id throw in a couple of 'odd thinking' here and there,
what say we call the government a theft, fir they CAN help but insist on a much higher taxes to line the pockets of the rich, like what say IF the government milking of the masses?! the 'benefits' just a way of continunig social control and 'end of the day large companies STILL gets their profit...mainy those from food production, energy supply sector,education (public school) sector, the clothing manufactuers. You see, it's the sales that get circulated back to them.
its like you pay alot fo taxes, and get what in return? much of the infra-structure is already there and well set up, (Ok mantainence). then you have the whole thing on about 'theft' it COULD well be the government are the biggest thieves, like look at their high-end computer gears they insist to use ('for reliablity'), massive supercomputer /network for spying,(spy for what? -probably to help serve the rich and powerful)-using OUR money),big expensive car (motorcades) for image?, whats that say about ' for the people, equality?, not much, and so on .
Ok i admit it might not sem logical, but its just another take on things, something to ponder about now and then, I cant help it, but I do wonder.
another thing, BB, your ex, might have some issues of his own, probably feel bad about himself in one way or another, he's on his own life journey too so to speak (im not sticking up for him, I happen to know a loser like him in real life, one of my 'long time school buddy, but am getting more and more disliking him because because he's a useless lying drunk. Literally, he knocked up two different women, and they both hate him give him untold shit using expensive family lawyers (NOW then one is NOT working (a blunger, and she got rich parents), and another is an accountant's clerk they both placed very strict visiting times for their children to see their dad. Its hard for me to see the 'efforts' he claims to make, becuase he does work Hard (now) up to 12 hrs a day - self employed - as a demolition,refurbisher of native woods, recycling the now-not-allowed to chop-those-trees-for-woods type of 'natural good' (good money). It just so seem to happened that he hit the jackpot in terms of jobs he got laid off at the right time to his sheer luck,BUT he is working overtime likwe frantic (drinks hard and works hard, hes risking a massive hert attack that boy) No he is paying tax on all of it, he DID go under the table for a short while - 2 months but that while the job was on trial. I know it's tad sneaky however he used it to pay off all his family-lawyer debts - I am sure he is not lying. It just seem he over-working himself now to catch up and is probably trying to get a tidy sum for a house deposit. Now to avoid dragging this on, (and losing my 'argument' to you BB, is that my father, he was never a 'loser' like that, but was a slight drunk of and on, he hid it well, he worked hard for many years, avoided assisting my mum on child support (it was in the 1980's) somehow yes he got away with it, but it took him a long time to 'earn back trust from his children - I still dont trust him completely),and now does help out when he can, like practically 'gave me a heat pump' for the house worth about 3 grand - something I could neer afford , and really apreciate a much warmer house -, but ok -that is nothing compared to what he would have been paying if was child support to the mother. but then life is too short to be bitter about everything 'dad' , he had problems, moslty personal - even psychological - to overcome, while going through the years cut off from the family, surely he's cutting himself off for finanical gains but I can bet you he wish he didnt, so not have to be burdened with the 'music' of lost family time and that something to do with the 'self' bein actualised, from being a father. hell I dont know what exactly I am saying but the crux and short of it is, 'there is always two sides of the same story/coin", you may well never the problems your ex is having, and ndeed its his loss to avoid contributing to the family, (or to you and the kids), one of the consequences he is facing is the cost of trust (for him) from that action he take/took is better bigger than you realise. he's have to face his own demons and earn it back, no easy thing to do.
I'd let it go, for he might just come back in future, and actually help your kids thru college's fees , you just never know. just a different take, and angle and all.
anyways Cheers