Good point. A couple of the people who were nastiest also have the most relevant advice and the most targeted expertise in this area. I may object to their approach in getting that info out there, but always value it even if I have to choke down a bit, sometimes a whole lot of meanness.
The bulk of my objection is that all that nastiness is just not necessary, and a whole lot more people would be getting this message if it wasn't always delivered with and nearly obscured by so much crap. There's already enough crap parents of deaf kids have to wade through within the unenlightened world we operate in, seems less than effective to have to wade through it among people who really understand.
What nastiness? I haven't seen any. A mother bear is the epitome of nastiness, since she does not care who is the victim of her wrath.