What age should grown children leave home

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I believe that if they are 18 they should pay board, and by the time they are 22 they should leave hoime to flat. No more dependency is good for them and for the parents' stress. Let the baby big kids go out in the real world. Right?!

and if they are not, then we all have rights to call them mommy's boy or daddy's girl...they are not grown ups, I dont care if they hold jobs or what, it is about facing and taking the real world responsibilities.
Also, if they are receiving benefits in parents homes, it should be cut. I know a guy who's 48, and still lives with his mommy, runs a local deaf club like he thinks he owns it, goes on expensive fishing trips 4 or 6 times a year, receiving hand outs, does no work, AND he lockes his bedroom to keep his mummy away from prying into his 'private things' (read porn) and that his mommy is a very religious moron.

How common is this?
he is a blunger -Agree?
 
I think it depends on the family. I have seen generations under 1 roof. Others will push
 
Grummer said:
I believe that if they are 18 they should pay board, and by the time they are 22 they should leave hoime to flat. No more dependency is good for them and for the parents' stress. Let the baby big kids go out in the real world. Right?!

and if they are not, then we all have rights to call them mommy's boy or daddy's girl...they are not grown ups, I dont care if they hold jobs or what, it is about facing and taking the real world responsibilities.
Also, if they are receiving benefits in parents homes, it should be cut. I know a guy who's 48, and still lives with his mommy, runs a local deaf club like he thinks he owns it, goes on expensive fishing trips 4 or 6 times a year, receiving hand outs, does no work, AND he lockes his bedroom to keep his mummy away from prying into his 'private things' (read porn) and that his mommy is a very religious moron.

How common is this?
he is a blunger -Agree?
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ujelly? :lol:
 
why should he receive and stuff $$$ under mattress because he's living at home?!
whats to be jealous about, its about Crime, not petty jealousy. I have plenty to be contended with,,and i study, feed, repair house and feed for myself. Him? nothiing and he spends all the govt hand outs on the flash deep-sea fishing trips...thats not appropriate.
What is it to you
 
he's not living in the real world, and getting paid to survive in the real world, hand outs isnt designed for holidays, he is clearly abusing the system.
whats so funny about it? this is not a laughing matter, he is clearly a criminal, and i dont fukn care if he's squeky clean, dont drink or dont do drugs, or whatever, its still no excuses. you have any idea how much those fishing trips costs?? you havent got a clue have you?
 
Grummer said:
he's not living in the real world, and getting paid to survive in the real world, hand outs isnt designed for holidays, he is clearly abusing the system.
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so report him.

Grummer said:
whats so funny about it? this is not a laughing matter, he is clearly a criminal, and i dont fukn care if he's squeky clean, dont drink or dont do drugs, or whatever, its still no excuses. you have any idea how much those fishing trips costs?? you havent got a clue have you?
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so what does this have to do with you?
 
Grummer said:
why should he receive and stuff $$$ under mattress because he's living at home?!

whats to be jealous about, its about Crime, not petty jealousy. I have plenty to be contended with,,and i study, feed, repair house and feed for myself. Him? nothiing and he spends all the govt hand outs on the flash deep-sea fishing trips...thats not appropriate.
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so you're a hard-working honest man and he's a good-for-nothing dishonest bum. but what does this have to do with you?

Grummer said:
What is it to you
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absolutely none. and that's how you should feel too. delete him from your memory.
 
I will report him, just got to get all facts straight first otherwise it'd be embarrassing
 
There are more adult children starting live with parent because of condition with economy and many apartments are renting out, as rent goes up and up. :(
 
but.... 'saving up for those $3000+ - fishing trips 3 x a year?? , thats doesnt fit right
 
AND, on average, a benefit payout per year is 8 to 10 thousands a year... guess where the bulk of his went to...
 
he doesnt have children, just a fucking bum who likes to play Pool all the time then goes fishing and runs the deaf club, and i'd bet they are knew and keeping quiet for him...not anymore im blowing the whistle (discretely ofc)
 
i dont care if he has nothing to do with me, its my tax money too, and i knoew in real life, and he just been getting away for it for so long, he's taking everyone for a ride, clearly he is a criminal. Just the same if i spot someone climing in nieghbour's window to rob, and still has nothign to do with me I know that scumbag doing something wrong, so its my duty to report. Full stop. whatever do do with me or no, matter not, I or anyone shouldnt consider this acceptable, and it is ROBBING the tax payers funds. The bastard needs to a book thrown at him.
 
Grummer said:
i dont care if he has nothing to do with me, its my tax money too, and i knoew in real life, and he just been getting away for it for so long, he's taking everyone for a ride, clearly he is a criminal. Just the same if i spot someone climing in nieghbour's window to rob, and still has nothign to do with me I know that scumbag doing something wrong, so its my duty to report. Full stop. whatever do do with me or no, matter not, I or anyone shouldnt consider this acceptable, and it is ROBBING the tax payers funds. The bastard needs to a book thrown at him.
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good. report him. with evidences of course...
 
18 yos are finishing high school here. But yeah, by 19 they need to be on their own or full time in college. Once they hit 23 cut the strings completely. Just my 2 cents.
 
Grummer said:
i dont care if he has nothing to do with me, its my tax money too, and i knoew in real life, and he just been getting away for it for so long, he's taking everyone for a ride, clearly he is a criminal. Just the same if i spot someone climing in nieghbour's window to rob, and still has nothign to do with me I know that scumbag doing something wrong, so its my duty to report. Full stop. whatever do do with me or no, matter not, I or anyone shouldnt consider this acceptable, and it is ROBBING the tax payers funds. The bastard needs to a book thrown at him.
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We have a great deal of fraud here to. People actually leaving jobs to go on disability just so Thet can be lazy. It is disgusting. Tons of people on disability or welfare selling drugs and working for cash (so that it won't be reported for taxes) too.
 
Grummer said:
I believe that if they are 18 they should pay board, and by the time they are 22 they should leave hoime to flat. No more dependency is good for them and for the parents' stress. Let the baby big kids go out in the real world. Right?!

and if they are not, then we all have rights to call them mommy's boy or daddy's girl...they are not grown ups, I dont care if they hold jobs or what, it is about facing and taking the real world responsibilities.
Also, if they are receiving benefits in parents homes, it should be cut. I know a guy who's 48, and still lives with his mommy, runs a local deaf club like he thinks he owns it, goes on expensive fishing trips 4 or 6 times a year, receiving hand outs, does no work, AND he lockes his bedroom to keep his mummy away from prying into his 'private things' (read porn) and that his mommy is a very religious moron.

How common is this?
he is a blunger -Agree?
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Well I'm 45 and I still live with my parents although I pay $800 a month in rent plus expenses. I've been paying rent since I began working full time as a young adult and it helps my parents out with expenses. The advantage of me being here is that I have meals cooked when I get home from work, laundry done and my family to keep me company. The advantage for them is they have me to clean the place each week, they get much needed income that they otherwise wouldn't have, a care taker when they're ill - I take off from work when they're sick. I have a sister in MD that hasn't visited by once since 2005, and a brother and sister that are rarely ever here. My being with them helps out a lot. It's a cultural thing I suppose. In Italy, family lives together.

However, I recall a coworker of mine who had a son that made 75k a year (far more than I'll probably ever earn) and didn't pay rent, or help out around the house. As a Chinese young man, that culture relies on boys to care for the parents and he was a spoiled rotten brat that blew money on everything and never helped his parents. When he lost his job, he had his mother pay the car payments (and gas expense) on an expensive gas guzzling truck he bought while he had a job; he continued to live for free taking trips with his girlfriend while collecting unemployment. He recently got his job back and continues to live rent free. I wouldn't be surprised if his mother was still paying for the truck.....

Laura
 
TXgolfer said:
We have a great deal of fraud here to. People actually leaving jobs to go on disability just so Thet can be lazy. It is disgusting. Tons of people on disability or welfare selling drugs and working for cash (so that it won't be reported for taxes) too.
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A former martial art teacher of mine blew everything his earned following his teacher around the country at the expense of not paying for his house. He lost the house (without a fight) just as his wife was about to give birth for the second time. He moved to expensive apartment that he couldn't afford and went through his cash until he had none.

I pleaded with him to get a job at Walmart or Dunkin Donuts just to have something. He wouldn't. He went to the beach and to the mall and the park. He had his students look for a job for him and apply online on his behalf. He got kicked out of that apartment, wanted money from his students for the move which I didn't give because I had my own bills, he lived in a hotel for two months before he got public housing....and it gets better. He walked off two jobs to continue "teaching" full time (has practically no students) and he lives off welfare. Eventually he wants his wife to work and support him. They're are people out there that just when you think they can't sink any lower, they grab a shovel and start digging. Needless to say I stopped working out with him because I can't study with a person that I don't respect. As it is, I work for him to sit on his ass all day watching Star Trek DVDs and wait for his "students." BTW, he blames me for his current situation because I wouldn't give him money.
 
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