Restraining order against legal age boyfriend for minor daughter

[Mookie]

I'm sorry but I won't discuss this issue with you any farther, I have my own view on how I see this as well as you do too, we don't have to agree, but can we at least respect each others views and leave it to that?..

I thought so....

 

[Mookie]

This link explains better.

http://www.alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=25565


It will likely reduce teen. preggies if the parents talk sexual openly with their children. That´s why the teenagers go wrong crowd and experiment their curiously in wrong way because their parents did not positive something to them.

That´s why I allow my children to watch sex and sex responsible etc... (I doesn´t mean sex porn. but sexual responsblies). See this link...

One down one to go....

Liebling, this has nothing to do with 100% sexual discussion.

Hmm, let me approach an alternative for your thread. (Angel, I am not going to apologize for the sake of my daughter in future. Get your head out of the sand, Ostrich).

I am sure that many fathers especially mothers of daughters would agree about getting RO against the young lad as a rotten apple from the shiny apple barrel. As I said in my early post, I would investigate any gentleman’s background before approval for the date.

I am sure that my daughter would obtain some sexual info before starting to date with a lad.

If the gentleman is not good person, he as a devil boy brainwash my daughter that he is so innocent. He butters up her to believe him against her father’s wishs.

The best solution is to recieve a RO against him.

Liebling, what is your final result?

 

[Angel]

One down one to go....

You know something Mookie, sometimes I just wish you would be a bit more kind

 

[Mookie]

You know something Mookie, sometimes I just wish you would be a bit more kind

I can't help it. I only concern of my daughter's life....

No hard feeling....

 

[Angel]

I can't help it. I only concern of my daughter's life....

No hard feeling....

I understand Mookie, but do whatever you feel is right as a father, I don't expect you to listen or follow my own view here, but it would be nice if you had approach this in a different way, then maybe I would have understood and help you there....


But this story isn't about your daughter that Liebling posted, so I respond to what she posted in this thread, not about your daugther since I don't know much about your situation with her, so I can't speak for that

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Liebling, what is your final result?

[/QUOTE]

Here is my answer to your question.

One down one to go....

Liebling, this has nothing to do with 100% sexual discussion.

I only provided the link about sexual discussion because you brought this subject in your early post.

Mookie´s post
So that means 16 years old daughter is gonna to be preg. Then she lost her bright future for higher education and career. Guess what? 18 years old mtker is gonna to escape and move out of state or country....

I am sure that many fathers especially mothers of daughters would agree about getting RO against the young lad as a rotten apple from the shiny apple barrel. As I said in my early post, I would investigate any gentleman’s background before approval for the date.

I am sure that my daughter would obtain some sexual info before starting to date with a lad.

If the gentleman is not good person, he as a devil boy brainwash my daughter that he is so innocent. He butters up her to believe him against her father’s wishs.

Most fathers (I would say mothers as well) overreacted, overprotected and overparented daughters than sons. It lead phobia disorder/paraniod personiality disorder if the children are being overprotected and reject by their parents a lot. It´s no good.

Worst is when they learn that their daughters have boyfriends. Yes I know the parents tried their best but it could be annoy for the children because the parents give their children feeling that they have no trust toward them. It´s bad that there´re no trust bond relationship between them.

The best solution is to recieve a RO against him.

It doesn´t solve anything but worst. Your daughter will disrespect/rebel against you.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Oh really?

What if mother of Tracy wants to protect her daughter's life from Buck Thurman.

I strongly recommand you to watch new TNT movie. That's how he lost his daughter that he still never trusted that lad.

I wait for your reply....

Remember Tracy was not minor that´s time she met Buck.

 

[Cheri]

I agree with the mother, my reasons are simple, The mother is legally responsible for her until she is 18, The boyfriend is 18, She is 16 and still a minor. She also stated that her daughter already brought plane ticket to fly with her boyfriend who is 18, I wouldn't like that idea not one bit. She also stated that her daughter's boyfriend wouldn't even allowing her to have friends, That sounds controlling to me, I wouldn't trust him with her, because there a possibility that it would lead to verbally abusive and then led to physical abuse. Would I wanna live with that? No way! I would done the same thing that mother is doing to her daughter get restraining orders. What the mother is doing is the right thing, she is only looking out for her daughter's welfare, and protecting her from possibly of harm.


I apology but I disagree with Liebling and Angel and who ever disagree with the mother.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

my reasons are simple, The mother is legally responsible for her until she is 18,

Sure

The boyfriend is 18, She is 16 and still a minor.

I´m agree with mother´s post. 2 years difference is not too huge.

mother´s post
I will repeat that their age difference is not an issue with me; he is 19 and she is almost 17, that's not so huge a difference.

She also stated that her daughter already brought plane ticket to fly with her boyfriend who is 18, I wouldn't like that idea not one bit.

Where have she say ? because I didn´t find it.

All what she stated is:

mother´s post
She is with him every waking minute and is refusing to go on a four day trip to visit her grandmother whom she'd agreed to go see, the plane ticket is already bought, but he doesn't want her to go, and she asked what I would do if she refused to go and I said I'd look into restraining orders.
That's why I posted the question.

mother´s post
I was inquiring about restraining orders because my daughter was refusing to obey me by going on a 4 day trip to visit her grandmother that she had agreed to, and then was trying to back out on at the last minute, after her
grandmother had already bought the plane ticket, taken off from work,
and made plans for the visit. My daughter would not accept the fact
that she was being very rude to consider cancelling at the last
minute, just because she and her boyfriend didn't want to be apart
for 4 short days.

The reason is I disagree with mother because it´s blackmail and threat what she did to her daughter.

She should sit patience and have a good talk with her daughter instead of get RO to keep away from her boyfriend because she don´t like her daugher listen her boyfriend for not want her to go away for 4 days trip to see her Grandma.

She also stated that her daughter's boyfriend wouldn't even allowing her to have friends, That sounds controlling to me, I wouldn't trust him with her, because there a possibility that it would lead to verbally abusive and then led to physical abuse. Would I wanna live with that? No way! I would done the same thing that mother is doing to her daughter get restraining orders. What the mother is doing is the right thing, she is only looking out for her daughter's welfare, and protecting her from possibly of harm.

How do mother know that her daughter´s boyfriend control her? It´s HER who control her daughter and suspect something wrong about her daughter, not daughter´s boyfriend.

See what her daughter stated:

daughter´s post
ok, ok, I am 16 and my bf is 18. We have been dating for over a year
and I love him to death. My family members dont like him very much,
but that doesnt change the way I feel about him. Some people see him,
also, as controlling but that is their perspective, not mine. I see
him in a completely different way, as the person I love and always
will love. We are planning to move in together at some point or
another.

Age shouldnt be a factor in this, maybe if it was like 4 years or
something, but 2 is hardly anything to worry about considering guys
are mentally an average of 3 years more immature than their age. If
someone tried to tell me to break up with him I would tell them to
fuck off pretty much and let me make my own choices, dont be a
controlling mother. If he hits her or abuses her in any other way then
you can step in, but dont try to put a restraining order on him
because YOU dont like him, hes not your bf.. is he?

I apology but I disagree with Liebling and Angel and who ever disagree with the mother.

awww No problem to have you to disagree with me...

 

[Mookie]

I agree with the mother, my reasons are simple, The mother is legally responsible for her until she is 18, The boyfriend is 18, She is 16 and still a minor. She also stated that her daughter already brought plane ticket to fly with her boyfriend who is 18, I wouldn't like that idea not one bit. She also stated that her daughter's boyfriend wouldn't even allowing her to have friends, That sounds controlling to me, I wouldn't trust him with her, because there a possibility that it would lead to verbally abusive and then led to physical abuse. Would I wanna live with that? No way! I would done the same thing that mother is doing to her daughter get restraining orders. What the mother is doing is the right thing, she is only looking out for her daughter's welfare, and protecting her from possibly of harm.


I apology but I disagree with Liebling and Angel and who ever disagree with the mother.

Finally, about time that somebody truly asserted...
Thanks, Cheri.

Liebling, you are completely wrong. Every parent is responsible for every child since he/she is still under legal age. Liebling, did you follow your parents’ rules, or were you a rebellious daughter who could come home late at 3AM?

 

[Mookie]

Remember Tracy was not minor that´s time she met Buck.

Not again...you easily misundertood my post. I said, "What if". OH boy, you surely sound like Angel..

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Liebling, you are completely wrong. Every parent is responsible for every child since he/she is still under legal age.

I already responsed Cheri´s post saying that I´m agree that we parents are responsible for our children until 18 years old.

Liebling, did you follow your parents’ rules, or were you a rebellious daughter who could come home late at 3AM?

There´re no comparision between parent´s rule with RO against legal boyfriend of minor daughter what I create a thread here. If you talk about parent´s rule then create a new thread.

It´s not about rules, the parents make for her daughter but threat and blackmail.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Not again...you easily misundertood my post. I said, "What if". OH boy, you surely sound like Angel..

I know you speak about Tracy´s mother. I understood you prefect.

You showed us about Tracy´s situation. I only said that Tracey was not minor that´s time she met him.

Now you said "What if". How could mother know Tracy´s boyfriend is violence? Tracey would of not marry him in first place if she know he is a volinece. Right? (I didn´t know much about Tracy´s life but Angel will mail the DVD with Region 2 to me then I will know more).

 

[Mookie]

Most fathers (I would say mothers as well) overreacted, overprotected and overparented daughters than sons. It lead phobia disorder/paraniod personiality disorder if the children are being overprotected and reject by their parents a lot. It´s no good.

That's exactly why you are not the mother of any daughter. One of the day you will understand your daughter with your own blood. Are you an expert in the field of daughterhood? Although you have forgotten that you already grew up as a sweet innocent daughter? You in your sweet age are very fortunately that you never had any dreadful experience from any wicked man.

Worst is when they learn that their daughters have boyfriends. Yes I know the parents tried their best but it could be annoy for the children because the parents give their children feeling that they have no trust toward them. It´s bad that there´re no trust bond relationship between them.

Daughters need to learn to trust their fathers/mothers instead of new relationships with young lads like horny dogs. Naturally, parents are their own duty to protect their underage daugthers. What is the big deal for two more years reach on their legal age at 18 years old. Daughters need to be patience.

It doesn´t solve anything but worst. Your daughter will disrespect/rebel against you.

Really? I wonder there is a neighbor down on your street who has a public record for the child molester charges.

Liebling,

If you are a judge in the courtroom, would you grant the mother's RO against the legal gentlman for the sake of young lady in your hands? All you have to follow the law not your plain silly opinion. I thought you already believe in pyschology studies instead of any reglion?

 

[Liebling:-)))]

That's exactly why you are not the mother of any daughter. One of the day you will understand your daughter with your own blood. Are you an expert in the field of daughterhood? Although you have forgotten that you already grew up as a sweet innocent daughter? You in your sweet age are very fortunately that you never had any dreadful experience from any wicked man.

For your information, I treat different sex children equal, no matter what. Its about trust bond relationship. I have many friends who have daughters. Most of my friends in England and Germany allow their daughters and sons go oversea with their girl/boyfriends at age 17. It´s about trust. My first abroad with my friend when I was 17 years old. I thank my Grandma for her trust.

Of course I worry about my sons safety. I don´t want to be paraniod, overprotect, overparent to my children but want their trust.

How do you know about my childhood? Did I tell you that my childhood was happy one and never being abuse in my life?

Daughters need to learn to trust their fathers/mothers instead of new relationships with young lads like horny dogs. Naturally, parents are their own duty to protect their underage daugthers. What is the big deal for two more years reach on their legal age at 18 years old. Daughters need to be patience.

Really? I wonder there is a neighbor down on your street who has a public record for the child molester charges.

Do you want to hear my opinion to this?

Liebling,

If you are a judge in the courtroom, would you grant the mother's RO against the legal gentlman for the sake of young lady in your hands? All you have to follow the law not your plain silly opinion.

Your answer makes no sense to me. Trust relationship with my children is mainly matter to me than worry about legal.

I thought you already believe in pyschology studies instead of any reglion?

Yes, I am.

That´s why I create a thread here.

 

[Mookie]

I am not really replying to a message, but I could not see how to post. My question is legal age of sexual - dating consent. My daughter is 16 she has been dating a boy for 4 months who was 18 or so my husband and I thought. I found his social security # with his real name, did not match what we were told. I had someone do a background check on him with this information. It turns out he turned 22 last Nov. 04 He has an FBI file with numbers on it and alias names. I was told by one of my older daughters friends who know this guy there are warrents out for his arrest. My 16 yr old will not tell me where he is. I confronted my 16 yr old daughter on his age and she knew all along. They have been sexually intimate. She has now also contracted genital herpes. This was her first sexual experiance with a MAN. My problem is I cannot keep her away from him. She claims it is legal by her being 16. She also has health problems Cystic Fibrosis. She is too busy sneaking out with this 22 yr old and not taking care of herself, meds,treatments, and lung clearance. Her health is failing. We live in Connecticut. Does anyone know if this is legal? We are trying not to get on her too much as we don't want to lose her completley. Any ideas anyone? Help! Thank you

Perfect! I found the article for you, Liebling. If you are mother of 16 years old daughter, would you report to police department?

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Can you provide me link/source to this? I need to read full first before answer...

 

[Audiofuzzy]

When Mookie asked WHAT IF, it means WHAT IF

stop making excuses oh Tracy's mother dead, oh Tracy's was legal age, Tracy this Tracy's that because that is NOT the POINT!

the question is for your IMAGINATION!

Whe Mookie asks WHAT IF TRACY'S MOTHER GOT RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST Tracy's then boyfriend, BEFORE he became her husband, what would HAVE happen?

And YOU are supposed to GUESS what would happen.

So, come on, what do you think would happen?


Mookie´s post
So that means 16 years old daughter is gonna to be preg. Then she lost her bright future for higher education and career. Guess what? 18 years old mtker is gonna to escape and move out of state or country....

First of all what kind of man is encouraging 16 year old unexperienced girl that should STAY IN SCHOOL, respect her parents, be taken care of by HER PARENTs etc to leave her family and go the hell knows where with him? how is he gonna support her and what kind of future is he providing for her??

Moreover, considering that he is still 18 himself what about HIS education, HIS prospects for future??,
what is he gonna do, work odd jobs supporting both of them, drink beer on weekends from his measly wages and after a time go look for another woman?
where the 16 y old will be then?

No matter how open the sexual talk from the parents, it MAY NOT prevent a 16 year old girl from getting pregnant with an 18 years old man.


And in that aspect Mookie is very toughtful! she is predicting possible future.


The parents might be at fault too but no man should remove 16 years old girl form her parents.

Fuzzy

 

[GalaxyAngel]

I'd rather not given permission for my daughter goes w/Man who is 18 yrs old..
Sorry My daughter you have to wait til 18 yrs old over whatever your choice..
IF suppose 18 yrs old and under.. Sorry You have to stay firm w/us!

For my reason protection sake my daughter's welfare safety!

 

[Mookie]

Can you provide me link/source to this? I need to read full first before answer...

Nice try. First, you have to provide me your answer then I will provide you a link...