I'm sorry you are miserable.
My mother tells me how to run my life...fortunately, I'm learning how to be my own person. Not an easy thing for a 'born follower' like myself. I think it happens to a lot of people, it's just that we have to learn how to respectfully but firmly smile, nod our heads, and do what we feel we should do regardless. I'm still working on this. This week will be a big test. Mum's coming down from several states away...we'll see if I've yet learned how to be near her without having a nervous breakdown. I hope so because I do love her.