should parents lose custody of fat kids?

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Beowulf said:
I once had a relationship with a tiny birdlike lady with a daughter who suffered from morbid obesity...She was 13 years old. :(
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That's depressing. :(
 
sequoias said:
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Yeah? I didn't know that. She's 9 years old and growing like a weed and its a pain in the butt to buy clothes more often than our boys do. I know that females do grow faster than males at early age but mature earlier.
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Yep. Don't be too worried about her being a bit chubby at this age. Girls also tend to grow in different patterns that boys do.

Plus, putting too much emphasis on controlling her food intake and her weight could trigger an eating disorder. You sure don't want that. At this age, just make sure she is getting a healthy diet and is getting exercise every day.
 
Phillips said:
Well..

If I see that parent are not fat, but they feed their children to be extreme obesity. I think a child should take away from a parent..

If both parent and their kids are obesity then need help from the clinic!!

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Are you serious ! Putting a child in foster care is not going to help a child that over eat! How would like if you where removed from your home for being too fat!
And every person I know that been in a foster home had nothing good to say about it! I know one woman and she was removed from her home as a child as she was being sexual abused and she was sexual in her foster home too! What next the government telling us what we let our kids watch on TV!
 
sequoias said:
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2 of our boys are normal weight but our daughter is a tad bit chubby but growing fast and we try our best to limit her food intake and make sure she gets plenty of exercise. The boys are too active!!!
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As long as she's active, let her eat! She is probably approaching puberty and NEEDS that extra body fact to launch her into puberty. As she grows older, she'll grow into her weight. By restricting her intake now, you could be doing great harm to her later on.
 
jillio said:
Yep. Don't be too worried about her being a bit chubby at this age. Girls also tend to grow in different patterns that boys do.

Plus, putting too much emphasis on controlling her food intake and her weight could trigger an eating disorder. You sure don't want that. At this age, just make sure she is getting a healthy diet and is getting exercise every day.
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Thank you, Jillio. His post alarmed me for that very reason. As I mentioned, young girls need extra body fat to launch them into puberty. As they get older, they will grow into their weight, so at her age, it's best not to worry about it.
 
I really am alarmed at this. Unless there are other reasons to suspect neglect or abuse, I DO NOT think a parent should lose custody of an obese child. There are exceptions, of course, but I believe those situations to be rare. Removal from custody should ONLY be considered if there is documented neglect going on (apart from the child's eating habits) and the parent clearly shows indifference to that child's predicament.

I think the first step should always be a medical evaluation to determine if the child has a medical issue that is contributing to the weight gain. After that, then, the parent simply needs to "unplug" their kids from the electronic devices and get them moving!!!
 
DeafCaroline said:
Teenaged boys are like vacuum cleaners - they inhale everything in sight! My food budget went out the window once my boys hit age 14, 15.

As for very obese kids - I think rather than taking them away from their parents...that their parents be mandated to take a class in nutrition so they can make smarter choices in food and learn to stop buying so much junk food - if they can't keep their kids out of the pantry then maybe they should stop buying chips, soda, cookies, pop tarts, etc etc etc. One can eat a lot without getting fat, it's WHAT they eat that counts, not how much.

When I was a kid, all we were allowed between meals were fruits and veggies like apples, celery, carrots...that was it! We would have dessert only once a week as a special treat. Otherwise it was just fruit after supper. I can't believe the crap parents buy nowadays that they think is real food and let their kids snack on sugar all day long and not make them eat their supper. I've had a few discussions with some parents about this and they think it's "cruel" not to let their kids snack on crap as if I was suggesting they deliberately starve them. That line of thinking drives me up the wall.[/QU
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Oh it drives me nuts too! Not just for eating issues but for letting their kids do what they want with no boundaries because the parents feel too guilty. Whenever some of my friends say that, I feel like shaking them. It is ridiculous! Afraid to discipline their kids because they feel bad. Tough luck on the kids!
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I put on weight as a young girl (like 9 yrs old) due to the onset of early puberty. Unfortunately, I was never able to lose the extra weight I gained and I stopped growing at an early age. So, you can figure the result of that.

I shudder to think what could have happened to me if someone decided I was being abused or neglected and tried to take me away from my parents for my weight issue. I was already an anxious child, so this would have sent me over the edge. Seriously.
 
Oceanbreeze said:
I really am alarmed at this. Unless there are other reasons to suspect neglect or abuse, I DO NOT think a parent should lose custody of an obese child. There are exceptions, of course, but I believe those situations to be rare. Removal from custody should ONLY be considered if there is documented neglect going on (apart from the child's eating habits) and the parent clearly shows indifference to that child's predicament.

I think the first step should always be a medical evaluation to determine if the child has a medical issue that is contributing to the weight gain. After that, then, the parent simply needs to "unplug" their kids from the electronic devices and get them moving!!!
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So am I.

Personally, I think that if the child is veru fat, it's a sign the whole family is not eating properly. The whole family will need to change their eating habits and not just the child.

If the child is being neglected or being abused for other things unrelated, yea, I would consider it grounds for removal from custody.
 
I didn't know puberty was something one launched into. :hmm:
 
The state should look at the parents income and see if that has anything to do with the kids being too fat. The parents may not be able to afford to eat healthy and being buy a lot of pasta and other starchy food. And a lot of schools are cutting out sports and gym and this is the only time some kids get
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Beowulf said:
Exactly. So one shouldn't be so quick to blame the parents. A lot of times they are helpless.
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One question, since you are of opinion that these parents are helpless.
Should they even be allow to have a child?
 
jillio said:
Quite true. And in many cases, they are only doing what they know to do. They need education, not to have their child taken away from them.
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Should not they have an education BEFORE they have a child?
 
rolling7 said:
One question, since you are of opinion that these parents are helpless.
Should they even be allow to have a child?
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rolling7 said:
Should not they have an education BEFORE they have a child?
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What is the determining factor to use? BMI? Total weight? How old should the child be before it becomes a violation?

Always love to read your posts. Kind of like watching NASCAR for the wrecks. :wave:
 
saywhatkid said:
What is the determining factor to use? BMI? Total weight? How old should the child be before it becomes a violation?

Always love to read your posts. Kind of like watching NASCAR for the wrecks. :wave:
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I'm not a fan of using BMI to accurately arrive at a child's ideal weight. The reason being, the BMI is a tool used for adults. If you want to gauge an ideal weight for a child, plotting a growth chart for that specific child is best. The stats for this can be obtained from the child's pediatrician.
 
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Oceanbreeze said:
sequoias said:
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2 of our boys are normal weight but our daughter is a tad bit chubby but growing fast and we try our best to limit her food intake and make sure she gets plenty of exercise. The boys are too active!!!
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As long as she's active, let her eat! She is probably approaching puberty and NEEDS that extra body fact to launch her into puberty. As she grows older, she'll grow into her weight. By restricting her intake now, you could be doing great harm to her later on.
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Yeah.
 
shel90 said:
DeafCaroline said:
Teenaged boys are like vacuum cleaners - they inhale everything in sight! My food budget went out the window once my boys hit age 14, 15.

As for very obese kids - I think rather than taking them away from their parents...that their parents be mandated to take a class in nutrition so they can make smarter choices in food and learn to stop buying so much junk food - if they can't keep their kids out of the pantry then maybe they should stop buying chips, soda, cookies, pop tarts, etc etc etc. One can eat a lot without getting fat, it's WHAT they eat that counts, not how much.

When I was a kid, all we were allowed between meals were fruits and veggies like apples, celery, carrots...that was it! We would have dessert only once a week as a special treat. Otherwise it was just fruit after supper. I can't believe the crap parents buy nowadays that they think is real food and let their kids snack on sugar all day long and not make them eat their supper. I've had a few discussions with some parents about this and they think it's "cruel" not to let their kids snack on crap as if I was suggesting they deliberately starve them. That line of thinking drives me up the wall.[/QU
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Oh it drives me nuts too! Not just for eating issues but for letting their kids do what they want with no boundaries because the parents feel too guilty. Whenever some of my friends say that, I feel like shaking them. It is ridiculous! Afraid to discipline their kids because they feel bad. Tough luck on the kids!
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True that! They certainly aren't thinking about what the kid needs, but only what the parent wants and what is easiest for them.
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rolling7 said:
Should not they have an education BEFORE they have a child?
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What the hell are you talking about now? You can't mandate a person into parenting classes unless they are a parent.:roll:
 
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