To Tell or Not To Tell?

VamPyroX said:
If you knew someone that was having an affair with someone else, would you tell the other person about it?

Suppose...

Jack is your friend (or ex-boyfriend) and Jill isn't, but Jack is the one having an affair with another woman/man behind Jill's back. What would you do?

Jack is your friend (or ex-boyfriend) and Jill isn't, but Jill is the one having an affair with another man/woman behind Jack's back. What would you do?

Jack and Jill are strangers (or someone you "know", but aren't friends with), and one of them is having an affair behind the other. What would you do?
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well, i would talk.
 
Byrdie714 said:
I've noticed that we have answered the above question but now I'm thinking......what if the person was you that was being cheated on? Would you want your friends to tell you????

I know I would....
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I would want them to tell me.

There has been situations where I would tell that person because she/he is my friend, but they don't listen to me or don't believe me. Yet, they end up getting hurt.

One time, this woman was dating this guy who I knew was a player who likes to hit on any women. Since I didn't know her that well, I told her friend (which I knew very well). Her friend didn't believe me and thought I was just jealous. Well, that woman got pregnant and he cheated on her right after she had her baby.

Similar situations have happened with many other people who didn't listen to me. So, I gave up with telling them because I've lost friends because I told them, then lost them more when it did happen. :(
 
Byrdie714 said:
I've noticed that we have answered the above question but now I'm thinking......what if the person was you that was being cheated on? Would you want your friends to tell you????

I know I would....
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I know, I would as well. Immediately.

I have been cheated on in the past and was not told until later! When someone slipped. I felt like I was left in the dark. and I did leave the cheater. Never looked back.

The person that told me. I was mad at her for a time due to I felt she betrayed me, like my ex did by not telling me beforehand. Took me a while but I came around to understand why she did it because she did not want to be involved in the situation. So again, Damn if you do and Damn if you don't.
 
It is not any of my business if one of my friends want to cheat on other because I do not want to be involved in the possible drama and have shit flung around (and maybe hit me in the face, who knows).

I like to follow one of my mottos which is "See No evil, hear no evil, speak no evil"
Aka I see nothing about the cheating, I hear nothing about the cheating, and I refuse to speak about cheating.

But if it is a very serious situation.. then I MIGHT drop hints to the cheatee to see if s/he is smart enough to pick up on them and bust the significant other
 
If I saw someone is cheating on another someone, I do not want to be invovled with them. I just leave it up to this non-cheater to figure out on his/her own and be back off. It's not my worth time to try inform someone else who is not know his/her partner is cheating on him/her. Because any non-cheater will not believe in you if you told her/him, anyway.

So, FORGET IT. =/
 
VamPyroX said:
I would want them to tell me.

There has been situations where I would tell that person because she/he is my friend, but they don't listen to me or don't believe me. Yet, they end up getting hurt.

One time, this woman was dating this guy who I knew was a player who likes to hit on any women. Since I didn't know her that well, I told her friend (which I knew very well). Her friend didn't believe me and thought I was just jealous. Well, that woman got pregnant and he cheated on her right after she had her baby.

Similar situations have happened with many other people who didn't listen to me. So, I gave up with telling them because I've lost friends because I told them, then lost them more when it did happen. :(
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Yeah... I prefer to be back off so I would not get an involvement... Oh, well. :(
 
I don't care if I heard anything happened abt the relationship problem, I wouldn't listen to anyone cuz it's not my plm that is their plm. I even wouldn't tell anyone cuz I do not want to get involved with their plm until they have to find out themselves.
 
Reba said:
It would depend on my relationship with the parties involved. Also, I would need to be absolutely sure of my facts, and not trust gossip or suspicion.

What about confronting the adulterers? That is, telling them that you know they are messing around, and if they don't stop or at least tell their own spouses, then you will tell them.

Also, it is your business if it's happening at work or school. Then you should report it to the appropriate supervisor. That kind of hanky panky is not conducive to a good work or learning environment.
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I forget to add something to say.

+1; Good point. Yeah, that depends... =/
 
yes. a big problems in deaf marriages is the deaf ex. Look what happened at MSD, MSSD, Gallaudet, elsewhere.
 
Hmm, That's kinda a dicey situation.

If I were to be cheated on - I'd want my friends to tell me but if it were coming from a random stranger that knew my "so called" boyfriend, I probably would be hesitant and skeptical. It is because I don't know that random stranger well enough to believe the story.

Again, If I were to tell someone that their gf/bf are cheating on them -- It depends on the situation because it either can blow up in your face or it doesn't. Sometime you just have to take a risk and if you don't, well.... That's just something you have to outweigh to begin with.
 
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