Roommates from Hell!

Miss*Pinocchio said:
So when I went to CSUN, I pretended to have a bad back problem, I
was walking with a cane.... :naughty:
and hoping I get a single room and not have to pay double for that room,
but nope, I have to pay double for that room... dang!!!!
$600 a month, ack!!!!
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Ya know you could have gotten in trouble for that? if ya didn't, lucky! by the way, you shouldn't take advantage of that disability which you don't have.

You sound like you don't have a self-esteem, no self-confidence in yourself. Have you tried to talk to a friend or someone about your feelings? You seem kinda angry at the world or something.. just from what i've been reading in AD posts. I'm not trying to offend you but if you really do have a problem with yourself, perhaps you can find help? You'll feel better about yourself, get your self-esteem back. trust me, it'll work.
 
RebelGirl said:
Ya know you could have gotten in trouble for that? if ya didn't, lucky! by the way, you shouldn't take advantage of that disability which you don't have.

You sound like you don't have a self-esteem, no self-confidence in yourself. Have you tried to talk to a friend or someone about your feelings? You seem kinda angry at the world or something.. just from what i've been reading in AD posts. I'm not trying to offend you but if you really do have a problem with yourself, perhaps you can find help? You'll feel better about yourself, get your self-esteem back. trust me, it'll work.
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I just wanted to do whatever to not have terrible roommates,
roommates who would boss you around, tell you to clean that and this, while they don't do anything, and get you in trouble, or be in all in your business...
and have to share bathroom and stuff. I reallly wish that I can have a single
wroom and can afford it. That is all.

It is just that I am trying to move forward, but seem like the world
want to go backward.... like the 1960's and 1970's time....
I just want people to stop smoking, live a good life, forget about marriage and love relationship, leave the abusive past, and leave the burden behind, stop being gay, and have fun in life....

Lets all relax, have a party, stop carrying the baggage with ya, forget about sex, and just be happy....

But I think Heaven is the only place I can go to have that....
where there is PEACE all the time. I wish Earth is like Heaven, though.
 
I'm gonna pretend I am a lesbian, when I go out find job and stuff...
that way men won't bother me...
And if a lesbian likes me, I will give her a hard time.....
trying to shake her off so men won't find out I am straight.

but, gulp, I hope I don't get beat up by KKK member though.

I'm just trying to succeed in life without men....
cause if I be with a man now, what if I get pregnant
or get stuck with him, such as have to tell him where I am going
and what I am going to do.... then he might disagree with me or whatever.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
I just wanted to do whatever to not have terrible roommates,
roommates who would boss you around, tell you to clean that and this, while they don't do anything, and get you in trouble, or be in all in your business...
and have to share bathroom and stuff. I reallly wish that I can have a single
wroom and can afford it. That is all.

It is just that I am trying to move forward, but seem like the world
want to go backward.... like the 1960's and 1970's time....
I just want people to stop smoking, live a good life, forget about marriage and love relationship, leave the abusive past, and leave the burden behind, stop being gay, and have fun in life....

Lets all relax, have a party, stop carrying the baggage with ya, forget about sex, and just be happy....

But I think Heaven is the only place I can go to have that....
where there is PEACE all the time. I wish Earth is like Heaven, though.
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First of all, we can not live in the past. God plans for all of us to move forward..not backward. Yes, it would be nice if we live in heaven here on earth...since Adam and Eve have sinned..there is nothing we can do about it...satan has influenced and blinded the worldly people for sin.

I encourage you to stop focusing on other people's lives...focus on yourself. Im sorry to hear you have no ears..that breaks my heart to hear that.

I encourage you go seek some help immeadiately...go to mental health center...see doctor and counseling...its free but medicaid pays for it..I still go there...it is helping me alot...because I have mood swings, depression, cancer, etc...so they are helping me to deal with my issues.

You will become more insane if you dont get yourself help immeadiately...look at me...I went get some help for myself...

I ended up at mental hospital two years ago...I stayed there for a week..bez of suicidal thoughts...it was bad...but now...Im doing better...

I knew I needed help so I still go there every week for counseling...every month for doctor - medications...plus cancer care clinic every month..my medicaid pays for it all...I only pay medicines just for $1 at Walmart.

About your roomie issues...You should have told your roomie the truth...if you told her the truth...she wouldnt have gone to the RA and report it. Always be honest with yourself..always!

p.s. I know you are hurting inside...and Im sorry to see you hurting...especially having no ears..I understand perhaps you had men making fun of you not having ears? I know it hurts...It is okay to feel hurt and angry but it is not okay for you to be bitter...it will poison your physically...
 
I had experienced three different roomies back in college...when I lived in dorm that time...

My first roomie (hearing)...she was home sick..poor thing...so she had to leave and go home at the middle session of school in the fall...I had no problem with her at all...we got along great..

My second roomie (deaf)....She was new in the fall...I welcomed her...I tried everything to pleased her...she was difficult roomie...always jealous of me...got mad when guy calls me alot...I told her that reasons why I had more friends bez I was at college longer than her..she was new student...it took time to get to know everyone...

She was jealous freak! I told her that I wanted her out for the second semester...

My third roomie (CODA) was wonderful...funny, sense of humor...etc...but one time when I got back to college from home...she was wearing my clothes...it was no big deal to me...I was flexiable...we shared foods etc..we didnt ask each others permission...we were like sisters...

I live alone for a long time now...I never had roomates since the college back in 88-91...plus when I went to college again in 1996-1998..I lived with my parents...until I got married..then divorced...so I live alone since the divorced..also lived alone back in Missouri...

I dont want to have roomate at all..I like living alone...its so peaceful and privacy...:)
 
coloravalanche said:
First of all, we can not live in the past. God plans for all of us to move forward..not backward. Yes, it would be nice if we live in heaven here on earth...since Adam and Eve have sinned..there is nothing we can do about it...satan has influenced and blinded the worldly people for sin.

I encourage you to stop focusing on other people's lives...focus on yourself. Im sorry to hear you have no ears..that breaks my heart to hear that.

I encourage you go seek some help immeadiately...go to mental health center...see doctor and counseling...its free but medicaid pays for it..I still go there...it is helping me alot...because I have mood swings, depression, cancer, etc...so they are helping me to deal with my issues.

You will become more insane if you dont get yourself help immeadiately...look at me...I went get some help for myself...

I ended up at mental hospital two years ago...I stayed there for a week..bez of suicidal thoughts...it was bad...but now...Im doing better...

I knew I needed help so I still go there every week for counseling...every month for doctor - medications...plus cancer care clinic every month..my medicaid pays for it all...I only pay medicines just for $1 at Walmart.

About your roomie issues...You should have told your roomie the truth...if you told her the truth...she wouldnt have gone to the RA and report it. Always be honest with yourself..always!

p.s. I know you are hurting inside...and Im sorry to see you hurting...especially having no ears..I understand perhaps you had men making fun of you not having ears? I know it hurts...It is okay to feel hurt and angry but it is not okay for you to be bitter...it will poison your physically...
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I am going seeking counseling, but my counselor said I am okay...
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
I am going seeking counseling, but my counselor said I am okay...
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Miss P, When I lived in another state...I was seeking counseling...she told me that I was okay...she was wrong about that!

So now, I have the best counselor and still sees her every week...she knew that I need help...

I believe it is possible that your counselor wasnt being honest with you...:dunno: but perhaps you might want to seek a better counseling...
 
I am okay... I am just being BAD!!!! That what my counselor said.
I just need someone to SPANK ME!!!!
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
I am okay... I am just being BAD!!!! That what my counselor said.
I just need someone to SPANK ME!!!!
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I've had 14 roommates in the past 7 years and only 2 of them I would say were true pains in the ass.

One of them was very violent when he was drunk and liked to vandalize things. I walked in on him beating his girlfriend up, and knocked him the fuck out when he told me it wasn't my business. I moved out the next semester.

The other one is a very dear friend of mine who was often lenient with rent, but that was because he liked Colombian nose candy ... LOTS of it!

Instead of looking at it as "my food" or "your food" we went grocery shopping together 2x/month often shared our food. In fact, we rotated nights to cook. I had Monday and they had Tue, Wed, Thur. Fri-Sunday we took care of ourselves but usually had breakfast together on Sunday mornings & worked out issues with each other at that time.

I think the reason why things worked so well between us is because we treated each other like family instead of "roommates." Remember, family members are pains in the ass too, but you love them so you learn to work things out.

As far as privacy goes, we worked it out so that if someone was in the room having sex with their girlfriend, they would hang a rubber band in the doorknob. Jerking off was strictly forbidden and only allowed in the bathroom -- that's where the lotion is anyway. :lol:
 
I really like better living with roommate who isn't neat.

But it is stupid when housing staff won't let me move many time...
because I hate cold air, I like eating and watching tv in bedroom, I want to study quietly and sleep quietly.

I see why many people divorce because of living arrangement.
 
How to Get Along With a Female Roommate
Living alone isn't always cost-effective. Living with a roommate, however, can drain your sanity. You can't afford to live alone and don't want to move back home. The thought of living with a roommate makes you uncomfortable. Here are some ways to make it easier.

Steps:
1. Communicate openly with your roommate. Agree to talk about issues before they get out of control.

2. Accept that sometimes people will be in a bad mood. If she says she doesn't want to go do something with you, don't take it personally. Give him plenty of space.

3. Decide early how the rent and utilities will be split, and what to do if one person can't make the month's payments.

4. Establish rules about food, company, chores, noise, tobacco and alcohol use, and parking. Make sure each person's expectations and responsibilities are clear.

5. Respect your roommate's right to privacy and her possessions. Always ask before you borrow anything, no matter how small.

6. Knock before entering her room.

7. Don't tie up the only phone line ' consider getting separate lines for each of you.

8. Take messages from callers. Get the name and phone number and write it down where your roommate will see it.

9. Begin your statements with "I," as in "I get really annoyed when you leave your dishes in the sink" instead of "You're such a pig!" Or, "I get really annoyed when you leave your shoes on the couch" instead of "You're a complete slob!" Focus on his behavior, not him personally.

10. Recognize that some people are neater, louder, more private, or more possessive than others. Don't expect your roommate to mirror your own personality.

11. Treat her the way you expect to be treated.

12. Don't lie. If you screw up, admit it immediately.



Show your appreciation for your roommate's courtesy once in a while. Go out of your way once in a while to do something nice for your roommate.

Don't walk around the house in your underwear.


Be super-clean
A lot of fights will revolve around resentment that one person is doing more in the way of cleaning than the other. It's just easier to avoid all these fights by doing more than your share and being super anal retentive in common/shared areas of the apartment and/or dorm room. Never leave dirty dishes by the sink even if the other roommate does. Never leave your personal stuff in common areas.


Look at your own behavior. Are you infringing on the rights of others?

Be honest. Being straightforward and direct can help resolve and prevent problems.

Do not let things build up. Address problems as they happen. Use assertiveness training to help in making appropriate requests for behavior change from a roommate.

If you have requested the roommate to change his/her behavior, give him/her a chance to change. Thank them for making attempts to change. This will be more effective than continually harping on them.

Be flexible about your roommate's lifestyle. It may not be the same as yours, but as long as he is not hurting himself or others do not try to impose your will on the person. If it is something that is bothersome, talk about it and get the other person's point of view. If a person's lifestyle is still causing too much strife, it is probably time to go separate ways.

Don't get taken advantage of. Be assertive when you think your roommate is making demands that are unreasonable. If you don't, you will build up resentment and the relationship will turn sour.

Agree to disagree. Even the best relationships will hit bad times. When there are points of disagreement in the roommate relationship, sometimes you have to agree to disagree. If it is an item that is too personal or bothersome, you may need to look for a different place.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
no use this, this looks painless...

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I am laughing because I have never seen a belt looking like that! It looks like a novice (inexperienced) belt maker made this.

Back on topic....no I never had a bad roommate either.
 
Roomies from Hell?

I'm lauffing cuz my new living arrangement with my ex-boss from my old part-time job has been going along so WELL the last 2 months! I guess the reason for our being smooth sailing is because we both have separate BUSY lives that we often are out of the house more times than we are at the home!

When it comes to paying rent and bills on time I just give her the payment and ask her to sign the calendar I keep in the kitchen that I marked "x month paid" on the date I pay the rent. Even though we trust each other, I decided to use the calendar as an substitute for receipts to help us keep track of the household expenses. We both have separate food cabinets and it helps that she's a vegetarian and I'm always bringing in fast food for my dinner since I'm a LOUSY cook!

Cleaning and yardwork done? we get together sometimes to work on the backyard garden when we can get time on our hands. I just handle the mowing myself and help clean the house from time to time.
 
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