Venting/Ranting....

Angel

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Every time someone has a problem with another person or a group of people, usually that person will run off some where else and vent out their feelings about a situation that may happen in a different forum, yet the person doesn't go up to that person if they had a problem with them in the first place, but runs off to seek attention elsewhere that people can read and start feeling sorry for that person at a different site online....


I believe if a person has a problem with someone or a group of people then that person should talk to them head on, preferably in private instead of drawing more people into it when that person seeks the attention elsewhere by hoping to get a pity party or a certain kind of attention for them in a way that sure doesn't show common sense or maturity on that person's part....


People only know what they see but they do not care enough to seek out the truth when it matters, and when others get involved by giving this person support or advice and yet not knowing the entire story behind the actual situation by jumping in with what little facts are presented or not seeing the facts that do intentionally get held back and wrongly makes that person look innocent and the other person or group guilty or looking bad.....

I kept hearing over and over by the same person that it should be kept between the two of them, and still that person goes around elsewhere speaking about what happened and twisting certain facts or stretching the truth that'll show a more favorable view and side for that person.....

It's hard to change some ways how people deal with issues or problems or to deal with facts that are being twisted all around when having the intent of being courteous and showing much patience to deal with such ways that the other person is showing and doing but it seem that the very same people who once said it should be kept between the two people who are involved in this yet, that person doesn't follow through what is being preached or what is considered having the courtesy and respect for others when a person doesn't hold to oneself the proper level of dealing with issues or problems but instead go behind the backs of those involved and keeps twisting things around some more making the whole situation worse than it should be to begin with....

It makes me sad and upsetting when these actions being done elsewhere and seeing that person around, knowing that a person is being two-faced and not being honest about the whole situation or trying to stir up more drama just to get attention or pity when going elsewhere.....instead of being so obsessive with the past and certain issues rather than letting bygones be bygones, getting over it and move on!!!

Ill-fated facts, words describing a situation that gets twisted all around, seeking attention for something that don't neccessary need to get all fussed over only creates drama that's hurtful and stressful....


I'm not going to " name " who this person who's been doing this to me for so long, but I want to be left alone and that's all I ever asked for..... :squint:
 
Well, I would like to ask you a question : How come you let it bother you ? I thought you said in your post in another thread that your goin' to have a " thick skin " ?
 
having a thick skin also means learning to accept evreryone has a right to speak thier mind, so maybe u need to relize every one can do what they want and if u don t like it then don t talk to that person and reveal ur bs life in it .... sorry im a blunt person and i have a right to be blunt....


and in conculsion.... i support cyber red.. cuz we do have the right to speak our minds.
 
Wow bashing me huh?.....I'm speaking my mind here and yet you're bushing me?


Edit: I'm here venting my feelings out, same as everyone else do, but when this applies to whom I'm talking about that when they have a problem with it and throw a fist and yet I can't speak my mind and when I do, I get attacked, and yet they get supports from members even when the truth is twisted....growing thick skin? how come you two aren't? when you two complaint too hmmm interesting, guess you two proves my point Thank you
 
No, you don't get an attack from me. I asked you a question WHY you let it BOTHER you ? I thought YOU said in your post in another THREAD that your goin' to have a THICK SKIN. You said so in your own post in another thread.
 
CyberRed said:
No, you don't get an attack from me. I asked you a question WHY you let it BOTHER you ? I thought YOU said in your post in another THREAD that your goin' to have a THICK SKIN. You said so in your own post in another thread.


You said the same thing hon, yet you go around forums and venting your feelings out, and yet I'm here venting mine and I'm getting attacked for doing so?....:dunno:
 
its because you are whining abt us venting in other forums u got a plm vent all u want i dont give s frig, just stop whining abt others venting abt certain issues in this forum if we see fit to vent we cna do so, we're not attacking u we're proving u its bothering u that we can vent and u don't like what we are venting out about. maybe its because we are tired of repeating ourselves to you. have u even noticed ur a broken record?

and MODS this is NOT a bashing this is a fact!

u want to vent be my guest but dont rant abt the rant and venting plms. its everyones rights.
 
^Angel^ said:
You said the same thing hon, yet you go around forums and venting your feelings out, and yet I'm here venting mine and I'm getting attacked for doing so?....:dunno:

Well, I didn't ask for growin' thick skin. You created this thread in a public forum where you will likely get bash.
 
Well, I am out of this thread. I think it is stupid to create this thread in a public forum.
 
CyberRed said:
Well, I am out of this thread. I think it is stupid to create this thread in a public forum.

Believe what you want, you have that right, but like for myself, I have the right to vent my feelings about a certain person who likes to twist words all around or getting attention and creating vent threads elsewhere.....:squint:

I don't feel that I'm whinning here, I am only venting something here and it has nothing to do with having a thick skin, so please leave that out as this isn't what this thread is about.....
 
CyberRed said:
Well, I am out of this thread. I think it is stupid to create this thread in a public forum.

CyberRed,

Huh? ^Angel^ can venting/ranting whatever she wish but she made it in general way WITHOUT name anyone here... and ask us for feedback.

How do you know that it's you, ^Angel^ is vent/rant in her thread? I would not do that when I were you because you made fool yourself here to "accuse" her.

Some of forums have venting/ranting forum... I respect them no matter what... because they speak out of their mind... Why can't ^Angel^ do the same as well?

CyberRed, I would like to remind you that you did "rant/vent" out in other forum against me last year because of "paste the meida link" to here... Have I say anything against your post or jump on your post? No, I haven't because I know you didn't name me and any forums there.

I also would like to remind you that you "rant/vent" other forum to name ^Angel^. Have you see ^Angel^ jump against your thread? She haven't...

Now you see yourself what you doing here... *shake my head*

Javapride, I think it's no right to label ^Angel^ as "whiner" because she created her thread voluntarily to vent/rant her feeling out... It's her decision, not us.
 
CyberRed said:
Well, I would like to ask you a question : How come you let it bother you ? I thought you said in your post in another thread that your goin' to have a " thick skin " ?


Yes, ^Angel^ have thick skin... Look yourself what she created her thread here... ;) It shows that she stand herself and know what she doing.... See this thread here BECAUSE she knows ADers are members around here instead of run to other forums where ADers are not member.

If I see ^Angel^ create a thread which I know it affect me... I would not jump on her to make fool myself BECAUSE ^Angel^ didn't name me...
 
liebling i do understand ur point., but its the way she's coming off to me as a whiner in my eyes thats ALL im saying i like you said have a right to vent yes i agree, but i do think its just getting out of control and i thought in my thoughts, most forums are not publicized my forum is locked for one good reason to prevent bashers and threats... this is a general public. and look whats happened already a *fight* ensuing , angel does have the right to post the thoughts she has running thru her mind, but the way its detailed its pretty much obvious where this is leading to, im not blind to see it and im calling her out on it.....

i will NOT allow poeple voilating the rights to thier privacy... i will not allow them to be degraded. and ever since angel and cr joined this forum they have been butting heads ever since, and i have to agree with a person i talked to the other day its getting old, CR has tried very hard to leave u guys alone but do post in some threads expressing her thoughts which i thought she had the right to do so, but yet, i see u all downplaying her like she is nothing, well from what i am seeing here, this forum is a great forum and i try very hard to communicate and listen to everyone, guess what this stops now. im not siding anyone im telling like it is, u guys can't handle the truth, and im sorry u don;t like that. but i have my right to say what i deem fit to say. I for one am 33 yrs old and im tired of this drama fest growing in here, u guys need to get off each others back and ingore each other, use the ingore feature, and angel ur sister used it on me why can;t u do the same for cr? and CR cld do the same for you. and u both can move on with yr life.

and this thread is getting tiresome i m repeating myself again so im done with this thread here...

leibling thank u for expressing ur thoughts i agree with ur comments but i wanted to add on to what I was trying to explain if i wasn't im sorry i try my best its not easy!

but take it from me everyone

life's too short to dwell on the past and too short to bitch cuz u know im a shortty bitchy here :)

have a aloha day :)
 
Interesting, I see nothing but bashing onto a creator of this thread, That's a shame because she has a right to vent out her feelings in fact without even naming a person, and she gets bashed on because she is whinny? Isn't it the same when everyone else vent out their feelings consider whinning too? There's is no differences. The problem is when someone has a issue with someone from another forum, I think that the person needs to resolved any issues that she or he may have with a person, going on another forum venting out feelings is nothing but consider drama seeking, trying to get people on one person side without two stories being heard. It's like hidden away from problems faced in another forum. I'll say it is pretty much a sticky situation. There is always two sides to every story, but it should be done in a forum where it happened at not on another forum which has no related to what happened in there. ;) So I would say to ^Angel^ good venting!

Just my two cents. ;)
 
javapride said:
having a thick skin also means learning to accept evreryone has a right to speak thier mind, so maybe u need to relize every one can do what they want and if u don t like it then don t talk to that person and reveal ur bs life in it .... sorry im a blunt person and i have a right to be blunt....


and in conculsion.... i support cyber red.. cuz we do have the right to speak our minds.


You make a good point ! I second with cyber red and you.
 
Oddball said:
I am lost. Care to enlighten me? :aw:


Simple is ^Angel^ vented her feeling out on her thread like everyone here. :)

Some of members made their posts here to disagree with her thread because she vented out her feeling under General Discussion section, not Venting/Ranting section. You know that AllDeaf forum don't have Venting/Ranting section as hiddern area like other forums.

Give ^Angel^ support/feedback on her post.
 
Angel u have a good point about going to the person u have a problem with....

BUT

what if that person only wants to talk in to public eye, and not in private, then what do u do? the problem still remains and nothing is resolved
 
Thank you for share your express your feeling here with us.

javapride said:
liebling i do understand ur point., but its the way she's coming off to me as a whiner in my eyes thats ALL im saying i like you said have a right to vent yes i agree, but i do think its just getting out of control and i thought in my thoughts,

I would like to give you example about my posts. A person rant without name against me. I would not jump to accuss a person as whiner, etc but give a person positive. I was going to post there but the thread a person created was lock so I created a new thread to answer a person in positive way.

See the example.

http://www.alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=20509

http://www.alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=20522


I would not label a person as whiner, etc... but give a person positive when I disagree to her/his post in positive way.


most forums are not publicized my forum is locked for one good reason to prevent bashers and threats... this is a general public. and look whats happened already a *fight* ensuing , angel does have the right to post the thoughts she has running thru her mind, but the way its detailed its pretty much obvious where this is leading to, im not blind to see it and im calling her out on it.....

Yes, I can see that most forums have ranting/venting in hiddern area but Alex do not accept your suggestion thread of last year... Remember? We debated in your thread over Ranting/Venting issues... I tried to search your thread to add here but I can't find... Alex want that way he created his forum like this. What could I do? Nothing but respect Alex because it's his forum.

Alex's opinion that we can vent/rant in public in respect way without bashing, insulting, etc. You know there're no venting/ranting section here... Where/which section should ^Angel^'s vent/rant go to?

i will NOT allow poeple voilating the rights to thier privacy...

I see no problem to respect every different forums what/how/where the admin.(s) set their own forums.... Remember that we can't compare AD Admin. with other Admin.(s) of any forums.

i will not allow them to be degraded. and ever since angel and cr joined this forum they have been butting heads ever since, and i have to agree with a person i talked to the other day its getting old, CR has tried very hard to leave u guys alone but do post in some threads expressing her thoughts which i thought she had the right to do so, but yet, i see u all downplaying her like she is nothing, well from what i am seeing here, this forum is a great forum and i try very hard to communicate and listen to everyone, guess what this stops now. im not siding anyone im telling like it is, u guys can't handle the truth, and im sorry u don;t like that. but i have my right to say what i deem fit to say. I for one am 33 yrs old and im tired of this drama fest growing in here, u guys need to get off each others back and ingore each other, use the ingore feature, and angel ur sister used it on me why can;t u do the same for cr? and CR cld do the same for you. and u both can move on with yr life.

I see no problem to have anyone who want to vent/rant out their feeling to any forums, they want to pick. It's their decision what they want hide their rant/vent in hiddern area or public vent/rant... It's up to anyone.

I see no problem if anyone express their opinions when she disagree to in respectful way as long as there're no bashing/insult/disrespect...


leibling thank u for expressing ur thoughts i agree with ur comments but i wanted to add on to what I was trying to explain if i wasn't im sorry i try my best its not easy!

Welcome ;)

All what I wish for members to make neutral way to respect, support and feedback to Thread creator.

If members have problems each other then resolved via PM or email. I also see no problem when members vent or rant out of their feeling if their resolution are not work.



 
Great vent, ^Angel^!!

I do understand where you're coming from, I've been the subject of a few rants/vents myself and in each instance, the person did not tell the whole story, but instead twisted the facts and made up some statments in order to make it look like it was all my fault, that I was an AWFUL person to be around.

I have seen what you've talking about, and it's sad - because I HAVE seen the threads where it was conveniently overlooked by the person in the twisting the truth and making up untrue statements - all in the good fun of making you look bad.

Ive also seen posts where you were attacked outright - period. And now you're being told that you need to grow a thick skin??

Oh please. This is the first time I've seen you VENT in this forum, state exactly how you feel, and present it as a thread in where we could all discuss of ways to present an solution...great going, girl!!! You've come a long way, baby.

In this matter, I think it's gone on for so long, just gone too far now. It is apparent that this matter will probably never go away - and the only way you can do anything about it is to utilize the bad post button and call it harrassment. Or you can post and state your opinion about the thread discussion and let it go wherever it may go.

I just think some people are so ... confident in their own opinion that no one can tell them what to do, but that they can tell others what to do.

Word.
 
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