To Tell or Not To Tell?

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VamPyroX

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If you knew someone that was having an affair with someone else, would you tell the other person about it?

Suppose...

Jack is your friend (or ex-boyfriend) and Jill isn't, but Jack is the one having an affair with another woman/man behind Jill's back. What would you do?

Jack is your friend (or ex-boyfriend) and Jill isn't, but Jill is the one having an affair with another man/woman behind Jack's back. What would you do?

Jack and Jill are strangers (or someone you "know", but aren't friends with), and one of them is having an affair behind the other. What would you do?
 
Depends if you want to see the drama unfold before your eyes, but if you can't stand the heat of being blamed for telling on the other, I suggest you shut up and step aside. LOL
 
Not my place to get involved with someone else's problems, nor I don't have time for dramas either oh yes, the blame game isn't going to solve anything.
 
I had so many people at Gallaudet telling me that my ex hubby was having an affair but because I was so much in denial, I didnt believe them. I am not sure if I appreciate so many people knowing what he did before I did or not...I think it is best for people to just stay out. The person who is getting cheated on will eventually figure it out and catch their significant other cheating on them..I did.
 
If he/she isn't married then he/she doesn't have to tell. That is it, I guess. But having an affair behind someone's back is no good and wish u luck dealing with it once caught. lol
 
Well, I wish someone had told me when my recent girlfriend was cheating on me.
 
Under most circumstances, I think I'd tell, especially if one or both is/are my friends and if I thought it would help.
 
I would not tell since it is not my business. Telling others just because I want to help usually turned all back to me, and making myself look foolish. Once someone told me, or I found out that they did it without his/her knowing, I'd just dump that situation out of my mind, so there will be a good peace in my mind.
 
But if your friend (s) approached you, then you have to come clean, right?
 
I would stay the hell out of it. I have witnessed some that had affair while at work. Seriously, I have seen them make love in car during breaks, while both of their spouses are at home and had no clue.. Is it my business? Hell not!

Soon or later these cheaters will be busted, which I have seen already happened. That is why I see no reason to telltale.

I'm purely 3 monkeys businessman!
 
Tousi said:
Under most circumstances, I think I'd tell, especially if one or both is/are my friends and if I thought it would help.
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I agree with Tousi because if you know that they are cheating and not telling the person--that is just as bad as well.

It's not a win-win situation.
 
Byrdie714 said:
I agree with Tousi because if you know that they are cheating and not telling the person--that is just as bad as well.

It's not a win-win situation.
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It would depend on the situation.

Damn if you do and damn if you don't.
 
Byrdie714 said:
So true!
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Well the ones that I don't care to tell on. Are the ones that both of them are cheating. Then I let them figure it out on their own. Usually doesn't take long.

Or the ones that already knows that the person is a cheater but is in denial. I tend to stay away from that also.
 
It would depend on my relationship with the parties involved. Also, I would need to be absolutely sure of my facts, and not trust gossip or suspicion.

What about confronting the adulterers? That is, telling them that you know they are messing around, and if they don't stop or at least tell their own spouses, then you will tell them.

Also, it is your business if it's happening at work or school. Then you should report it to the appropriate supervisor. That kind of hanky panky is not conducive to a good work or learning environment.
 
Babyblue said:
Well the ones that I don't care to tell on. Are the ones that both of them are cheating. Then I let them figure it out on their own. Usually doesn't take long.

Or the ones that already knows that the person is a cheater but is in denial. I tend to stay away from that also.
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That was the lesson I learned and everything blew up in our faces in which the person accused my friends and I for not stopping his ex girlfriend from cheating on him. Like u said, damn if u do..damn if u dont. Since then, I dont get involved.
 
shel90 said:
That was the lesson I learned and everything blew up in our faces in which the person accused my friends and I for not stopping his ex girlfriend from cheating on him. Like u said, damn if u do..damn if u dont. Since then, I dont get involved.
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I have gotten involve with one. Told the girl that her guys is cheating.

She caught him a few days later. after the guy denied it.

But she married him anyways and he still cheats on her. SO I don't say anything. because she already knows or is in denial.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can not make them drink.
 
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