What are you thinking about? Part III

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rockin'robin said:
How in the heck was he able to obtain "custody" when he's not carrying health insurance for her?...Obviously, the court isn't looking at the big picture here!...I would point this out to the judge, even the new glasses issue that he did not acquire for her....Her 'best interests' are not taken into consideration here, I believe....

I would fight this tooth and nail, Shel! And if you do lose, I would make him accountable for every penny of the $700.00 that he is required to use for her benefit!...$700.00 a month is not peanuts! It's excessive in my opinion!

Keep up the fight, but in the meantime, take care of ur health! Have ur blood pressure checked often! Divorce is an ugly word/issue when you have children!

He needs to get off his ass and work 3 jobs like you do! Seems to be a lazy bum to me!
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Shel's daughter was given a choice and she picked the father.
 
Shel90,
I wonder if you could make your ex out to be medically negligent because he didn't get her the glasses she needed nor she's on any form of health care plan whether it's his health insurance or medicaid.

Anyway, good idea to force him to account for every pennies you sent.

Is there a chance your daughter is realising that the pasture over there is not as green as her father promised?

Anyway, take care and stay sane! :hug:
 
AlleyCat said:
There's just as good a chance she picked location.
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Yep..since she's excited to go to new geographical location. Shel, she will probably change her mind and decided to move back in with you once she learn about this place.
 
shel90 said:
My ex makes $42K at his current job and owns a house in AZ. I don't think $42K is below the poverty line.

I just don't have an extra $700. That would mean I would be in the minus every month meaning absulotely no money for me to pay for gas to get to work, food, or other basic needs for myself. Oh well.

I just don't trust my ex to use the money for my daughter. He will use it on his girlfriend and her 3 kids. My daughter was left to go without prescription glasses for a whole year until I found out about it over the recent Christmas break and immediately I got her new glasses. If he is making $42K a year, my daughter's needs should take priority over his girlfriend and her 3 kids. It is ridiculous that because of supporting them, he couldn't even afford measly glasses for her on that kind of salary.

What makes me so sick is that he made $82K at his job here in MD and he quit that to move to AZ. He could have waited until my daughter turned 18 to move.

That is why I am furious and have absulotely no sympathy for him. No health insurance for my daughter, can't afford to pay for dance school, and new clothes. It is bullshit because $42K is a decent salary by AZ standards.
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Thing is, how he spends his money is really irrelevant. It's the same for many many fathers who are paying child support too.
 
rockin'robin said:
How in the heck was he able to obtain "custody" when he's not carrying health insurance for her?...Obviously, the court isn't looking at the big picture here!...I would point this out to the judge, even the new glasses issue that he did not acquire for her....Her 'best interests' are not taken into consideration here, I believe....

I would fight this tooth and nail, Shel! And if you do lose, I would make him accountable for every penny of the $700.00 that he is required to use for her benefit!...$700.00 a month is not peanuts! It's excessive in my opinion!

Keep up the fight, but in the meantime, take care of ur health! Have ur blood pressure checked often! Divorce is an ugly word/issue when you have children!

He needs to get off his ass and work 3 jobs like you do! Seems to be a lazy bum to me!
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Most states require parents to split the cost of health insurance.... Either one can provide coverage with the other paying half the cost of the premium. Glasses would normally be split too.
 
shel90 said:
My ex makes $42K at his current job and owns a house in AZ. I don't think $42K is below the poverty line.

I just don't have an extra $700. That would mean I would be in the minus every month meaning absulotely no money for me to pay for gas to get to work, food, or other basic needs for myself. Oh well.

I just don't trust my ex to use the money for my daughter. He will use it on his girlfriend and her 3 kids. My daughter was left to go without prescription glasses for a whole year until I found out about it over the recent Christmas break and immediately I got her new glasses. If he is making $42K a year, my daughter's needs should take priority over his girlfriend and her 3 kids. It is ridiculous that because of supporting them, he couldn't even afford measly glasses for her on that kind of salary.

What makes me so sick is that he made $82K at his job here in MD and he quit that to move to AZ. He could have waited until my daughter turned 18 to move.

That is why I am furious and have absulotely no sympathy for him. No health insurance for my daughter, can't afford to pay for dance school, and new clothes. It is bullshit because $42K is a decent salary by AZ standards.
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Get statements from your daughter as proof and take it before the judge. It may or may not help your case. Also show your financial records stating where you cannot cover $700/monthly child support due to current bills and income ratio. If the judge sees that your daughter was not priority out there but instead it was his gf and her three children, then the judge may make new arrangements to ensure the money is being properly used. Also, has your daughter considered moving back to Maryland? If so, bring it up in court.

I agree, even here 42K is considered really good money. I know of only a handful of people that make that much or more around here.
 
ASL II teacher assistant asked me if I was deaf. I said mostly and went further into it. I also said. Id rather be completely deaf than hard of hearing (or single-sided for that matter). She responded like "whaaaaat?!?! Why!?!?"... Easy answer for me: cause it's easier to find an identity. People assume way too much about my skills and it's probably easier to say I'm deaf and get on with it.
 
craigm26 said:
ASL II teacher assistant asked me if I was deaf. I said mostly and went further into it. I also said. Id rather be completely deaf than hard of hearing (or single-sided for that matter). She responded like "whaaaaat?!?! Why!?!?"... Easy answer for me: cause it's easier to find an identity. People assume way too much about my skills and it's probably easier to say I'm deaf and get on with it.
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I understand. I am deaf on left side and HOH on right side. I can hear sound, just not as well as one would like to believe because of me 'skills'. I depend on speech reading and captions. If there's more than one or two people talking in a conversation, I get lost and have difficulty following, especially if it abruptly changes subject.
 
I need to how help assistn tough overwhelming I am very serious!! I pissed off someone! he is very lie insult to me I am very deny he report to me he seemm you are young wtf he is very nut person deaf negative argue to me I dont' care him! I enought Otherwise msn chat to share to he report illegal
 
Jiro said:
food. school expense. clothing. sport/activity/private lessons (if any). medical/dental care. housing. transportation.
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When I was getting child support from my ex when I was the custodial parent I got only $450 month. C'mon! Arizona is asking for $250 more a month than NY? That is ludicrous!
 
i am very concern about to my health issue panic attack
 
Dixie said:
Agreed. I have resorted to watching AFV on ABC Family. It was that or Joel Osteen. :shock:
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I don't mind at all watching AFV when there's nothing better on! It's always good for a few laughs :lol:
 
I am very bit anxiously high! I am panic attack!
 
Juli-terp-to-be said:
When I was getting child support from my ex when I was the custodial parent I got only $450 month. C'mon! Arizona is asking for $250 more a month than NY? That is ludicrous!
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Actually it is a Maryland court....not AZ. And child support is not random or case by case....there is a standard formula. The formula in MD is quite complex.

Wondering if everyone would be offering the same comments if this was a man complaining about his child support....

Let me add....my opinion is on the child support itself....nothing personal.
 
Seriously, I would be saying the same thing. Guy or girl, that doesn't matter to me, as long as the child(ren) are getting supported. If it was a father in the same situation, I would be saying exactly the same thing.
 
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You are sitting on the ground in the clear cool mountains..

The cool, clear, river water at your feet gurgles brightly over the rounded stones...

Moment by moment as you have your hands in the water, your negative feelings are being washed away...each bubble rising to the surface of the water is another bit of happiness...

Now open your eyes and see the face of your enemy you are holding beneath the stream.

Ahhh, now dont you feel better?
 
TXgolfer said:
Thing is, how he spends his money is really irrelevant. It's the same for many many fathers who are paying child support too.
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Really, I dont care. The point is that he moved when he didnt have to. And I am the one who pays the price. I would have never done this to him. Take his daughter away from him like that.

Really, there is a lot more that he has done to me. First...he cheated on me which destroyed our marriage leaving me to support myself while I go to grad school, then he constantly attacks me whenever I had our daughter with me saying that I wasnt raising her the way he wants her raised (values and beliefs), then he has his girlfriend be the main contact source regarding my daughter and ignores me when I am concerned for her, taking her away from me to move to AZ, not providing my daughter's needs, and filing for child support when he never did before.

Also, I just dont know how I can support myself when I dont have $700 left. I have had no raise for 3 years and just found out that I wont get another raise. My salary has and still is being furloughed by the state and my bills continue to go up.

I will try my best to pay for everything but I have a feeling this will bankrupt me.

I dont understand why my ex cant get a 2nd job like I did when my bills were going up.

No, I am not perfect but when I was married to him, all I wanted is to be a family. I didnt ask for all of this. If I cheated on him or whatever, then yes, I would deserve it.
 
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