 'oh her husband cheat on her with 3 other women' fairly neutral to bad, depending, but it get bad when they talk like "oh he left her cuz she is a useless fuck or a slut, when none of it is true or talking about sex lives, it really much more private...
but from you were saying, i think you may be over reacting...
deaf community /church community are smaller and tend to be tighter, that is when it is tighter, they tend to TALK TALK, like almost no escape from rumours, or chit chats but they are expected...
what you choose want no talk and NO freinds, you can't have friends and expect people Not to talk about you, as they talk about each other!!, but there are 'lines' drawn when good gossip becomes bad, and they are such thing as a one or 2 bad apples (persons) who does get their kicks (enjoys) starting hurting rumours...
so just get this, not all rubbarb rubbarb talks is going to be actual rumours, just social talking.