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Anyone in a close relationship (marriage or living together) comes to depend on that other person. That's part of what marriage is about. I depend on my husband for lots of things; he depends on me for lots of things (good back-rubs, for instance).
It has nothing to do with feeling "helpless and insecure." Doesn't have anything to do with being hearing or deaf. It's about loving the person you're with and gradually, automatically, coming to depend on each other more and more.
If I couldn't depend on him in many, many ways, why would I want to be married to him? It all comes with the commitment.
no. not quite the same... see? you still keep equating it with something else. People marry each other for love and support. That's a normal healthy relationship. But there are some people out there who marry a very specific type of people because of their insecurity. That's not a normal healthy relationship.
Examples:
1. In America, Asian women prefer to marry white men because of higher social status and better financial security.
2. Deaf women prefer to marry a hearing man because she would feel nice & safe. He can hear intruders and baby crying. and he is more likely to have a stable-earning job than a deaf man. oh and perhaps for a higher social status too.
3. I think you get the picture.