SuperChris
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Depend if they have money because if they not have money then can't afford to buy flat or house.
There's a guy at my gym who's married to a woman with two grown sons that live with them...and neither work, look for work, or help out around the house. I'm amazed he doesn't stroke out from the anger. He wants to sell and move to a place for just the two of them because the house payments are killing them. Sadly with the economy, nothing is selling. If I had a child that did that I'd throw them out the 16th floor window. Living at home doesn't mean taking advantage of your parents. Either you contribute financially and help your parents or find your own damn place.
Laura
Being a single parent of 3 boys...I so looked forward to the day they would be out of the house!......Now, 2 of them are... 21 and 18....only 1 left. (16)...Do I miss them? oh yes!...But...am happy they have J-O-B-S...and both roomating...Doing very well and working everyday...so I do feel blessed...and feel it's my time now...less work, laundry, cooking, etc.
If my child was 18 and was not going to school or working...I would say "no way Jose" are you living here...sleeping all day...doing nothing...I expect them to stand on their own 2 feet and not depend upon a "hand out"....good work ethic is important to me....and the only way they could move back home was if they got laid off from their Jobs....then it would be only temporarily, until they found another one....no "coddling" my boys...they are Men now.
However,
there is a difference between coddling, mooching (staying in the basement playing video games) and wanting to stay/live together as a family.
I do not enable to be irresponsible/coddle her or let her mooch if I let my daughter live with me for as long as she wants
- I do expect her to mature into an adult just as she would be if she stayed out of my house.
Polish families are indeed very similar in this aspect to Italian families,
and we do love living together as long as we can.
Perhaps not to such extend as Italians do, but we do.
Also, look at East Indian families - how multi-generational they are.
Nobody thinks of them as "coddlers" and "moochers" even if they all live in the same, usually huge houses- on the contrary,
we all know how respectful they are of their elders,
and how the younger generation is obligated to care for their older family members.
So, you can live with your parents and yet be an responsible adult.
Fuzzy